Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I am a SAHM and my DD is a super achiever academically. I left a well paying job to SAHM because my DH also has a high paying job. And while we were outsourcing everything that we could to make it easier to be an involved parent - we were unable to carve out the amount of time we wanted to spend with our kids. In the end, we decided that the mark of success of a person is not only what they can achieve in their own life but how their kids turn out. So, I quit after I had saved enough to retire. For years we have lived below our means and so I was able to save every cent that I earned.
I would prefer that my DD has the option to make enough money to last a lifetime by working a few years. Why? Because if she ever wants to stay home to raise her family - she has the financial wherewithal to do that. I started saving from when I was 19 years old. My kid is going to do the same. When she marries - she will already be a homeowner as I was.
Yes, I do push my DD to excel academically and aim for male dominated STEM careers - because being a SAHM without stellar education and your own money is not really is a choice and neither is being a WOHM in a dead end, ill paying job, a choice. And my DD is well adjusted and grateful and makes me proud each and every day.
So, regardless of if you are a SAHM or a WOHM - you do what is best for your kids and you make sure that they are financially secure outside of a marriage. A woman must have enough money that she can raise her kids, send them to college, pay for a retirement = without the help of a man. That is a choice you can make for yourself.
Poster you are replying to and I agree with this.