I hated my wedding day

[Anonymous]

Not even kidding.

So stressed out and I wound up going to sleep crying.

[Anonymous]

What did you hate about it?

[Anonymous]

Sorry it did not go well, but it is in the past. Focus on enjoying and making the most of your marriage.

[Anonymous]

Hopefully you don't regret who you married! You will get over the stress of a wedding day.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I felt so overwhelmed. My family are asian and they live abroad. On the morning of my wedding my mother was on the phone telling me I was making a mistake and to call it off.

My MIL looked like she was going to break down crying because she did not want her precious son marrying at all. My SIL who was a bridesmaid refused to come get dressed with us and didn't speak to me all day. My husband was more excited to party and be reunited with his friends than give me attention.

At the end of the day we got into a huge fight and he yelled at me and I cried myself to sleep.

I just don't want to relive that day again.

[Anonymous]

Blah. Hopefully your marriage is better than the wedding was.

[Anonymous]

But hopefully your marriage is very different from your wedding day?

That's just one crummy day. Hopefully your marriage has been full of good ones you can look back on.

(glad I eloped at the courthouse)

[Anonymous]

Then don’t relive it.

How long have you been married?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Then don’t relive it.

How long have you been married?

9 months

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Blah. Hopefully your marriage is better than the wedding was.

It certainly is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then don’t relive it.

How long have you been married?

9 months

Have either of you grown up since then?

[Anonymous]

Plan a nice 1st anniversary with your husband. Something to look forward to, without the hassle of attempting to please a multitude of family and friends.

[Anonymous]

I bet you're thinking about it b/c your first anniversary is coming up. PP has a good idea, plan something nice for you and DH and go from there. So many people are so stressed on their wedding day, wanting and expecting it to be perfect.

It rained on mine. My hair fell and then poofed. I looked like a raccoon at the reception from my make-up running and I had no idea. My MIL was mad b/c it wasn't the wedding *she* had wanted. My parents were long-divorced and not speaking to each other and all of that came to the surface again. My sister got her heel stuck on the sidewalk and ended up going to an urgent care with a badly sprained ankle. My nephew, ring bearer, peed in his pants in front of everyone.

18 years and two kids later, many more wonderful things have happened. And some crummy things. If that day was the worst you'll experience in your marriage, you're doing very well!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet you're thinking about it b/c your first anniversary is coming up. PP has a good idea, plan something nice for you and DH and go from there. So many people are so stressed on their wedding day, wanting and expecting it to be perfect.

It rained on mine. My hair fell and then poofed. I looked like a raccoon at the reception from my make-up running and I had no idea. My MIL was mad b/c it wasn't the wedding *she* had wanted. My parents were long-divorced and not speaking to each other and all of that came to the surface again. My sister got her heel stuck on the sidewalk and ended up going to an urgent care with a badly sprained ankle. My nephew, ring bearer, peed in his pants in front of everyone.

18 years and two kids later, many more wonderful things have happened. And some crummy things. If that day was the worst you'll experience in your marriage, you're doing very well!

+1 This is good perspective. Most brides will tell you that their weddings weren't perfect, and OP, sorry that yours wasn't what you wanted, but the important thing is the marriage. Good luck with that.

[Anonymous]

Your expectations are too high. You need to chill. If you don't your whole life is going to go this way.