For those that transitioned from FwB/hookup to relationship

[Anonymous]

How long did the transition take? What were the initial signs you saw that the dynamic was changing?

[Anonymous]

Woman here. He started taking longer and longer to leave my place and started trying to hang out, such as having brunch after our hang outs. I never wanted him as more than a NSA hookup, but I was between boyfriends so I let him promote himself to my “boyfriend” while I kept any eye out for the right guy. When I found my now-husband, I ditched my FWB-turned-boyfriend. My FWB took it hard, but I was just never all that into my FWB.

All of this is to say there’s a reason you’re FWBs. If you try to deepen things, it might happen, but that there is a reason for that initial hesitance and it will still be there. Odds are any relationship won’t last. Start over with a man who took you seriously from day one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woman here. He started taking longer and longer to leave my place and started trying to hang out, such as having brunch after our hang outs. I never wanted him as more than a NSA hookup, but I was between boyfriends so I let him promote himself to my “boyfriend” while I kept any eye out for the right guy. When I found my now-husband, I ditched my FWB-turned-boyfriend. My FWB took it hard, but I was just never all that into my FWB.

All of this is to say there’s a reason you’re FWBs. If you try to deepen things, it might happen, but that there is a reason for that initial hesitance and it will still be there. Odds are any relationship won’t last. Start over with a man who took you seriously from day one.

OP here. Not 100% sure he is trying to transition, but he is lingering longer and doing some stuff he use to not. We both have expressed interest in the past, but at different points in time.

I hear you on if the relationship would work. He is someone that really doesn’t date/very independent. However, I am not exactly Ms. Relationship. I have had three boyfriends in my adult life (longest being a 1.5 years). My last relationship was 11 months with a ‘relationship-minded’ guy and went on longer than it should have. I felt so smoothered. It’s been 5 months since we broke up and I am know considering getting back to dating. I am just rambling at this I point, but I do wonder if it could work because we are similar/get each other better or completely blow up because we are both too independent.

[Anonymous]

Took a few months. The big sign was inviting me out to a party with his close friends who were mostly coupled up. I went and he treated me like a date, not just a friend. I went with it. We had a really good relationship but ultimately ended because we were different religions and his family wanted him to marry Jewish.

[Anonymous]

I had one in college. I thought we were exclusive. Starting having sex after a month. A month later she went out with another guy. So I started dating others as well. My FWB lasted 2 years until I found dw

[Anonymous]

He introduced me to his daughter and then he met my kids. No conversation was ever had but we spent more time together and then it blew up—because he was dating someone else. We are now very good friends but do things with our kids and friends/never alone as that seems a bit risky.

[Anonymous]

I had one for over a year in college. She starting liking me, but I could not look past the casual sex. ( I was her 3rd FWB). Eventually, I found another and FWB got jeleous and we ended it. I married my GF. My ex FWB was a 30 yo FWB of a 40+ yo divorce guy I know a couple years ago. She is still unmarried I hear.

[Anonymous]

Any successful transitions? As in you ended up with each other?

[Anonymous]

Yes, it can happen and has happened. But don’t get hopeful.