How do I deal with being his second choice

[Anonymous]

He was pursuing someone else, but she wasn’t interested in him. I liked him for awhile and we’re finally dating. He says he’s over her, but I see how he looks at her and acts when she’s around, and we’ll im not like her. How do I stop being so insecure .

[Anonymous]

Uh.....as long as you are with him, you'll feel insecure. Next.

[Anonymous]

Unless this is an arranged marriage, you break up. You’ll find someone for whom you’re #1.

[Anonymous]

You don't. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Why is she still around? Do you work together or go to school together?

[Anonymous]

Move on.

He's not that into you.

[Anonymous]

Honestly virtually nobody is their partners first choice. Mathematically impossible. I bet he's not really your first choice either.

Question is whether he and you are each mature enough to move on and not make it a thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is she still around? Do you work together or go to school together?

We all work together. Same store. Can’t change jobs.

[Anonymous]

you and all of us are most likely the second 3rd 4th 5th choice. Why look any further once you found the right one? So unless you found the right one on the first try, welcome to the club.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly virtually nobody is their partners first choice. Mathematically impossible. I bet he's not really your first choice either.

Question is whether he and you are each mature enough to move on and not make it a thing.

I admit I grew to like him overtime but there was never anyone else. I think she’s dating someone and my bf says he’s over her, but I don’t know.

[Anonymous]

Why do this to yourself, go find someone who thinks you’re the best thing to ever happen to him.

[Anonymous]

You find someone who does not make you insecure. Or you keep things moving slowly with this guy so you can find your own self worth. But he should feel lucky to be with you. And if he doesn't, NEXT.

[Anonymous]

You don't. If he were really over her, then I'd tell you to accept that he has chosen you, but if he's not, then you don't talk yourself into believing that he is. Break up with him, because this isn't getting better.

[Anonymous]

Looks? Acts? Op, you're entitled to be with a guy whose behavior doesn't make you uncomfortable.

Are you being insecure? Is his behavior appropriate? Who gets to decide? These should not be your focus. Your focus should be finding the best match -for you-

[Anonymous]

Console yourself with the fact that you're a rebound effort and not even a real second choice?