S/O. Expectation for 3 yr old in different circumstances

[Anonymous]

If you were exceptionally wealthy and your DH was somewhat famous, would you have greater and stricter expectations for your 3 and 4 year olds? Would you fear the bratty-rich-kid impression?

What about an inately talented child?

Please - no flaming.

[Anonymous]

I typically require my 3 year old behave when she's accompanying daddy on the red carpet, yes. Plus we have a rule that she's not allowed to have grape juice when she's wearing her custom Dolce & Gabbana dresses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I typically require my 3 year old behave when she's accompanying daddy on the red carpet, yes. Plus we have a rule that she's not allowed to have grape juice when she's wearing her custom Dolce & Gabbana dresses.

Ugh...

[Anonymous]

Shouldn't your nanny be handling all that?

[Anonymous]

A couple decades ago, I met John Kennedy, Jr. I was stuck by how warm and friendly he was and self-effacing. Yes, I absolutely think his mother was strict with him because he did receive so much attention and had so much given to him.

I would be stricter if my child had every advantage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shouldn't your nanny be handling all that?

Tiresome. Why bother comment?

[Anonymous]

“To whom much is given, much is expected”.

So yes. But I would also make my child aware of his family good fortune.

[Anonymous]

I have greater expectations for the extremely wealthy no matter what their age. Random example: I have zero sympathy for people like Oprah and Kirstie Alley who complain about weight struggles and how they are just like the average woman when they go on to promote Jenny Craig and the like. They can afford to hire a personal chef, a trainer, a psychologist—whatever it takes to live a healthy lifestyle. Rich people have no excuse to be anything but their best selves and that goes for their children too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have greater expectations for the extremely wealthy no matter what their age. Random example: I have zero sympathy for people like Oprah and Kirstie Alley who complain about weight struggles and how they are just like the average woman when they go on to promote Jenny Craig and the like. They can afford to hire a personal chef, a trainer, a psychologist—whatever it takes to live a healthy lifestyle. Rich people have no excuse to be anything but their best selves and that goes for their children too.

I agree.

Off topic but Oprah could hire someone to physically restrain her from overeating!

[Anonymous]

I have a friend whose DD is stunningly beautiful. I mean, seriously gorgeous and always has been. That’s not a talent, I know, but it is a special circumstance. Anyway, my friend was strict with this girl in terms of insisting on kindness, inclusion and politeness because she knew her daughter’s demeanor would bee seen more harshly because of her looks. The girl is still gorgeous but also extremely kind and hardworking.

[Anonymous]

I grew up with exceptionally wealthy parents who were not famous, but were NYC society people. I had a lot of rules.

At home, when guests came over:
- I was not allowed to be loud
- I was to come say hello, nice to see you, and then leave the room
- I was not to interrupt or come back unless there was fire, blood or broken bones
- If I was given a gift I was to say thank you, open it, proclaim I loved it, say thank you again and give a hug
- At parties I was to take a bath and get ready for bed but have the nanny do my hair, and then come say goodnight to my parents and then go to bed.

Outside:

- Not allowed to cry on the way there (you can cry when we get home)
- Must smile and shake hands and say nice to see you to everyone who makes eye contact with me
- Do not touch flowers
- Do not touch anything, but do not put hands in pockets
- Never interrupt an adult, unless fire, blood or broken bones
- Never pick up anything I find on the ground
- Do not take food until offered. Never ask to be offered.
- Do not fidget or scratch or adjust clothes. Stand still
- Do not get dirty, do not get food on clothes.

There were probably more but I can't remember. At a lot of the events, nannies were very distinctly in the background, if there at all because the parents want to give the impression of being involved. If a nanny was there, and I screwed up, the nanny got fired (my mother was ruthless) for my screw-up. At home, the nanny was to keep me quiet and out of the way. I was once given a purple yo-yo as a reward for staying in my room during an important dinner party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have greater expectations for the extremely wealthy no matter what their age. Random example: I have zero sympathy for people like Oprah and Kirstie Alley who complain about weight struggles and how they are just like the average woman when they go on to promote Jenny Craig and the like. They can afford to hire a personal chef, a trainer, a psychologist—whatever it takes to live a healthy lifestyle. Rich people have no excuse to be anything but their best selves and that goes for their children too.

I agree.

Off topic but Oprah could hire someone to physically restrain her from overeating!

LOL!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Shouldn't your nanny be handling all that?

Tiresome. Why bother comment?

Girl. Grow UP. Don't raise a spoiled brat. No one curr otherwise. Yore lucky based off a salary you didn't earn, no more nor less.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Shouldn't your nanny be handling all that?

Tiresome. Why bother comment?

Girl. Grow UP. Don't raise a spoiled brat. No one curr otherwise. Yore lucky based off a salary you didn't earn, no more nor less.

I am not the OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“To whom much is given, much is expected”.

So yes. But I would also make my child aware of his family good fortune.

I agree with this.