This is the right way to handle sleeping arrangements, right?

[Anonymous]

MIL arrived into town today to stay for two weeks. My aunt and uncle arrive 12/22 to stay through 12/26. We have one guest bedroom with a queen size bed. I am putting MIL in the guest bedroom today and tomorrow. Then, when aunt and uncle arrive, I'm moving MIL to a different room with a futon (it's a double and reasonably comfy). The other room is the baby's room and baby will room in with us so MIL can have the room. When aunt and uncle depart, MIL will move back to the guest room. I'll help her move her stuff and change out sheets, of course. She seems slightly miffed, but I think this is the best way to handle this, right? I assume she would prefer to the have the guest room with the proper bed for all the available nights, but that it's appropriate to give the proper bed to the couple for the nights they are here.

For context, both MIL and aunt/uncle come for Christmas every year so no one was invited "first." In years past, we didn't have the baby so MIL slept in the futon room but it wasn't a baby room yet, maybe that is part of the issue. Or maybe she's not miffed and I'm being over-sensitive. And no, no one wants to stay in a hotel.

[Anonymous]

You should give the usual futon room to MIL and have the baby room with you rather than making her move TWICE. I would be miffed too if I had to play musical chairs when I just want to settle in one room for the visit.

[Anonymous]

Personally, I would put MIL in the guest room for the duration, and move myself and DH to the room with the futon while aunt and uncle are visiting, and give aunt and uncle your room, but I think your plan is also fine.

[Anonymous]

short term guest in baby room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should give the usual futon room to MIL and have the baby room with you rather than making her move TWICE. I would be miffed too if I had to play musical chairs when I just want to settle in one room for the visit.

Hm. Fair enough. Perhaps if DH had raised this issue with her in advance, like I asked him to, I would have known her preference vs. trying to extrapolate from what I would prefer in her shoes.

[Anonymous]

Either your option or MIL stays in the futon room the entire time.

[Anonymous]

I would stay on the futon with DH and give the elderly the guest bed and the master bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should give the usual futon room to MIL and have the baby room with you rather than making her move TWICE. I would be miffed too if I had to play musical chairs when I just want to settle in one room for the visit.

Hm. Fair enough. Perhaps if DH had raised this issue with her in advance, like I asked him to, I would have known her preference vs. trying to extrapolate from what I would prefer in her shoes.

You could offer her the choice, either stay on the futon the whole time, or move in and out of the guest room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Either your option or MIL stays in the futon room the entire time.

Main thing is to let her know either option is available and she can pick the one she prefers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would stay on the futon with DH and give the elderly the guest bed and the master bedroom.

Unless your room is a bit messy, that might be the best set of options.

[Anonymous]

Put aunt and uncle in your room for the 3 nights, you guys room with baby. MIL stays where she is.

[Anonymous]

1) DH can run these thoughts by her and let her know:

a) She can move rooms, and DH (why are you doing everything) can assist her with that.

b) She's welcome to stay in futon room the whole time, to be settled.

c) You'd be happy to put her up in a hotel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would stay on the futon with DH and give the elderly the guest bed and the master bedroom.

The "elderly" woman is most welcome to have her very own queen bed at a hotel, folks. If you're a grown-ass adult who can't look at a situation and decide that you're going to have to face some form of discomfort and inconvenience if you want to be cheap, it's time to wise up.

[Anonymous]

No way I’d give up the master bedroom. That seems odd. My MIL would absolutely refuse our marital bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should give the usual futon room to MIL and have the baby room with you rather than making her move TWICE. I would be miffed too if I had to play musical chairs when I just want to settle in one room for the visit.

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