Pre Nup - did you sign?

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[Post New]07/02/2017 09:57
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is a tough decision.

Friend of mine met girl online that had a kid from previous marriage. He owned a home, great job, car and a child. She had never owned a home, hadn't worked in a while and was living with relatives. It was love at first site and they got married. That was about 18 months ago. Now it is a new kinda hell for him. A prenup was mentioned and advised by several friends and family but he thought that mentioning it would offend her and make her mad so he didn't and they married. Things started to unravel about 6 months after they married. About a year after he filed for divorce. She got a lawyer and as suspected she is going after 1/2 of everything. 401k, house she is even trying for visitation with his child and she wants child support and alimony (she never did get a job)

Prenups are good and the negotiation is at a time when both people will be the most generous that they ever will be. If friend had one in place he wouldn't be faced with selling his home and handing over 1/2 the proceeds and 1/2 of a significant 401k


Your friend is kinda stupid. You need new friends.


I agree, I do especially now that this has ended like a nuclear explosion he is expecting everyone to pitch in and help after we told him not to do it in the first place
[Post New]07/02/2017 10:03
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:This is a tough decision.

Friend of mine met girl online that had a kid from previous marriage. He owned a home, great job, car and a child. She had never owned a home, hadn't worked in a while and was living with relatives. It was love at first site and they got married. That was about 18 months ago. Now it is a new kinda hell for him. A prenup was mentioned and advised by several friends and family but he thought that mentioning it would offend her and make her mad so he didn't and they married. Things started to unravel about 6 months after they married. About a year after he filed for divorce. She got a lawyer and as suspected she is going after 1/2 of everything. 401k, house she is even trying for visitation with his child and she wants child support and alimony (she never did get a job)

Prenups are good and the negotiation is at a time when both people will be the most generous that they ever will be. If friend had one in place he wouldn't be faced with selling his home and handing over 1/2 the proceeds and 1/2 of a significant 401k


In most states she isn't going to get much if he fights at all. It's a one year marriage. Judges know what kind of woman this is. Marrying a man with a house and 401k isn't winning the lottery anymore.
[Post New]07/02/2017 10:10
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is a tough decision.

Friend of mine met girl online that had a kid from previous marriage. He owned a home, great job, car and a child. She had never owned a home, hadn't worked in a while and was living with relatives. It was love at first site and they got married. That was about 18 months ago. Now it is a new kinda hell for him. A prenup was mentioned and advised by several friends and family but he thought that mentioning it would offend her and make her mad so he didn't and they married. Things started to unravel about 6 months after they married. About a year after he filed for divorce. She got a lawyer and as suspected she is going after 1/2 of everything. 401k, house she is even trying for visitation with his child and she wants child support and alimony (she never did get a job)

Prenups are good and the negotiation is at a time when both people will be the most generous that they ever will be. If friend had one in place he wouldn't be faced with selling his home and handing over 1/2 the proceeds and 1/2 of a significant 401k


In most states she isn't going to get much if he fights at all. It's a one year marriage. Judges know what kind of woman this is. Marrying a man with a house and 401k isn't winning the lottery anymore.


If you come from nothing and not working then a guy with a house and a 401k is powerball and megamillions combined. Sure I guy that has a trust fund is even better but if you have nothing the 401k will do fine
[Post New]07/02/2017 13:54
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Anonymous wrote:Neither one of you should marry. Immature on both your parts


+1 Run from this relationship. Use your newfound wisdom to pick a better man.
[Post New]07/02/2017 15:30
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is a tough decision.

Friend of mine met girl online that had a kid from previous marriage. He owned a home, great job, car and a child. She had never owned a home, hadn't worked in a while and was living with relatives. It was love at first site and they got married. That was about 18 months ago. Now it is a new kinda hell for him. A prenup was mentioned and advised by several friends and family but he thought that mentioning it would offend her and make her mad so he didn't and they married. Things started to unravel about 6 months after they married. About a year after he filed for divorce. She got a lawyer and as suspected she is going after 1/2 of everything. 401k, house she is even trying for visitation with his child and she wants child support and alimony (she never did get a job)

Prenups are good and the negotiation is at a time when both people will be the most generous that they ever will be. If friend had one in place he wouldn't be faced with selling his home and handing over 1/2 the proceeds and 1/2 of a significant 401k


In most states she isn't going to get much if he fights at all. It's a one year marriage. Judges know what kind of woman this is. Marrying a man with a house and 401k isn't winning the lottery anymore.


If you come from nothing and not working then a guy with a house and a 401k is powerball and megamillions combined. Sure I guy that has a trust fund is even better but if you have nothing the 401k will do fine


Except you aren't going to get it, at least not in MD or VA. Not on a one-year marriage, and not if the husband has a lawyer with a pulse. 401k is pre-marital as is the house. Best she can do it half of one year's 401k and half home equity accrued in that year. No alimony at all.

People with nothing thing a $10k or $20k payout is hitting the lottery. There's a reason they have nothing--they are dumb and greedy.
[Post New]07/03/2017 19:17
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Anonymous
Never
[Post New]07/03/2017 21:22
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:You're an idiot if you sign something believing that it "has no legal teeth."


This. Dear god. I'm a lawyer and this is just disturbing to read.

OP, at a minimum, please make sure the pre-nup runs both ways and your fiance signs it, to protect your assets.
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