15 year old daughter screams and yells alot

[Anonymous]

Just wondering if this is normal? She seems to do fine at school and sports, but she hollers and slams her door and gets easily frustrated at home. Any feedback is greatly appreciated!

[Anonymous]

Ha... totally normal. I was also a teenage door slammer. I was well-behaved in all other ways but I let my parents have it sometimes. We were always close and still are, but teenage girls are moody and dramatic.

[Anonymous]

I think I slammed a few doors when I was 15....totally normal. but, saying that, I do remember why I was so angry as a teenager: my parents sucked. they were the un happiest couple ever and it affected me big time.

[Anonymous]

Ah, the teenage years. Yep, normal.

[Anonymous]

I sympathize, OP. The hardest part of this is for the parent to not get angry/yell back. I want to model anger control to my daughter but it's so hard to not get angry about her drama.

[Anonymous]

if you ask me i say she maybe is streesed out and if you cant fix it it will get worse

[Anonymous]

Totally normal.

When my son does something I can't stand or worry about, I always take a good unadorned look in the mirror. Usually helps me find a path toward the solution (not always).

[Anonymous]

Join the club! I have two teen sons, and both have their moments of high drama and door slamming. I think they work hard to hold it together in school, sports, and activities, then take it out on their parents.

[Anonymous]

op here, these replies are all so helpful and encouraging. Thank-you.

[Anonymous]

Well, it might be normal, but I don't think you should stand for it. Meaning: what the person above at 7:23 said. I wouldn't appease that kind of very rud behavior... (says mother of 2.5 year old who has no actual experience with parenting a teen. )

[Anonymous]

I would have her lose some priviledge for loud screaming, try to encourage normal tone discourse.

[Anonymous]

I was just reading this yesterday (not that your situation is as bad):
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/magazine/8366113.stm

I thought it was interesting about the differences between boys and girls:

"Boys and girls feel the same but have different ways of acting out when they are distressed and upset," says Ms Hayman. "Boys self-destruct outside the home by doing things like drinking or joy-riding. Girls do it in more intimate ways like arguments with parents."