Newlywed and depressed
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Anonymous
| I am so depressed. I dislike my in laws and do not fit in with the family. We have such different values. I feel so sad. |
Anonymous
| This shouldn't be news. Also, there is no such thing as not fitting in. The question is how will you fit in unless you plan to always avoid them. So, you have to figure out how you are going to make that happen. |
Anonymous
| It sucks that he didn't let you meet his family until after the wedding |
Anonymous
| Consider getting a divorce. I am serious. I regret not getting out when I felt this way. |
Anonymous
+1 
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Anonymous
| Post wedding letdown is kind of inevitable. Did you have a big wedding? |
Anonymous
| Why did you get married? The in laws can’t be a new thing. |
Anonymous
So you don't want any of their money? |
Anonymous
| These responses are ridiculous. Whenever you join a new community, especially one that you’ve committed to, those feelings naturally arise.. Focus on loving your husband and trying to see the good in the people who cared for him for 18+ years. |
Anonymous
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If you have different values to your new husband then that is something to be depressed about. If you just don't fit in with your in-laws, what's to be depressed about that.
A lot of people don't and make it work. Just enjoy your marriage, you don't get this time back. Enjoy your husband, enjoy your marriage, travel, go out with friends. Don't let your in-laws suck the life out of you, not worth it. |
Anonymous
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Maybe the inlaws are not sucking the life out of this woman? Maybe she is a depressed person and needs medication? That's all.
Regardless of the situation, people have their own capacity for feeling miserable. OP may be the person who is always miserable. She should get medication and therapy because she is now in a position to completely muck/f*uck her DH's happiness too. |
Anonymous
| Where’s OP? Dropped a grenade and then ran. No details? |
Anonymous
| Do you live w your in-laws? |
Anonymous
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Op, I cried on my wedding night.
And spent years convincing myself that others didn’t like their spouses & were just better at faking it. Then- I realized that a lot of marriages are great. Just not mine. Don’t hit the panic button- but most folks don’t feel this way. |