Any good books for parent of lesbian daughter?
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Anonymous
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I've done a couple of searches on the net but haven't come up with much.
I'm hoping to find a book that helps me understand my teen DD as gay, her relationships with other women, etc. She has had a couple of girlfriends and they seem to be very serious very quickly- not a casual dating stage more like being together during all of their free time after meeting on day 1. Being straight, I don't quite understand the dynamic of wanting to be with women. I'm not disapproving, I just want a little insight on what to expect. I look at my DD and her girlfriends and it reminds me a lot of what I had with my best friend at that age (without the physical component). I also want to get a sense on how she should approach college- she will be going in the fall and do most lgbt kids look to live with other kids that are gay? I'd love a good book for parents that is current and relevant today. Thanks. |
Anonymous
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My lesbian DD is a bit younger than yours, but I feel confident in saying that there isn’t a monolithic LGBTQ teen or young adult experience. Sexual identity is oddly actually less important in some ways than it was a generation earlier. My DD and her friends wouldn’t want to live with someone homophobic, but that goes for her straight friends as well as the queer ones.
I think the best advice you’ll get is from talking directly to your daughter. What kind of dating life and dorm experience does she want? It’s an old stereotype that lesbians bring a Uhaul on the second date. I know more than one lesbian who has an active dating life with no rush to couple up. Meanwhile, my older straight DD and SS have both only had a series of fast, intense relationships rather than dating around. It is more the norm in their social circles to couple up quickly than to hook up a lot or even just date casually. Some of what you’re seeing might be age-related rather than sexual identity. |
Anonymous
| Instead of a book, I would suggest contacting your local PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) Chapter: https://pflag.org/find-a-chapter |