What did you do first time caught teen with weed or weed paraphernalia?
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Anonymous
| Not sure what to do. Pretty certain this is a very new thing. |
Anonymous
| haven't gotten there yet, but if it happens, my plan would be to confiscate, calm myself down, big talks later. |
Anonymous
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Confiscated the weed, notified parents of other kids involved, serious talking to and took phone and read all text messages. The group chat about the fact that DC and others had been busted was quite entertaining until one of the idiots finally realized that phones may have been confiscated. FYI, it did not turn into a major long term problem.
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Anonymous
| Confiscate but don't overreact and turn weed into the bogeyman. |
Anonymous
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Confiscated, then thoroughly chastised him.
Then, when he was away for the weekend with his hockey team, dh and I smoked it. |
Anonymous
| Threw it away. Avoided confrontation. Worked out ok. Then teen is a now a responsible working professional in NYC and lives a drug-free life as far as I know. |
Anonymous
Thank you, that just made my day. Too funny! 
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Anonymous
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I think a discussion about the legal ramifications if caught by cops might be the only consequence that would sink in. I'd also discuss the health ramifications, but I doubt that one would sink in as well.
I would note that in addition to the potential damage to a developing brain, there is a greatly increased risk of testicular cancer in boys who are heavy users. Even light users might have testicular damage that can affect sperm count. I know that teenage boys do not ever think about their future children, but there is risk to fertility. |
Anonymous
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We would punish, big time. Not sure how. Probably a combination of a long time of being grounded and doing some work (cleaning house?)
Honestly, I know people don't think of weed as a big deal, but in my family, we would punish the same way as if we found heroin or coke or something. A big deal. |
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We grounded him for a bit, talked about how f'd up his life would be if caught by police, threw it out, upped the consequences if it happened again. I'm more afraid of alcohol addiction for him but do realize regular pot smoking is awful for teen boys/brain and now, new to me-testicular issues.
However, at a different time after this event, DS confessed to me that he smoked it a few times while sick with a chronic illness and it allowed him to actually go to school when not on it he wouldn't have been able to - it is some powerfully healing stuff for certain conditions. Luckily he is in remission and thus isn't using it this way (illegal due to state and age and his personal goals - requiring drug testing). He joked that he's the only kid he knows who used it to go to school not get out of school. |
Anonymous
| OP, same with us. Eventually we got dd a medical marijuana license. |
Anonymous
| Blunting out the pain is not healing the cause of it. |
Anonymous
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OP I don't know what I would do but a dear HS friend died age 30 from pneumonia after years of drug use that started with a little weed aged 17. Female. She lived in a wealthy town and had a functional family with older siblings who all became very successful. She would have been too. She was a follower not a leader though, and got led into all manner of drugs by the people she hung out with in HS.
So I'd be terrified if either of my kids did the same. But honestly I wouldn't know what to do about it. |
Anonymous
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1st time just talked about it
2d talked again 3rd-10th - still remained calm, maybe grounded him mildly, talked some more especially since they vape it, emphasized the dangers, my college age son told me there is not way he will never do it just try to convince him to do it rarely. Older son talked to him. It's been a year and he is 18 now and I think he maybe smokes once a month at a party or a friend's house. I'm not going to freak out because I don't think it will help. |
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I did not have to deal with this, luckily, but if I did, I would come down like a ton of bricks. I would say that the trust is broken, kid can’t be trusted, and I’d monitor everything. I’d search their room and read every text and take away car keys.
It’s just not okay. And I’d start laying all that out at age 11 or 12 and keep bringing it up now and then. The possible consequences are so severe, |