Cake pops at birthdays - provide for parents also?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

I've never been to a party where food and cake is only provided for the children.

If you're having a party over lunch time or dinner time, you absolutely have to provide food for everyone. It would be incredibly rude not to.

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I think it is a SES and culture thing. I have also only gone to parties where lunch or dinner is provided for everyone and parents and siblings are welcome and included in the invite. However, all of the parties were in highly educated, diverse, cosmopolitan and DCUM middle class households.

But, enough people post on DCUM saying that they only provide cake for the kids, or they won't provide for parents and siblings etc. or they pick odd birthday party timing so that they do not have to provide a meal - so I am guessing they are either lower SES or generally socialized differently. Must be from outside of DMV?

Same demographic and opposite experience. But maybe it’s because my kids were older? Baby parties were for everyone but adults don’t want to be there now. Maybe a dad would eat a piece of pizza under duress, but that’s it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I've never been to a party where food and cake is only provided for the children.

If you're having a party over lunch time or dinner time, you absolutely have to provide food for everyone. It would be incredibly rude not to.

+ 1

I think it is a SES and culture thing. I have also only gone to parties where lunch or dinner is provided for everyone and parents and siblings are welcome and included in the invite. However, all of the parties were in highly educated, diverse, cosmopolitan and DCUM middle class households.

But, enough people post on DCUM saying that they only provide cake for the kids, or they won't provide for parents and siblings etc. or they pick odd birthday party timing so that they do not have to provide a meal - so I am guessing they are either lower SES or generally socialized differently. Must be from outside of DMV?

Same demographic and opposite experience. But maybe it’s because my kids were older? Baby parties were for everyone but adults don’t want to be there now. Maybe a dad would eat a piece of pizza under duress, but that’s it.

All of the parties I go to hosted by working class families have a ton of food and the whole family is welcome. I would expect a slice of cake but not a cake pop (prechewed cake on a stick).

[Anonymous]

I've never been to a party that included parents that did not also provide food + dessert for the parents, though I don't think the hosts truly expect parents to indulge.

Mostly it is the dads who really eat and the moms just drink coffee and maybe steal a bite of cake from their kid vs have their own slice.

I think you just need to be clear, "These tables and pizza/whatever/vegetable tray is for the adults!" and offer them a dessert, too. Don't just leave them awkwardly hanging wondering if they are also meant to indulge. Most parents don't join in unless you explicitly invite/offer them to do so. In my experience, it is the dads who don't hesitate to eat even without a seat. The moms want a seat to chat with other parents while the snack or drink coffee or whatever is being enjoyed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot be the only mom in DC who would eat a freaking cake pop. Come on they're like the size of a quarter.

I would rather eat the quarter. Cake pops are basically a wad of nasty fondant with a teaspoon of undercooked sludge cake inside. Eww.

You're getting them at the wrong place then, I feel bad for you.

Seriously, cake pops are cake crumbs mixed with frosting then covered in melted chocolate with sprinkles. Who gets fondant-covered cake pops? Maybe if you are getting something super-duper design-y?

[Anonymous]

Whether you like cake pops or not, it's good form to have enough extra food to accommodate a dropped pop, an extra sibling, or the handful of parents who are racing from your birthday party to soccer and haven't had their own lunch. Be a good host and provide enough food and drink. The venue, if you are having the party at a venue, can usually provide guidance on how many pizzas, etc, if you're not sure.

[Anonymous]

Make the cake pops yourself! It’s actually really fun and the kids can help. You bake a cake, crumble the entire cake, mix it with frosting and compress to form balls. Then dip in melted dipping chocolate and add sprinkles. It’s literally cake!

[Anonymous]

If it’s not a drop off party, you feed everyone there. It’s already bad enough that at the stupid preschool venues that there aren’t enough chairs, for pete’s sake have some refreshments for the parents. Parents are more likely to eat a cake pop than cake because it’s easier to eat one handed standing up and it’s a controlled amount.

Who raised you people?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:adults dont eat cake pops

This. They are not food and the adults don't want to eat them. Don't even want to be offered then.

I love cake pops (34yo woman)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:adults dont eat cake pops

This. They are not food and the adults don't want to eat them. Don't even want to be offered then.

I went to a birthday party recently with cake pops (enough for kids and adults). All the adults were eating them too. They were good!

I would never consider hosting anyone, parent or child, without having enough to go around.

And +1 to having a few extra because a kid will definitely drop one. If you’re looking to save money, go get one of those gigantic Costco cakes for $20. They’re delicious and can feed a small army.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot be the only mom in DC who would eat a freaking cake pop. Come on they're like the size of a quarter.

I would rather eat the quarter. Cake pops are basically a wad of nasty fondant with a teaspoon of undercooked sludge cake inside. Eww.

Have never seen a fondant cake pop. And they sound tedious to even make. Cake pops are dipped in melted chocolate. What whack job bakery is using fondant?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cannot be the only mom in DC who would eat a freaking cake pop. Come on they're like the size of a quarter.

I would eat a cake pop!

I would too.

Same here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:adults dont eat cake pops

This. They are not food and the adults don't want to eat them. Don't even want to be offered then.

I love cake pops (34yo woman)

Me too. I get one with my coffee at least once/week. - 47-year-old woman.

[Anonymous]

I went to a kid party once where they clearly didn’t mean for the adults to eat. I ate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cannot be the only mom in DC who would eat a freaking cake pop. Come on they're like the size of a quarter.

I would rather eat the quarter. Cake pops are basically a wad of nasty fondant with a teaspoon of undercooked sludge cake inside. Eww.

Have never seen a fondant cake pop. And they sound tedious to even make. Cake pops are dipped in melted chocolate. What whack job bakery is using fondant?

Yeah, fondant cake pops aren't a thing. Weird attempt to be rude/snotty. (And yeah that are freaking tedious to make.... )

[Anonymous]

Clearly most of you don’t know how cake pops are made (the recent posts all have it right), and I’m betting even more of you have never even eaten one. OP - make your own and have enough for everyone, plus extras to take home. I hope my kid brings me one!