Don't be mad....don't be mad.... don't be mad....

[Anonymous]

Help me not be mad. I'm sick as a dog, hoping to relax a little more than usual on Christmas. I barrelled through the presents this morning, trying to keep it together, but I asked/sort of begged my husband to help out more today than he normally does because I'm just not feeling well. I usually "handle" Christmas because he didn't grow up celebrating it.

And he just threw his back out. He's holed up in the bedroom.

I logically know I can't be mad at him, but I'm so mad at the situation.

Sigh....

[Anonymous]

What specific tasks need to be done

[Anonymous]

I don’t get it: it’s the holidays. Why can’t you just relax?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get it: it’s the holidays. Why can’t you just relax?

This. What’s to be mad at? Are you supposed to stack cinderblocks today or something?

[Anonymous]

Not sure what there is to be mad about. Both of you are hurt/sick so just relax and enjoy family time. Nothing needs to be done.

[Anonymous]

It's not just about feeding the kids, getting their toys operating, getting dinner going, etc. I can scrap any special dinner for sure, which I will, but they still need to eat. But it's also that he's now holed up in the bedroom. He just came out, grabbed food and went back in the bedroom. So I'm essentially the only operating parent. And I'm sick. Sorry, I know I sound like a child...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not just about feeding the kids, getting their toys operating, getting dinner going, etc. I can scrap any special dinner for sure, which I will, but they still need to eat. But it's also that he's now holed up in the bedroom. He just came out, grabbed food and went back in the bedroom. So I'm essentially the only operating parent. And I'm sick. Sorry, I know I sound like a child...

You do. Move on. Throw spaghetti in a pot. Done.

[Anonymous]

Its your holiday, you don't get he has no meaning or attachment and its no fun for him. Same in our house. I do it to make my husband happy but I don't celebrate and its no way fun. Order pizza for dinner and give the kids electronics so both of you can rest. Feel better.

[Anonymous]

That’s ridiculous. Order chinese food or pizza and set kids up with an iPad move or whatever in bed with Dad.

[Anonymous]

I’m sure he threw his back out.

[Anonymous]

So I assume he’s planning to make sure you get a chance to rest too, since you’re sick? Or does his ailment automatically trump yours in his mind?

[Anonymous]

I know how you feel, OP. Can you spend some of the more frustrating moments planning some nice time for yourself? What would you really like to be doing to relax ? Make a plan for when and how you can make it happen. Give yourself something. To look forward to. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

All crawl into bed with Daddy and watch a Christmas movie.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP. Your kids won’t care about a special dinner so get delivery if you can or else something easy, and they can watch movies while you rest. Back pain is worse than most illnesses, but being sick on Xmas duty sucks!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I assume he’s planning to make sure you get a chance to rest too, since you’re sick? Or does his ailment automatically trump yours in his mind?

Nobody has to trump anyone else. OP is perfectly welcome to lay down too, but prefers to play martyr. I’m sure the kids have plenty of new things to keep them busy. Order delivery. The End.