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Anonymous
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I was all ready to send my child to a popular school that has a nursery program and then I heard that one of the teachers is somewhat "unpredictable" and is frequently unkind to the children. I heard this from someone who actually works at the school - I've known this person for many years and believe her.
So I'm not sending my child there, but it has opened up all sorts of worries about sending my child away to school for the first time. I consider nursery school sort of an introduction to the wider world and I worry that my child will get some sort of teacher like this - or even a teacher that doesn't provide her what she needs. She's sort of a quiet child and needs encouragement to join group activities. She's also very sweet and very very sensitive. I'm worried more about finding a NICE place than a feeder school - am I the only person worried about this sort of thing? Oh, and not to be negative, but I'm pretty sure she won't get into NCRC, etc., so even though I'm pretty sure those teachers are consistently good, I'm more worried about the second tier schools. |
Anonymous
| I hear you. We have had our share of moody teachers. Some of it we have had to accept, but in one case we left the school. |
Anonymous
| Can you share the name? (I hate to ask, but...) |
Anonymous
...In defense of teachers...they have to deal with a lot of "moody (insert word-of-choice)" parents as well. Many parents see their kids through rose colored glasses so to speak, and aren't always aware of the fact that kids don't always act the same way/make the same choices at school as they do at home. Also, just b/c you may have had a not-so-great relationship with a particular teacher, doesn't mean your friends, neighbors, etc. will have the same experience you did. Personalities, teaching styles, learning styles, etc. don't always mesh with every student/teacher/parent relationship. Just something to think about... |
Anonymous
I'm not sure what to make of this statement? I may be naive, but I think that anyone who signs up to be entrusted with 2-year-olds under the auspices of a school (vs., say, a teen babysitter at a wedding) needs to be on her 'A' game at all times. Or fake like she is. She doesn't get to shrug it off with the explanation that some kid-teacher relationship don't "mesh" -- when the kid in question is two. If very young children are making different choices at school, Teacher still doesn't get to be mean, or off, or peeved or whatever. Really. |
Anonymous
| I agree with the PP. Age 2 is a bit early to start scapegoating the child, parents, etc. It's not unreasonable to think that consistent kindness is an important attribute in a preschool teacher. |
Anonymous
| I also agree. Professionalism is a must. I worked in a psych hospital, we still had to be professional, why can't teachers be? |
Anonymous
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I think 22:01's point may be that what some of us call "high standards" regarding behavior, others of us would call "rigidity." What some call "relaxed," others call "no control"... we vary about what is best, and so do teachers.
Even a teacher on her A-game every minute won't be the best fit for every child. |
Anonymous
OP here. I guess this is what I worry about. I am just hoping my child gets the best fit for her personality/temperment. She needs a lot of encouragement to join in and play with the other kids at her play group. She'll just play alone otherwise and gets scared when the rowdy kids come near. When I'm there and I constantly encourage her, it's much easier for her. She's also wonderful with several of her friends who are not in the play group but whom she's been playing with for a year now. So this is why I originally posted. I guess I'll just hope for the best and hopefully she'll get a wonderful and patient teacher. Someone pretty hands-on, at least at the beginning. I have a dear friend with ADHD who was always told he was "bad" at school while growing up, so this is probably on my radar screen more than most people. |
Anonymous
| PP- the other thing to remember is generally speaking, your kid does things for teacher and babysitters that they might not do for you! My son cannot sit still to save his life at home, but when I peek in on him at preschool, he is sitting down patiently listening to the teacher, another example is kids who will not nap for their parents but nap on cots at school! It is appropriate and understandable for you to be concerned, but just keep in mind that because of the time, attention and love you have shown your child, she will be able to go to school and step outside the usual boundaries. |
Anonymous
Thank you. You're right. OP |