Twins?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am also a twin mom, and agree with the above posters. I had a older toddler who spent time in the NICU when he was born, and he was one of only two singletons. The rest of the babies were twins, in various states of distress. When I found out I was having twins, I was terrified as a result of what I had seen. I had a really difficult pregnancy, my twins were born 5 weeks early, and are mostly healthy, though one has a lifelong chronic condition. Every day of the first year of their life revolved simply around attending to the basic needs of my three children, I had little to no time to enjoy their infancy or to just hold then, and I have no memories of the twin's "firsts" etc.

This is me too and it breaks my heart to this day. I did not have the benefit of help or a nanny or family to assist. And it was grueling and I missed out on the care and nurturing I was able to give my singleton older child with my twins.

[Anonymous]

My sister in law had twins recently and had both her mother and mother in law move in with them for the first year almost. That certainly seemed to make a huge difference from what I can tell based on other posts here. Op - do you have an option of having family help during the first year or so?