Hollywood baby bumps

[Anonymous]

Sometimes it makes me sad to see all those celebrities in Hollywood with their babies-to-be. I guess I get sad because it seems like certain celebrities weren't really planning for them (or so I assume) - Jessica Alba, Nicole Ritchie, Jaime Spears - and I just wish I could trade places with them.

Doesn't seem fair, you know?

[Anonymous]

I sympathize with you. My husband and I spent 3 years TTC. It was frustrating because during that time tons of my friends got pregnant either when they were not trying or on the first try. Luckily my sister had infertility issues also so we had each other to rely on. In addition, the nurses at the fertility clinic were helpful and could sympathize (most of them had been through or were going through infertility as well).

All in all life is not fair, but in general I think that most of us have an equal amount of bad things that happen to us across our lives -- it just comes at different times and in different forms. That being said, I think it is more important to channel the positive energies in your life. While TTC can be very stressful, take the opportunity to enjoy the time alone with your husband -- travel, go to movies and shows and do a ton of spur of the moment things.

In the end I ended up pregnant and my sister ended up adopting. Both of us think that the struggles we went through make us appreciate our families that much more.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I can sympathize too... I'm always like, what, she's pregnant too? Is everyone having a baby besides me... of course you feel like that too when you think about all the teenage pregnancies and the women in developing countries that have more children than they want.

I guess life isn't fair that way, if we could trade a few things or distribute wealth equally around the world, then this world would be a fairer more equitable place.

I get frustrated too though. But then when we do go out late or just make last minute plans I realize how much I enjoy this part of our current situation and try and focus on that.

[Anonymous]

Agree - we were TTC for 2 years and then when I finally got pregnant, I delivered at 21 weeks and lost twin girls in a matter of minutes. It was much worse after loss....hated those pregnant AND those with young babies. I always cring when watch the news and hear of the horrible crimes against childre and think...just give them to someone who wants them and will love them....

I wish you the best OP - things eventually worked out for us and we know many others with happy success stories..I hope you have yours.

[Anonymous]

Thanks to all the supportive thoughts and kind words

Sincerely,
OP