Do I need to buy DD a Jeep?
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Anonymous
DD REALLY wants a jeep wrangler, but they cost around $40,000 to get a new 4-door one! A ton of her friends have them and she apparently feels "sad" and gets "rude comments" about her car in the school parking lot since most of her friends either drive a Mercedes or Jeep, which I have seen true. Obviously that's a little much and a ton of spoiled kids... but I do feel bad because she's the only one from our neighborhood without one except one girl who drives a NEW Mercedes(nicer than my car  ...) I don't want her to be spoiled but we do have the money, I just feel like giving a new car to a teenager is... a little whack?! Am I right?? She drives a 2014 Honda Civic but that's not even a bad car! She keeps saying its all she's going to ask for Christmas and her birthday, and DD #2 would get it when she drives(14 now). What would you guys do? BTW I drive a Honda Minivan.
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Anonymous
| You sound beyond help if you’re an adult or you need to do your homework, little girl. |
Anonymous
| If you can afford financially, you should. Same with at our school, the girls are crazy about their jeeps. I doubt it would hurt to surprise her on Christmas! |
Anonymous
| Tell her to get a job to buy it herself. I would never buy my kid a $40,000 car in a million years. |
Anonymous
| Do you need to buy her a Jeep? Is this a serious question? |
Anonymous
| No way. Seems for spoiled children only! DD will drive DH's old car when he gets a new one. No need to spend the money on that, save it for a nice family vacation. Highly unnecessary for a teen. |
Anonymous
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You know this question will get you flamed here, don't you, OP?
You know that handing kids what they want because "all he other kids have it!" is the classic, swift route to creating an entitled young adult who places huge value on what others think of her possessions--right? By the way, if you're not yet looking at colleges: FYI, 40 grand is around two years' tuition at an in-state college or most of one year at a private college. |
Anonymous
^^does she have a job? if not, no way. if so, make her pay for part of it if she wants it that bad. I guess your at a W because DD knows she isn't getting a jeep any time soon! |
Anonymous
| this seems like a fair question... we went thru this last year, and DC just graduated last spring. maybe he wasn't as cool as the other kids but i sure no it hasn't made a difference now |
Anonymous
Do most people not have jeeps at your child's hs? At ours they are everywhere, but no way in hell are we buying DC one. |
Anonymous
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Jalopnik says they are not good cars for teenagers.
https://jalopnik.com/why-a-jeep-wrangler-isnt-a-good-first-car-for-your-teen-1826758105 |
Anonymous
| Buy her a pre 2010 wrangler with standard transmission and roll up windows. At least she should learn to shift gears and you can't text and drive with a gear shift. It's cooler, skill building and cheaper. |
Anonymous
| You and your DD need to figure out the difference between ‘want’ and ‘need.’ |
Anonymous
| Don't buy her a car that she could not afford herself. Starting out in the career world (in the future) if her salary could not have purchased this car, you are setting her up for unhappiness, for feeling inadequate as a young person just starting out career wise. It gets her use to a standard of living that she, alone, can not support. She will need a "next" car after this one, and you want it to be something she's proud she bought on her own, to feel she's moving-up in the world on her own. Now, only you know the cost of the Jeep and what bells and whistles it has. Only you might/might not be able to ballpark a future starting salary --- but I think I've made my point. And I think without considering these points, it's bad parenting. |
Anonymous
this |