Anyone have a lesbian primary care doctor? Fairfax

[Anonymous]

Interested for my teen lesbian. Thx

[Anonymous]

Goodness, how do you politely ask your doctor’s sexual preference?

“Yes, I see that you passed your boards, but do you prefer men or women in sexual encounters?”

I understand that your daughter is at a vulnerable time in her life, but this fascination with sexual preferences of service providers is misplaced. If she needs to talk to someone about her feelings, maybe a therapist? Or are their specific physical or medical issues due to her sexuality? Is abuse or assault is the issue? Is she afraid of men seeing her body or does she WANT to be examined by a woman who shares her sexual preferences? Does she think only another lesbian will be able to treat her well, or with respect?

I think you just need a practice that is “gay friendly” not a
Service provider who shares your daughter’s specific sexual preferences.

[Anonymous]

I have no idea the sexual preference of our health care providers. My 17 year old is gay. Why would he need a gay doctor?

[Anonymous]

There are actually some doctors who are open about this bi found a number listed online but all men. My teen wants a lesbian doctor so I’m asking. If you have anything helpful to share, thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Goodness, how do you politely ask your doctor’s sexual preference?

“Yes, I see that you passed your boards, but do you prefer men or women in sexual encounters?”

I understand that your daughter is at a vulnerable time in her life, but this fascination with sexual preferences of service providers is misplaced. If she needs to talk to someone about her feelings, maybe a therapist? Or are their specific physical or medical issues due to her sexuality? Is abuse or assault is the issue? Is she afraid of men seeing her body or does she WANT to be examined by a woman who shares her sexual preferences? Does she think only another lesbian will be able to treat her well, or with respect?

I think you just need a practice that is “gay friendly” not a
Service provider who shares your daughter’s specific sexual preferences.

good rule of thumb: stfu about things you know nothing about

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Goodness, how do you politely ask your doctor’s sexual preference?

“Yes, I see that you passed your boards, but do you prefer men or women in sexual encounters?”

I understand that your daughter is at a vulnerable time in her life, but this fascination with sexual preferences of service providers is misplaced. If she needs to talk to someone about her feelings, maybe a therapist? Or are their specific physical or medical issues due to her sexuality? Is abuse or assault is the issue? Is she afraid of men seeing her body or does she WANT to be examined by a woman who shares her sexual preferences? Does she think only another lesbian will be able to treat her well, or with respect?

I think you just need a practice that is “gay friendly” not a
Service provider who shares your daughter’s specific sexual preferences.

good rule of thumb: stfu about things you know nothing about

Want to be clear, this poster is not me. -op

[Anonymous]

Loop here - http://www.glma.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=Page.viewPage&pageId=939&grandparentID=534&parentID=938&nodeID=1

There are many reasons that a person might want a LGBT MD.

If I had a dollar for every time I have been asked what method of birth control I use (despite writing, "partner is a woman" on every form) I could retire.

Many MDs ask about STIs and think that if you partner with a woman, you aren't at risk, Wrong.

Some people may not feel comfortable coming out to a provider because they fear judgement, ridicule, lack of understanding, discrimination, etc.

Many providers ask if you are sexually active and just make the assumption it is a person of the opposite gender.

- old lesbian who has dealt with all of these things

[Anonymous]

Hi ! I’m the teen lesbian, op’s daughter.

I want to see a lesbian doctor because I want to speak to someone who will understand what I’m asking for. Someone who won’t be judgmental or possibly discriminate against me regarding medical decisions that could change my life. Because you want to have a good doctor who you like and who likes you. Because you want to have a doctor that knows exactly what you’re going through, like the older lesbian above said.

My doctor’s sexual lives are of no concern to me, because I KNOW I won’t be having sex with them. It’s more about the experiences the doctor has been through and the decisions they will make because of them. My mother asked this question to this forum because she expected positive answers from parents who support their children and their decisions 100%, and as long as the decisions are safe, with no questions asked. I want a lesbian doctor because it will make me comfortable. Thank you, older lesbian

[Anonymous]

OP, I hope you and your daughter can find just what you're looking for.

In the event that you can't, you might consider a progressive practice with younger practitioners. I think providers who were trained in more recent years are likely to be better informed on average. At our practice, we always ask if our patient has sex with men, women, or both. No assumptions. Hopefully providers who are openminded and work to ask the right questions are thoughtful and well informed on average.

[Anonymous]

There are absolutely docs and practices that will list lgbtqi health as a speciality but the docs may or may not be gay. There are trained, compotent and sensitive professionals in this area - would that be sufficient or must the doctor also be a lesibian?