Stay out of it?

[Anonymous]

My husband's twin sister used to be AWFUL to me. One day DH and I put our foot down and had nothing to do with her for quite a while. I mean AWFUL AWFUL like going on and on about how my father in law wouldn't go to my baby shower because I wasn't his daughter. Sure, that's plenty mean by itself but I had just had a miscarriage and she was well aware. All of this being said at the baby shower I was throwing for her. Lots of instances as bad or worse than this that made us finally cut her out for a while. His dad got sick and asked us to give her another chance. We did. She has a new sister in law now and she's now mean to that sister in law. Only difference being she at least was mean to my face. She tells anyone who will listen that her new sister in law is awful and will be an awful mom etc. I'm tempted to say something but another part of me says stay out of it.

[Anonymous]

ADDED- I volunteered to do newborn pictures for her sister in law. My sister in law isn't pleased to say the least. Should I bail to avoid drama within the family? I just feel bad doing that.

[Anonymous]

Stay out of it and let her big mouth speak for itself. It always does - at which point, it will get back to you, and you and everyone els can have a good laugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stay out of it and let her big mouth speak for itself. It always does - at which point, it will get back to you, and you and everyone els can have a good laugh.

Did you read my previous comment? Should I bail on the newborn pictures?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stay out of it and let her big mouth speak for itself. It always does - at which point, it will get back to you, and you and everyone els can have a good laugh.

Did you read my previous comment? Should I bail on the newborn pictures?

NO! Why should your other SIL suffer?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stay out of it and let her big mouth speak for itself. It always does - at which point, it will get back to you, and you and everyone els can have a good laugh.

Did you read my previous comment? Should I bail on the newborn pictures?

NO! Why should your other SIL suffer?

I know it sounds terrible to even consider it, I just have to deal with my own sister in law's wrath. Leaving all of my inlaws dealing with the same. I volunteered as I'm taking newborn photography courses and didn't realize it would be a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stay out of it and let her big mouth speak for itself. It always does - at which point, it will get back to you, and you and everyone els can have a good laugh.

Did you read my previous comment? Should I bail on the newborn pictures?

NO! Why should your other SIL suffer?

Also, she's not my other sister in law. She's my sister in law's brother's wife.

[Anonymous]

Of course you shouldn't bail on the photos. You made a.committment. Don't let you life be controlled by some petty B. Who cares if your SIL is pissed. Let her moan about it. She sounds like a miserable person, so if it's not this it'll be something else she decides you've done wrong. Just ignore her

[Anonymous]

I’d still do the pictures. You’re allowed to have a relationship with people separate from your SIL and I’d tell her as much if she says anything about it.

[Anonymous]

I would only say something to new SIL if her life might really be affected by this (for example if old SIL says new SIL is cheating on her husband, or she's an addict; rumors that could affect her marriage or job).

Otherwise, all you and your husband need to do is calmly shut her down when she says mean thing in front of you.

And definitely do the photos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stay out of it and let her big mouth speak for itself. It always does - at which point, it will get back to you, and you and everyone els can have a good laugh.

Did you read my previous comment? Should I bail on the newborn pictures?

NO! Why should your other SIL suffer?

Also, she's not my other sister in law. She's my sister in law's brother's wife.

(By your description, she is indeed your sister-in-law. Or she's you.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stay out of it and let her big mouth speak for itself. It always does - at which point, it will get back to you, and you and everyone els can have a good laugh.

Did you read my previous comment? Should I bail on the newborn pictures?

NO! Why should your other SIL suffer?

Also, she's not my other sister in law. She's my sister in law's brother's wife.

(By your description, she is indeed your sister-in-law. Or she's you.)

She is her husband’s brother’s wife. In no way related to me. Make sense now?

[Anonymous]

No don't bail, you and this other woman now have the common bond of having your SIL be mean to you. You may need this support one day.

[Anonymous]

You have an easy case here, compared to the stealth haters some of us get as relatives.

Everyone understands that your SIL is an idiot. So you don't need to do anything except avoid her as much as possible, OP. She's the one looking foolish all the time, you just need to appear as if you're taking the high road.

So live your life, do the photos with the other person if you want, just BE HAPPY and stop thinking about this miserable individual. It's the best revenge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stay out of it and let her big mouth speak for itself. It always does - at which point, it will get back to you, and you and everyone els can have a good laugh.

Did you read my previous comment? Should I bail on the newborn pictures?

NO! Why should your other SIL suffer?

Also, she's not my other sister in law. She's my sister in law's brother's wife.

(By your description, she is indeed your sister-in-law. Or she's you.)

OP's mean sister-in-law is OP's husband's brother's wife. Let's call her Amy. The other SIL OP is referencing is Amy's brother's wife. So no relation to OP.