Does your child do his/her homework independently

[Anonymous]

Do you check that your kid has done your homework, or do you leave your kid to take care of it independently?
I have had trouble getting my kid to take this responsibility. Am I the only one struggling.

My parents never watched over my homework or checked it. I remember only a handful of times when I was told I got to study, but those were when I was older.
I guess having an older sibling helped, because I was excited to get my very own homework, before I had tried to do my brothers homework in secret and had got caught.
Anyways, I would like my kid to take this on herself. I have heard a lot about curling parenting, but it is just not for me.

She has struggled throughout her school, and I just don't want to be the nagging type of parent. Am I the only one?
Her teachers are frustrated, because she sometimes just refuses to do it herself.

When dd was in 4th grade I watched over her for some time and the teachers were happy, then when I left the responsibility to her, I eventually got a call from a social worker wanting to do a house call. This is because a sudden drop in homework is a sign that the chil is abused.

On the other hand when I have mentioned to teachers that I think this is her responsibility, they have agreed.

Now I am still struggling with this.

Please give me some hints on how you have managed this.

thanks

[Anonymous]

How old is she now? By middle school, I would expect my child to be more independent and I think the teachers would agree. What bothers me is the homework assigned to kids as young as K even though studies have shown it has no benefit before 3rd grade or so. So parents often have to be the taskmasters and it often ruins the little time they have w/ their child each night. I would ask this question to your child's teachers during P/T conferences.

[Anonymous]

All of a sudden this year my fifth grader does his homework at aftercare or grandma's or wherever and comes home and tells me "I need help with problems 7 and 12" if that's the case. If he has multiple day homework he plans ahead and does it early if he has an afterschool activity the day before it's due. I ask each evening if the homework is done and packed, but I don't actually check.

However, when I talk to other parents they tell me this is very unusual, and I can tell you he didn't learn this from his scatterbrained, disorganized mother. I think there's a wide range of homework independence at this age.