You’re welcome to come vs I want you to come

[Anonymous]

Is it just me or are these totally different things?

[Anonymous]

Well a lot of it is tone but in general "you are welcome to come/join us" means its not really a thing about you/I need to do with you BUT you can totally come. I want you to come means just that.

[Anonymous]

Could be. Depends alot on the event and the context.

[Anonymous]

Most people don't choose their words that carefully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most people don't choose their words that carefully.

This is something we as a society need to remember more. Most people talk in a stream of unconscious. There is a lot of anazlying things now a days since so much of our communication is via typed text so we can stare at it, pick it apart, and grade it. Don't do that. Most people mean positive undertones, just trust that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most people don't choose their words that carefully.

I do. I choose the former when I'm interested in having a regular friend but don't want to impose - on them or their time. I use the second when its my BFF or family and I'm pretty insistent that they come because I can and I know they'll enjoy it.

[Anonymous]

I often say "you are welcome to come" over "I want you to come"

We throw a lot of parties, so I feel like there is less pressure with the phrase "to are welcome to come."

[Anonymous]

To me "you're welcome to come/join" implies the person doesn't care either way if they come, while "I'd love for you to come" or "please join us" implies that the person is wanted there

[Anonymous]

Yes, there is a difference. If I really want someone to come but I don't want to pressure them, I say just that: "I would love for you to be there, but I totally understand if it won't work," or something to that effect.

Rarely do I say someone is welcome to come and leave it at that. That would mean I don't particularly want them there, and then I probably wouldn't invite them at all.

[Anonymous]

"You’re welcome to come" doesn't sound like an invitation. I would hope I haven't said that, not sure I haven't though.

[Anonymous]

I say “you are welcome to come” a lot to my little sister and childless friends. We are doing her birthday at the park. You are welcome to come but, I understand if it is not your scene. They are invited, not imposing, and would be lived there but I understand why they would not want to come and would not be offended if they don’t want to.

[Anonymous]

"You are welcome to come" most likely means that you will be gladly received. Not as much pressure as "I want you to come." Both are fine, both mean they like you, but one imposes a bit more than the other. Neither is wrong.

[Anonymous]

“You are welcome to come” means the event is happening regardless and won’t really be affected by your presence or absence. “I want you to come” means exactly what it says.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it just me or are these totally different things?

I think of it as the same.

[Anonymous]

I use you are welcome to come when a friend asks what we're doing this weekend or if we have plans on Saturday and I'll say we are going to the pumpkin patch, you are welcome to come. We were going anyway, I wouldn't mind them coming.

I want you to come/would like for you to come - I have some flexibility meaning I'd be willing to have my dinner party on a different day or go to the pumpkin patch on a different day as I want to make a plan with/that includes that person.