I felt the same way. So I only asked advice from people whose kids STTN by 2-3 months, followed it and guess what? You can’t avoid a bit of sleep deprivation but it doesn’t have to be terrible (with exception for kids with health problems). Looked into night nurses but didn’t do it bc didn’t like the disclaimers of liability (yep lawyer and own worst enemy). |
not that it matters from a ftm but i recommend night nurses after 6 weeks or so when that nice sleep deprivation kicks in. my 3 month old still wakes up every 2 to 3 hours and i am starting to lose it. in newborn phase they really do sleep all the time and i had adrenaline ha. |
So many other cultures take care of their mothers. In Chinese culture a souped up version of a night Nanny called a confinement Nanny takes care of the mother for a month, watching the baby at night and only bringing in the baby to breastfeed and cooking during the day. All the mother has to do is rest. Same in Mexican culture. The Poster saying mothers are spoilt and entitled is off her rocker. |
In fact it’s so sad that I’m americqn “culture” the mother has to suffer and do everything herself. Ridiculous. |
That’s when I really needed one. I just can’t function or care for my older kids (or drive!) on that level of sleep deprivation. Highly recommend waiting a few weeks to use up the initial adrenaline rush. |
Please note.
Night nurses have medical background and degrees Newborn Care Specialists have been certified as NCS Night nannies may or may not have newborn experience Each charges different amounts with night nurses charging the most. (I know a few and they get 750-1000 per day. Working 16hr shifts) I work as an NCS and charge $45/hr (I travel to my clients. Currently in Paris). I typically work overnight from 10pm to 8 am. If they want 24 hrs I set a flat rate. But that’s all brought up in contracts. My shortest gig was 3 weeks, my longest was 9 months. |
About $25 per hour but that was 11 years ago for a nanny, not a nurse. Twins, premature, a toddler older sibling, my own separate injury unrelated to birth and a C-section. I'd spend it again in a minute. Just be sure the person isn't working days in another job, you want her alert at night. |
Don’t forget they fall asleep too — http://happilyevaafter.com/the-struggle-is-real/ |
Every situation is different, but if help is needed, it's available. |
Haven’t read the whole thread but curious how do people afford this? If they are charging 30-45 an hour, how much are people spending on a night nurse and for how long? |
A lot of people do it just once in while when they feel like they just need one night of sleep or they will crack. |
I can't imagine a NICU registered nurse charging less than $40/hr., unless there was a financial issue for the family. |
Same story as us. The comment disgusts me as well. |
Hi All, if anyone is looking for night nursing help for newborns in the St. Louis, Missouri area please reach out. 314-363-2117.
I am a registered nurse in OB. |
Thank you 100%! Weird Victorian+50’s+wasp culture makes Americans think it’s completely normal for the mom to do everything on her own while recovering from childbirth, and quite frankly it’s insane and a major outlier across the world. Then you get these bitter posters who are like “I did it why don’t you do it too!” Well quite frankly, no help is a bad idea for the mothers long term health prospects, and if there is ANY additional issues, the nuclear family can crack under the pressure. Buzz off angry PP’s! People need help when they have a new baby! |