Parental alienation

[Anonymous]

My ex husband started dating a woman before the divorce was even final. He introduced her right away to the kids. After meeting the kids TWICE she created rooms for them in her home and bought them an excessive amount of high end clothes. They are 3 and 6. Now it’s 6 months later and they’re threatening me saying they’re going for custody. Right away she posted pictures with them and progressed the relationships very quickly. Does this sound like parental alienation?

[Anonymous]

She sounds nuts. They would have to prove something far more than they hav bedrooms and clothing for the kids to get a change of custody. Forget it and ignore. They aren't married. They cannot go for custody. She is not a parent and has no rights. He can go for custody but it sounds like it is all her and not him. Most kids don't care about high end clothing and that is more about the person dressing them than the child. Tell her to do what she thinks is best and if she could let you know when they are filing so you can prepare your attorney. Don't feed into it. You can ignore her email and make it clear she is not their step-parent and a caretaker and that all communication must be from your ex, not her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She sounds nuts. They would have to prove something far more than they hav bedrooms and clothing for the kids to get a change of custody. Forget it and ignore. They aren't married. They cannot go for custody. She is not a parent and has no rights. He can go for custody but it sounds like it is all her and not him. Most kids don't care about high end clothing and that is more about the person dressing them than the child. Tell her to do what she thinks is best and if she could let you know when they are filing so you can prepare your attorney. Don't feed into it. You can ignore her email and make it clear she is not their step-parent and a caretaker and that all communication must be from your ex, not her.

I’m concerned that she’s crazy and trying to be their mom. I’ve heard of kids being poisoned against a parent.

[Anonymous]

Parental alienation is based on the messages your ex gives the kids about you. You are dangerous. You are a bad mother. Etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parental alienation is based on the messages your ex gives the kids about you. You are dangerous. You are a bad mother. Etc.

He does tell them that I keep them from him when really he is more concerned with seeing his girlfriend than them. She lives 9 1/2 hours away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parental alienation is based on the messages your ex gives the kids about you. You are dangerous. You are a bad mother. Etc.

He does tell them that I keep them from him when really he is more concerned with seeing his girlfriend than them. She lives 9 1/2 hours away.

1) try to reason with your ex in the interest of the children
2) if he doesn't give a rats ass about the interest of the children, hire a lawyer.

The woman has no claim over your kids, it's all him, don't blame another female when it's the man (your former husband) who is messing up.

[Anonymous]

Been there and done that. Hire a fierce lawyer and sit back and watch.

The feeling of another woman moving in like that on ones kids is awfully— I know. It really awakens the mama bear in you.

[Anonymous]

This is indeed parental alienation. The threat to take custody is the first strike.

I was a victim along with my kids. It destroyed my children's psyche and I can't reach out to help them because they were completely indoctrinated and weaponized against me.

Hire a lawyer who understands toxic divorce. Record every contact or communication with your ex and your kids. Every late pickup, missed appointment etc. But don't ever react emotionally to anything, ever. Their strategy will be to set you up with insane drama and chaos, then use your reasonable outrage to paint you as the 'emotionally unstable, unfit parent.'

Read the book Divorce Poison.