Is this a red flag or a violation?
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Anonymous
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We visited a home daycare and spent time with the toddlers and owner and her assistant in the basement. Two babies were sleeping upstairs on the second floor on the bedroom. I don’t see any monitors and we mentioned about the babies and she said they sleep much better upstairs without the noise. I don’t see any monitor and she said she checks on them frequently. Is this a red flag? Is this a violation? Doesn’t someone need to be with them in the same room?
The provider has no violations and everything else was great. I have been to many home daycares and this was the best. She also have credentials and is accredited by the family care provider association. She has been doing this for 25 years. Kids seem happy. I would have no issue sending my toddler but the baby stage makes me nervous. |
Anonymous
| I don't know whether or not it's a violation, but I would not be okay with it. Trust your gut, OP. |
Anonymous
| They definitely don't have to be in the same room with the infants - I don't know how anyone would get any sleep if that were the case! If it makes you nervous, why don't you just ask if you can buy a monitor and put it in the room? |
Anonymous
This. It would be a red flag if they said no to your request, but babies in safe cribs are not in danger and I assume they could hear them crying. |
Anonymous
| I’d love that for my baby actually. Would you sit in a room watching your sleeping baby? |
Anonymous
| Ask to put a monitor in the babies’ bedroom. |
Anonymous
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Never never understood the fixation with baby monitors.
Babies are hardwired to scream to get the attention they need and the lesser noises are perfectly ok to ignore. And a monitor will do nothing to warn you if something terrible like SIDS happens. As long as the baby is on their back in a safe crib with no choking hazards a monitor adds no safety element. |
Anonymous
Exactly. And do WE have our babies sleep in our room at all times? I don't - mine sleep in their own bedrooms. Even if I'm in the livingroom downstairs - they are upstairs in their bedrooms. |
Anonymous
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Monitors just help amplify the baby so they don’t have to scream as long or as loud. I agree that it can make some people too quick to go into a baby who is asleep but shifting and fussing too quickly though.
Did you ask if she can hear the babies from where she is? She doesn’t want one baby to wake the others so I would think she would be quick to respond, for selfish reasons if nothing else. |
Anonymous
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Arghhh hate that my thread gets moved here.. don't typically get a lot of responses in this forum.
There is absolutely NO way she can hear the babies crying. She's in the basement with 6 toddlers and then there is the main floor, and the upstairs bedroom level. To the poster who asked if I watch my baby sleeping all the time.. no, I don't. But I am within earshot of her and I am in a house all by myself and so I am alert and is always paying attention. I don't even go to the basement to watch TV and leave him sleeping in the upstairs bedroom for fear of not hearing him even though I have a monitor. It's the SIDS that concerns me but then again, that's the reality of home daycare right? You have 2 people watching 8... it's just not an ideal situation in my opinion. I know some would say well I clearly don't trust her and I shouldn't go to her. It's not that. It's really difficult to find a good provider and so far, we are fine with everything about her and I don't want to miss this potential provider. Argh this is so difficult |
Anonymous
I'd be a lot more concerned about caregivers hauling babies up and down the stairs and falling than their ability to hear a crying child. We live in a 3 story house and had no trouble hearing a screaming baby on the 2nd floor when we were in the basement. |
Anonymous
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To the person worried about Sudden Infant Death Syndrome aka SIDS, it can happen anywhere this includes daycare, grandparents and even at home. There isn’t anything that prevents SIDS 100% unfortuately. Yes there are steps that help prevent it but like i said it happens suddenly and unexpectidly
From parent to parent prospective, If a childcare situation doesn’t make you feel somewhat content, go with a different option there are noumerous home daycares and daycare centers to choose from Steps to help minimize risk of SIDS includes Putting infant to sleep on his/her back on a firm mattress with no blankets, no toys and no crib bumpers in the crib Don’t smoke near baby Keep baby close by in a bassinet or crib but Never bed share with infants |
Anonymous
| I would not be ok with this. Basement to 2nd floor is too far. My guess is she doesn't want to hear the babies crying because she wants them to stay on a strict, long napping schedule. I would also be concerned about fire safety. |
Anonymous
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We're at an inhome and the kids do sleep in the adjacent room without a monitor. It's SO much better for my kids because they never could sleep with an adult in the room. She's very responsive as soon as they wake up.
You could ask her to use a sound monitor or ask if you could send yours in for her use. I've sent several of my baby items in for use at the inhome daycare. |
Anonymous
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You should look into what the regulation are for your area.
What areas of her home are approved for daycare use? Many areas have a rule that the provider MUST be on the same floor with the children during operational hours, including during nap time. Some allow it, but with use of monitors and physical checks at required intervals, such as every 10-15 minutes. Some require napping infants to be in the same room as the provider. |