Do you believe people who say they don’t know when someone is hitting on them?

[Anonymous]

Say anyone over age 25. I just find it laughable when people claim they don’t know if a man/woman is flirting with them. Tend to think they are fishing for compliments.

[Anonymous]

I sort of feel like men think women are hitting on them when they’re not, and women are more likely to be oblivious. Some of it has to do with whether you’re attentive to those signals. I’m married and wear a ring and assume a man isn’t hitting on me. I think I’ve probably been wrong a few times, anyway.

[Anonymous]

You're forgetting us Aspie and socially clueless folk.

Some of us truly don't know, and the others genuinely wonder whether they're being hit on or not and can't be sure.


Moral: stop believing every human thinks like you.

[Anonymous]

I genuinely have no clue if someone is interested in me. I’m not great with picking up signals. At the same time I’m a kind person si if you talk to me I’ll talk to you, but to some that is flirting.

[Anonymous]

Somewhat similar to the PP- I think I give off more of an “interested” vibe because I genuinely care what people are telling me and tend to be engaged in conversations. Meanwhile, if a guy is being too subtle, I legit have zero clue he’s hitting on me. I think I just wasn’t trained to assume that/ pick up on those specific signals, really. I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt, perhaps too much.

[Anonymous]

Yes, because I'm one of those people who doesn't realize it until it goes uncomfortably far or a friend tells me that's what's happening.

If you're not on the lookout for it (I'm not) and you're not vain (I'm sometimes vain about my brains but not my looks) then I don't think you're always going to notice.

[Anonymous]

I can't tell because I talk to people -- including men -- easily, but despite that, I am rarely asked out. I am average looking and not thin but I can shop in regular stores, so I guess that's it.

[Anonymous]

It’s been scientifically proven that men are more likely to wrongly believe a woman is hitting on him. And women are more likely to not notice a man hitting on her. The probable reasons for this phenomenon is the gender libido gap: men want sex more than women. So it’s beficial for a man to err on the side of “she wants me” whereas for a woman the opposite.

[Anonymous]

Except my DH. Women flirt with him and he thinks they are just being nice. Totally clueless that these women are making themselves available to him. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

I talk to anyone and everyone if they have something interesting to say. I enjoy talking to people. It never crosses my mind that a man is hitting on me.

[Anonymous]

I really don’t know if a guy is being nice and friendly or if he’s for flirting. I always guess wrong. At the same time I hav been accused of flirting when I was just being nice and found someone interesting to talk with.

[Anonymous]

Agree with most of these posts. I’m friendly and tend to think that others are too. I’m not great at flirting and can’t pick when others are flirting with me.

[Anonymous]

I have no clue. I’ve been married a long time so haven’t functioned in the dating world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't tell because I talk to people -- including men -- easily, but despite that, I am rarely asked out. I am average looking and not thin but I can shop in regular stores, so I guess that's it.

What does this mean? Regular stores carry sizes up to 18, but I am trying to understand how it's relevant?

[Anonymous]

I think it's an acquired skill. Unless you're attractive enough to get hit on a lot, most of us do not have enough practices to know for sure whether someone is flirting.The flirting is almost always subtle for fear of outright rejection. So, I believe when people say they don't know.