What are DWs planning for Father's Day

[Anonymous]

I'll probably make my husband something he really likes for lunch prior to leaving for work. Of course, I had to cook both before and after work on Mother's day, so part of me thinks I shouldn't do a darn thing for him.

[Anonymous]

I asked DH what he wanted and he said that he wanted a day to play video games with our sons without me nagging them about turning off the TV and screen time. Done.


Dad here. Unless it's freakishly hot, like 105 degrees, this doesn't sound appealing to me at all. An hour? Sure. A day? In June? No...... But to each his own.

Mom here who does play video games ( although not all day) Her DH probably won't spend the whole day but, rather will enjoy the freedom of not being nagged about spending time with the kids the way that they want to spend it.

Relax a little and let the Dads ( and some moms) play video games with their kids. Unless it is every day, all day than it is not a problem to spend a few hours enjoying playing games with your kids. I think sometimes you need to back off and not treat the DH as a kid themselves.

OP here. I see your point. I just get frustrated because younger DS has severe dyslexia and social anxiety, and I don't feel like video games are helping either. But you are right, an hour or so on a weekend day is not going to kill anyone or make a huge difference.

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DH here, in my case I usually get to choose what I get to eat for dinner. Then like most nights I cook it for the family, though on Father's day the family makes an effort to clean the dishes and items I cooked with. I will get a card, and excuses about how hard I am to buy things for which is why I won't get a gift.

Dude. Dad here. As bad as martyr moms are, martyr dads are worse. Not a good look. Appreciate what you have.

Seriously. I'm sure he goes all out for Mother's Day.

OP here, if DW was treated the same way for Mother's Day, there would be hell to pay. She would be on Facebook letting everyone know she did not get a gift. She slept in, we went out to pick out new plants for her to go along with the gift she had already gotten. And yes I cooked her dinner, and made sure the kids got her a card.

I know no one who does this. Facebook is the land of propping up a terrible marriage...not shining the light of reality on it.

Exactly! I call bullshit on anyone who is posting three times a week on how much they live their SO.

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Anonymous wrote:Stupid question. Newlyweds dh has a child from his previous marriage. We have no children. Am I supposed to do something for him?

How is it a stupid question? If you feel it doesn't apply to your situation, that doesn't make it a stupid question.

NP. God people on this site are rude. She wasn't saying the OP was a stupid question because it doesn't apply to her, she was ASKING a "stupid question." PP, I think it would be sweet to do something for him, but it depends on the situation/ages of his kids/what his XDW does? You could ask what he's done in the past.

Thanks Pp; I was asking the "stupid question"
In the past his xw would let him sleep in, and he would bbq.
I was thinking flowers, and making him his favorite meal.
His DC will come over and spend half the day.
Other than that, I'm not sure what else. He's an amazing Dad.
I just want him to feel loved and appreciated.

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We're going away for a long weekend, which we did for Mother's Day. Resort has a lazy river, lake for fishing, boating, jet skiing. A little bit for all of us. It will be my husband, his 2 adult children, and my IL's. Mother's Day was bliss, hoping for the same for Father's Day.

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Anonymous wrote:Stupid question. Newlyweds dh has a child from his previous marriage. We have no children. Am I supposed to do something for him?

How is it a stupid question? If you feel it doesn't apply to your situation, that doesn't make it a stupid question.

NP. God people on this site are rude. She wasn't saying the OP was a stupid question because it doesn't apply to her, she was ASKING a "stupid question." PP, I think it would be sweet to do something for him, but it depends on the situation/ages of his kids/what his XDW does? You could ask what he's done in the past.

Thanks Pp; I was asking the "stupid question"
In the past his xw would let him sleep in, and he would bbq.
I was thinking flowers, and making him his favorite meal.
His DC will come over and spend half the day.
Other than that, I'm not sure what else. He's an amazing Dad.
I just want him to feel loved and appreciated.

NP. Guys don't usually care about flowers but do it if yours does. Sounds like a nice plan, pp.

[Anonymous]

DH is a wonderful father so I'll let him do whatever he wants that day without having to care for our SN child, unless he wants to. He'll probably want to watch sports and work on fantasy baseball. Then we will probably go for a drive and pick up what he wants for dinner. I'll give him a new shirt and DC will make him a card. Sex is a possibility depending on how late DC keeps us up.

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Don't get me flowers or a card or a tie.

Let me sleep in.

Grant me the pleasure of a (B)ig (J)oy! Or a (B)right (J)et! Or a (B)ouncing (J)oey!

Then take the kids somewhere for a while and let me watch the game with a beer in peace.

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Anonymous wrote:DH is a wonderful father so I'll let him do whatever he wants that day without having to care for our SN child, unless he wants to. He'll probably want to watch sports and work on fantasy baseball. Then we will probably go for a drive and pick up what he wants for dinner. I'll give him a new shirt and DC will make him a card. Sex is a possibility depending on how late DC keeps us up.

All sounds good except for that last sentence. Why the passive voice? You control DC, she doesn't control you. This is particularly problematic when sex is in the balance.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't get me flowers or a card or a tie.

Let me sleep in.

Grant me the pleasure of a (B)ig (J)oy! Or a (B)right (J)et! Or a (B)ouncing (J)oey!

Then take the kids somewhere for a while and let me watch the game with a beer in peace.

Problem with this is he gets bright jets every other night. I think he likes fresh flowers in the house. He buys a bouquet every holiday. I plan to let him sleep in. My issue is I already do all of these things. It's not a humble brag. I wanted a unique suggestion.

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Anonymous wrote:He picks the restaurant, I get him a card and he does nothing for the house or family, just like every other weekend.

. Wow. Sounds like my home. He will get a card from D.C.

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Anonymous wrote:DH is a wonderful father so I'll let him do whatever he wants that day without having to care for our SN child, unless he wants to. He'll probably want to watch sports and work on fantasy baseball. Then we will probably go for a drive and pick up what he wants for dinner. I'll give him a new shirt and DC will make him a card. Sex is a possibility depending on how late DC keeps us up.

All sounds good except for that last sentence. Why the passive voice? You control DC, she doesn't control you. This is particularly problematic when sex is in the balance.

You obviously don't have a child with SN.

[Anonymous]

I'll probably go to work in Saturday like he did and then wake up Sunday and ask him what should we all do and where should we all go, like he did.