Inivitation to wedding but spouse not invited

[mselmer]

My friend Sara, who is single, was telling me about a man, John, from work who’s getting married in December. Their dept at work is only 10 people. She’s bothered because she wasn’t invited and so far only 2 men from the dept are invited. She doesn’t like John. She thinks he’s lazy and too social at work. She’s annoyed because she recruited him for the dept. The boss seems to be happy with John’s work though and he’s one of the 2 invited. Sara thinks the whole dept (all 10 of them) should be invited, without spouses, and have their own table at the wedding. Only Sara and one guy in the dept are single. She’s not interested in him and he has a girlfriend. I told her John can’t invite guests and not invite their spouses too. That’s very socially weird and why would they attend a celebration of marriage without their spouse. She thinks spouses wouldn’t mind not being invited because they don’t know John well or at all, anyway. I told her you can’t invite a married person, or a guest with a significant other, to a wedding without the other person. Who’s right in this situation?

[Anonymous]

Who cares? If someone at my work had a wedding and did not invite me, I would not think anything of it. They're nice enough coworkers but not close personal friends. If someone invited me but not my spouse, I would also think nothing of it, and would go or not depending on how busy I was with stuff for the kids.

[Anonymous]

John is right. He gets to invite anyone he wants to. If the person he invites has a spouse they get invited too but they can always say no.

[Anonymous]

John is right. And Sara is way off base suggesting who should and shouldn't be invited. She jumped on the rude train simply by insisting that the entire team needs to be invited to this wedding, with or without spouses.

Tell her to stay in her lane.

[Anonymous]

Why does she even want to go to his wedding if she doesn't like him?

[Anonymous]

Sara sounds like a clueless weirdo. It’s a wedding, not a first grade birthday party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sara sounds like a clueless weirdo. It’s a wedding, not a first grade birthday party.

Ha! +1

[Anonymous]

I worked in an office with 6 people, one of whom spent the better part of a year planning her wedding during work hours. She would tie up multiple phone lines playing vendors against each other in real time to try and get them to cut costs.

This was a graphic design firm. She had the lead designer create her invitations, and used firm resources to get them printed -- possibly for nothing. She did all the firm's billing, and I wouldn't be surprised if she buried the print cost in a client's expenses.

When the time came, she made a big deal out of presenting an invitation to the boss in person, again during work hours -- saving the cost of a couple of stamps.

She didn't invite anyone else in the office. Even the guy who designed her invites for free.

I was 23 at the time, so I learned early that weddings make people insane.

[Anonymous]

As a Pp said, it isn't a first grade birthday party.

She has her nose out of joint over someone she can't stand. It sounds like she's in first grade.