Lonely Thanksgiving 2018 Edition

[Anonymous]

Worked today, will work tomorrow. Turkey will suck, but I will find food that doesn't. Dinner alone tonight and tomorrow. Single mom, kid with dad all weekend. Finding joy in lobster pasta, a lot of turkey takeout and possible indian food.

Your story?

[Anonymous]

Same, but I’m not lonely. Going out for drinks tonight, and will get a mani and ped while inhabe free time. I’ll catch up on reading, binge watch movies, drink wine, and judge on DCUM.

There is still much to be thankful for!

[Anonymous]

Where are you located? My DH is an introvert; no desire to go out tonight or even talk while we stay in. Kids have plans with friends. I may go see a movie solo in Bethesda.

[Anonymous]

DCs with STBX and I will miss them but volunteering tomorrow and to friends for dinner. Friday will spend at the Spa.

[Anonymous]

I am alone tonight, tomorrow, most of the weekend. I have invitations from friends/ coworkers to join their dinners tomorrow, which I certainly appreciate. But everyone in my family of origin is dead, and when I attend holidays at other people's homes, I am just reminded of that more strongly. (No, I didn't grieve properly after the deaths.) I would prefer to be alone now. Sometimes I do get lonely, but mostly I'm just alone, if that makes sense to anyone.

[Anonymous]

This year I’m with my child and extended family, but last year it was just me, kid was with the ex. I worked Wednesday and Friday. On Thanksgiving I went to the gym, did a short hike with a friend who was also solo, then went to a movie by myself. Practiced some gratefulness. I did enough to stay upbeat. It was peaceful. I was a little sentimental but not sad or lonely. Enjoy a day of self care tomorrow, OP. It can be a nice change of pace.

[Anonymous]

I have my 3 kids with me because XDH is not well. Still grieving the loss of my old life but I am content.
Looking forward to tomorrow because we are all going to a dear friend's house. I will be the only single parent there but I am getting used to it.

Hope you all find some happiness this holiday!

[Anonymous]

Let's all get together and have a potluck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let's all get together and have a potluck.

And go see a movie afterwards! I'll all by myself tomorrow too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where are you located? My DH is an introvert; no desire to go out tonight or even talk while we stay in. Kids have plans with friends. I may go see a movie solo in Bethesda.

OP here. In Hyattsville Arts District.

[Anonymous]

I’ve had a few of those holidays. I got used to it, and on some days I almost enjoyed it. Breathed a sigh of relief when the holiday passed however.

[Anonymous]

On Monday, I drove 1.5 hours to see my mom, who is in a medical facility in a retirement community because she had gall bladder surgery and had not bounced back physically. She's with-it, sweet, and smart. But she looked shockingly sick; couldn't even open one eye.

Then her nurse came by and pulled me out to have the "get her on hospice care" conversation. I only came by to say hi and I'm suddenly in THIS conversation!

I drove home thinking she was going to die. That evening, I spoke with her doctor, who said no! He said he thinks she's presenting poorly because there is something wrong with the meds they are giving her, and it would be totally premature and a miscarriage of justice, after she fought through sepsis/gallbladder, to give up on her now possibly because of something we are doing to her!

Then LSS she was admitted to the ER, almost died, and this morning had totally bounced back!

BUT, she broke out in shingles so the kids and I and DH cannot go see her on Thanksgiving. I feel so bad, and I feel lonely for her and it makes me lonely.

[Anonymous]

Hugs to PP, and wishes of a speedy recovery for your Mom!

For those feeling lonely, try traveling somewhere fun if you can. I did a solo trip a couple Thanksgivings ago, and it was the best thing ever. Wish I could affford to do that every holiday.

[Anonymous]

2252, what a rollercoaster. It sounds like your mom is on the mend. I’m hoping for a peaceful holiday for you all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On Monday, I drove 1.5 hours to see my mom, who is in a medical facility in a retirement community because she had gall bladder surgery and had not bounced back physically. She's with-it, sweet, and smart. But she looked shockingly sick; couldn't even open one eye.

Then her nurse came by and pulled me out to have the "get her on hospice care" conversation. I only came by to say hi and I'm suddenly in THIS conversation!

I drove home thinking she was going to die. That evening, I spoke with her doctor, who said no! He said he thinks she's presenting poorly because there is something wrong with the meds they are giving her, and it would be totally premature and a miscarriage of justice, after she fought through sepsis/gallbladder, to give up on her now possibly because of something we are doing to her!

Then LSS she was admitted to the ER, almost died, and this morning had totally bounced back!

BUT, she broke out in shingles so the kids and I and DH cannot go see her on Thanksgiving. I feel so bad, and I feel lonely for her and it makes me lonely.

Sending you good thoughts for your mom's recovery. You sound like a really good daughter.