grandparents rights to see kids

[Anonymous]

We cut off ties with one set of out of state grandparents last year, we had only seen them once a year for the past decade and there is a long, sad, abusive history. We just got a threatening email from them saying they wanted contact with our elementary school age kids and they would be talking to their lawyer. Can they actually get contact with our kids?

[Anonymous]

Talk to a lawyer, but I believe it is quite difficult for them to do across state lines, since different states have different laws. If there is a history of abuse, you could bring that up in any court case. Do they want their dirty laundry aired?

[Anonymous]

It depends on the state. Some have grandparent rights but usually no. Ignore and do not answer.

[Anonymous]

Ha ha ha ha!

Ignore.

[Anonymous]

Not unless they had previously had custody of them in a way that had them acting like parents for a significant amount of time.

[Anonymous]

I actually do remember a few cases where grandparents won visitation rights but none were out of state/once a year grandparents.

Call their bluff and ignore the email (but save it) or write a response saying simply that “you know why we ended communication with you and why we cannot allow you to se Larlo and Larla”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually do remember a few cases where grandparents won visitation rights but none were out of state/once a year grandparents.

Call their bluff and ignore the email (but save it) or write a response saying simply that “you know why we ended communication with you and why we cannot allow you to se Larlo and Larla”.

Ignore. Do NOT respond. There’s a reason you cut these people off. Do NOT engage.
I would not be worried in the least.

[Anonymous]

Ignore

[Anonymous]

Lol, it’s just another show of f drama to make it look like they are the injured party. Ignore. Do not respond.

[Anonymous]

Just ignore it. They have no rights.

- Someone who cut off grandparents

[Anonymous]

They have no rights.

It’s not even worth seeing a lawyer about. Ignore the email. I would be tempted to respond with something like “Good luck!” But really, it’s best just to ignore.

[Anonymous]

If their own son doesn’t want them to have contact due a family history of abuse, they will not win.

I’d probably ignore it, but your DH could write a letter detailing the abuse and his concerns as the reason they don’t have contact with the kids. That should shut them up.

[Anonymous]

Don’t give it a second thought. They can onlh get rights under extraordinary circumstances (one of the parents has to be dead or the parents have to be divorced; grandparents have to prove that a relationship is in best interest of child which would usually be based on having had custody at one time). Grandparents rights are not a thing in America: parents have a fundamental right to decide how to raise our children and courts won’t get involved in something like this.

[Anonymous]

Ignore. But I would tell your kids school/activities that the grand parents are not allowed to pick your kids up or talk to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ignore. But I would tell your kids school/activities that the grand parents are not allowed to pick your kids up or talk to them.

Good point.