Ex once again ditching visitation

[Anonymous]

Just a vent, my ex ONCE AGAIN is ditching his visitation time with my kids. First he tried to get me to keep them on his weekend, and when I refused, now he is outsourcing it to his teenaged niece (school pick up), brother (two hours after school) and mom (pick up the kids at 5 PM and take them home with her). This is all 24 hours before his visitation is supposed to begin. He sees the kids four nights a month. Apparently however that's too many for his social life. This is not an unusual circumstance.

It makes me so angry and sad on behalf of my kids that I picked such a crappy father for them. And I love my MIL but it also makes me angry that she enables him. He only has to adult four nights a month; why is that so hard? Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just a vent, my ex ONCE AGAIN is ditching his visitation time with my kids. First he tried to get me to keep them on his weekend, and when I refused, now he is outsourcing it to his teenaged niece (school pick up), brother (two hours after school) and mom (pick up the kids at 5 PM and take them home with her). This is all 24 hours before his visitation is supposed to begin. He sees the kids four nights a month. Apparently however that's too many for his social life. This is not an unusual circumstance.

It makes me so angry and sad on behalf of my kids that I picked such a crappy father for them. And I love my MIL but it also makes me angry that she enables him. He only has to adult four nights a month; why is that so hard? Ugh.

How old is he, how old are they?

[Anonymous]

I am sorry. But I would go easy on his mom. At least she is stepping up where he won’t.

[Anonymous]

All you can do is document and then file for a new parenting plan. He probably just wants the 4 nights to reduce his CS.

[Anonymous]

Kids are 11 and 15. Old enough to know dad has better things to do then be with them.

[Anonymous]

That really sucks. At least they have you and their other relatives. Have they talked to a school counselor or therapist?

[Anonymous]

Yes. School and private counselor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids are 11 and 15. Old enough to know dad has better things to do then be with them.

I was wondering when the MRA post would show up.

[Anonymous]

Why does a 15 year old need after school care? You refer to them as MY kids... are they our kids or my kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does a 15 year old need after school care? You refer to them as MY kids... are they our kids or my kids?

Not OP, but a lot of 15 year olds run off the rails because they are on their own afterschool for hours. In our family, the rule is sports or some other club.

[Anonymous]

After school care is for the 11 year old.

[Anonymous]

I have one of those too.
The only consolation is that kid won’t be glued to a screen for hours on end.

[Anonymous]

Sorry. My ex didn’t pick up this morning. It’s been hours of excuses and rescheduling. DD is now livid. They have no idea how awful this makes kids feel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids are 11 and 15. Old enough to know dad has better things to do then be with them.

I was wondering when the MRA post would show up.

I think this was OP being sarcastic.

[Anonymous]

At least they have a grandma and cousins that care about them. They are old enough to start to see dad's true colors - focus instead on the extended family on dad's side that choose to be part of their lives.