Adopt a Family for the Holidays?

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Anonymous wrote:Families need help all the time. Not just at holidays

Oh they do?
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Anonymous wrote:I don't think that is excessive. For a teenager, that's a coat, a pair of shoes, a small gift card, maybe a sweatshirt or socks/underwear and you are in the $100-150 range.


No, it’s not super excessive for one person. But if a family has 4-6 people, that’s could be up to $900 total for the family. Maybe that is small change to you, but not to me.





I don't even spend that much on my kids. Maybe half that. Never heard of clearance sales?? I make 75K per year so no, no hundreds per kids.


Please. Your kids already have coats, shoes, hats, the basics. Of course you don't spend $X on them. They literally don't need anything for the holidays. You have to rack your brain to make lists. You have to put mental energy into thinking up things you can ask 6 relatives who will also call and ask for what they want/need.

A kid in NEED, yeah. Just to get them outfitted with a few basics that they NEED, that's at least $100 per kid right there.

If you people get sticker shock over spending, say, $500 on a family in need who doesn't have the basics, that's fine. Go find other ways to give. But let's not act like it is unreasonable to spend a few hundred dollars on a family of four who needs coats, groceries, shoes, jeans, BASICS.

We do house of Ruth as a group of co-workers. I can't afford $500 on my own. So I team up and contribute to a group effort. That's kind of...the way it is done. If you don't want to do that, that's fine, but don't act like it's absurd to spend a few hundred on a FAMILY who doesn't have the basics.


I don' know where you are shopping but for $100 I can get a kid a lot. I don't spend more than $15 or so on a coat. I buy ahead on clearance and mine usually wear them at least 2 years.


You are going to buy ahead on clearance for your angel tree kid?
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I would love a link on where to get a teenager a warm, waterproof quality new winter coat for $15. Please share!
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Anonymous wrote:I don't think that is excessive. For a teenager, that's a coat, a pair of shoes, a small gift card, maybe a sweatshirt or socks/underwear and you are in the $100-150 range.


No, it’s not super excessive for one person. But if a family has 4-6 people, that’s could be up to $900 total for the family. Maybe that is small change to you, but not to me.





I don't even spend that much on my kids. Maybe half that. Never heard of clearance sales?? I make 75K per year so no, no hundreds per kids.


Please. Your kids already have coats, shoes, hats, the basics. Of course you don't spend $X on them. They literally don't need anything for the holidays. You have to rack your brain to make lists. You have to put mental energy into thinking up things you can ask 6 relatives who will also call and ask for what they want/need.

A kid in NEED, yeah. Just to get them outfitted with a few basics that they NEED, that's at least $100 per kid right there.

If you people get sticker shock over spending, say, $500 on a family in need who doesn't have the basics, that's fine. Go find other ways to give. But let's not act like it is unreasonable to spend a few hundred dollars on a family of four who needs coats, groceries, shoes, jeans, BASICS.

We do house of Ruth as a group of co-workers. I can't afford $500 on my own. So I team up and contribute to a group effort. That's kind of...the way it is done. If you don't want to do that, that's fine, but don't act like it's absurd to spend a few hundred on a FAMILY who doesn't have the basics.


I don' know where you are shopping but for $100 I can get a kid a lot. I don't spend more than $15 or so on a coat. I buy ahead on clearance and mine usually wear them at least 2 years.


You are going to buy ahead on clearance for your angel tree kid?


You easily could buy a bunch of outfits in one size and pick a child accordingly.
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I do gift cards to target and some gas stations and donate them to the women/kids shelter and the kids who aged out of foster care (through my county).

I donate periodically through the year. My daughter also chooses a gift to donate off of the tree in her school.
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Anonymous wrote:I don't think that is excessive. For a teenager, that's a coat, a pair of shoes, a small gift card, maybe a sweatshirt or socks/underwear and you are in the $100-150 range.


No, it’s not super excessive for one person. But if a family has 4-6 people, that’s could be up to $900 total for the family. Maybe that is small change to you, but not to me.





I don't even spend that much on my kids. Maybe half that. Never heard of clearance sales?? I make 75K per year so no, no hundreds per kids.


Please. Your kids already have coats, shoes, hats, the basics. Of course you don't spend $X on them. They literally don't need anything for the holidays. You have to rack your brain to make lists. You have to put mental energy into thinking up things you can ask 6 relatives who will also call and ask for what they want/need.

A kid in NEED, yeah. Just to get them outfitted with a few basics that they NEED, that's at least $100 per kid right there.

If you people get sticker shock over spending, say, $500 on a family in need who doesn't have the basics, that's fine. Go find other ways to give. But let's not act like it is unreasonable to spend a few hundred dollars on a family of four who needs coats, groceries, shoes, jeans, BASICS.

We do house of Ruth as a group of co-workers. I can't afford $500 on my own. So I team up and contribute to a group effort. That's kind of...the way it is done. If you don't want to do that, that's fine, but don't act like it's absurd to spend a few hundred on a FAMILY who doesn't have the basics.


I don' know where you are shopping but for $100 I can get a kid a lot. I don't spend more than $15 or so on a coat. I buy ahead on clearance and mine usually wear them at least 2 years.


You are going to buy ahead on clearance for your angel tree kid?


You easily could buy a bunch of outfits in one size and pick a child accordingly.


Interesting spirit of giving, with no thought for what the child likes or dislikes, just whatever crap in the right size you found at Walmart.
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Anonymous wrote:I tried googling for this, but it was more difficult than I imagined. Anyone do an "adopt a family" type thing for the holidays? Could you tell me the name of the charity please? I'm trying to get my 4 year old to see outside herself a little. Thanks.


Brute Paths run for Thanksgiving and Christmas. https://britepaths.org/
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Anonymous wrote:I adopted my 3 kids. I adopted all my pets. There are mine, forever.

We SPONSOR a family through our church at holidays.


There are so many actual things to worry and focus on in this world. If anyone wants to show love and kindness and support by buying items or food or gift cards for people who need them, they can call that process what they like. Let's get it done. Let's use our resources and wealth and time and compassion and let's get it done.


You are completely missing the point. Handing over money or stuff at the holidays isn't as helpful as you think. People need stuff all year round but they also need so much more, quality child care, educations, etc.

If you really want to help, adopt a child who no one else wants to adopt. But, of course that would be a lot of effort, money and time and you are not actually willing to do something more than that takes a few hours to pat yourself on the back and move on.

Adoption is true love.


NP. I think it is you who is missing the point. Of course these families need more, but a coat, a few toys and some jeans is a start. Why dismiss that? To react this way over the use of the word adoption is just crazy. No one is questioning the love shown by adopting a child. For the holiday season, people are talking about adopting a family for a day, just so they know others care and to help how they can. I get you think that isn't enough. I chose to see it as a start.


+1! Well put.
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Anonymous wrote:I don't think that is excessive. For a teenager, that's a coat, a pair of shoes, a small gift card, maybe a sweatshirt or socks/underwear and you are in the $100-150 range.


No, it’s not super excessive for one person. But if a family has 4-6 people, that’s could be up to $900 total for the family. Maybe that is small change to you, but not to me.





I don't even spend that much on my kids. Maybe half that. Never heard of clearance sales?? I make 75K per year so no, no hundreds per kids.


Please. Your kids already have coats, shoes, hats, the basics. Of course you don't spend $X on them. They literally don't need anything for the holidays. You have to rack your brain to make lists. You have to put mental energy into thinking up things you can ask 6 relatives who will also call and ask for what they want/need.

A kid in NEED, yeah. Just to get them outfitted with a few basics that they NEED, that's at least $100 per kid right there.

If you people get sticker shock over spending, say, $500 on a family in need who doesn't have the basics, that's fine. Go find other ways to give. But let's not act like it is unreasonable to spend a few hundred dollars on a family of four who needs coats, groceries, shoes, jeans, BASICS.

We do house of Ruth as a group of co-workers. I can't afford $500 on my own. So I team up and contribute to a group effort. That's kind of...the way it is done. If you don't want to do that, that's fine, but don't act like it's absurd to spend a few hundred on a FAMILY who doesn't have the basics.


I'm not disagreeing about how much it costs to feed and clothe a family of 4. It is indeed expensive. But you yourself said you alone can't afford $500 and that you have to chip in with your co-workers to support this family of 4. Well, how about extending the same grace to others who also can't afford $500 just like you can't, eh?
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A wider circle does this.
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Anonymous wrote:I don't think that is excessive. For a teenager, that's a coat, a pair of shoes, a small gift card, maybe a sweatshirt or socks/underwear and you are in the $100-150 range.


No, it’s not super excessive for one person. But if a family has 4-6 people, that’s could be up to $900 total for the family. Maybe that is small change to you, but not to me.





I don't even spend that much on my kids. Maybe half that. Never heard of clearance sales?? I make 75K per year so no, no hundreds per kids.


Please. Your kids already have coats, shoes, hats, the basics. Of course you don't spend $X on them. They literally don't need anything for the holidays. You have to rack your brain to make lists. You have to put mental energy into thinking up things you can ask 6 relatives who will also call and ask for what they want/need.

A kid in NEED, yeah. Just to get them outfitted with a few basics that they NEED, that's at least $100 per kid right there.

If you people get sticker shock over spending, say, $500 on a family in need who doesn't have the basics, that's fine. Go find other ways to give. But let's not act like it is unreasonable to spend a few hundred dollars on a family of four who needs coats, groceries, shoes, jeans, BASICS.

We do house of Ruth as a group of co-workers. I can't afford $500 on my own. So I team up and contribute to a group effort. That's kind of...the way it is done. If you don't want to do that, that's fine, but don't act like it's absurd to spend a few hundred on a FAMILY who doesn't have the basics.


I don' know where you are shopping but for $100 I can get a kid a lot. I don't spend more than $15 or so on a coat. I buy ahead on clearance and mine usually wear them at least 2 years.


You are going to buy ahead on clearance for your angel tree kid?


You easily could buy a bunch of outfits in one size and pick a child accordingly.


Interesting spirit of giving, with no thought for what the child likes or dislikes, just whatever crap in the right size you found at Walmart.

How would you know what the angel tree kid likes? They don't usually give super detailed lists, just sizes and general items. They don't tell you that Jimmy hates plaid or Tina only likes green and blue.
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't think that is excessive. For a teenager, that's a coat, a pair of shoes, a small gift card, maybe a sweatshirt or socks/underwear and you are in the $100-150 range.


No, it’s not super excessive for one person. But if a family has 4-6 people, that’s could be up to $900 total for the family. Maybe that is small change to you, but not to me.





I don't even spend that much on my kids. Maybe half that. Never heard of clearance sales?? I make 75K per year so no, no hundreds per kids.


Please. Your kids already have coats, shoes, hats, the basics. Of course you don't spend $X on them. They literally don't need anything for the holidays. You have to rack your brain to make lists. You have to put mental energy into thinking up things you can ask 6 relatives who will also call and ask for what they want/need.

A kid in NEED, yeah. Just to get them outfitted with a few basics that they NEED, that's at least $100 per kid right there.

If you people get sticker shock over spending, say, $500 on a family in need who doesn't have the basics, that's fine. Go find other ways to give. But let's not act like it is unreasonable to spend a few hundred dollars on a family of four who needs coats, groceries, shoes, jeans, BASICS.

We do house of Ruth as a group of co-workers. I can't afford $500 on my own. So I team up and contribute to a group effort. That's kind of...the way it is done. If you don't want to do that, that's fine, but don't act like it's absurd to spend a few hundred on a FAMILY who doesn't have the basics.


I don' know where you are shopping but for $100 I can get a kid a lot. I don't spend more than $15 or so on a coat. I buy ahead on clearance and mine usually wear them at least 2 years.


You are going to buy ahead on clearance for your angel tree kid?


You easily could buy a bunch of outfits in one size and pick a child accordingly.


Interesting spirit of giving, with no thought for what the child likes or dislikes, just whatever crap in the right size you found at Walmart.


What's wrong with Walmart clothing? We wear some. Usually not as I can get other brands cheaper, like UA. Most don't give specifics and at some point, a gift is a gift. Be grateful or don't ask for stuff.
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