S/O what do your in-laws dislike about you?

[Anonymous]

I'm a snob and think I'm better than they are (this is the truth actually).

I am not Jewish and I raised their grandchildren as Christians.

[Anonymous]

I have pets. They hate animals.

But generally, my inlaws are great. My DH, on the other hand, is a saint for tolerating my crazy family. My mom is so passive-aggressive it is actually funny. She likes to call me ugly and fat but "doesn't mean that in a bad way." Sigh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have pets. They hate animals.

But generally, my inlaws are great. My DH, on the other hand, is a saint for tolerating my crazy family. My mom is so passive-aggressive it is actually funny. She likes to call me ugly and fat but "doesn't mean that in a bad way." Sigh.

This is awful. So sorry, PP! If I were you, I'd confront your mother and tell her this is unacceptable.

[Anonymous]

Thanks PP. I've tried, it just never stops. Last week she said I had "bulging eyes" and "looked better now that I was soft, I used to look too bony." Of course, these were great compliments I really enjoyed receiving! Sigh. She's a great grandma though, my son loves her and she never pulls this stuff with him.

[Anonymous]

The color of my skin.

[Anonymous]

I don't know EXACTLY what they don't like about me, but I'm sure that my MIL tears me apart when we're not around. (She tears everyone else apart, so I'm assuming she does the same about me.) However, I think that MY MIL blames me for the poor relationship she has with her son. I'm actually the one who pushes him to call him parents and for us to visit. However, she has made comments that leads me to believe she thinks I'm the problem rather than her crappy treatment of my husband when he was a child. I treaat my ILs with respect and do my best to have a good relationship with them. I really don't care what they think about me anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a snob and think I'm better than they are (this is the truth actually).

This.

[Anonymous]

I'm white.

I wanted a dog, and my husband "gave in". They say animals living inside a house is disgusting, but the truth is that they are afraid of dogs -- even my 12 pound terrier.

I work and the kids go to daycare.

That we spend "too much time" with my parents. We see them approximately 6-8 times a year, but we usually spend the night at their house when we visit because it's a couple hours drive away. We see them at least once a week because they live 20 minutes away and are retired. But because we never spend the night at their house, we clearly favor my parents.

That I had a miscarriage and lost their son's first child. They seriously asked me for an inventory of what I'd eaten that could have caused it.

[Anonymous]

Here's what my in-laws don't like about me:

I rely on facts rather than opinions when considering issues like global warming.

I do not harbor any suspicions that President Obama is actually Muslim.

My best friend from high school is a lesbian.

They think I have brainwashed DH (he actually came to reject their worldview way before I met him).

I simply don't engage in discussions with them on politics, religion, current events or really anything that I find interesting because I've learned it's just not gonna go well. So as a result they think I am distant--which is true, of course. I have no interest in developing a closer relationship with them, and since I don't subscribe to their 'values' they feel the same. It works out fine since they live on the west coast and have come to visit exactly once in the past eight years, for four days, to meet the grandchild.

[Anonymous]

I don't allow them to have tirades. We expect respectful behavior in our home.

I don't allow them to treat their son poorly.

I am not easily manipulated.

I don't join in their gossip and dramas no matter how hard they try to draw me in. As much as I don't enjoy their company, I will not badmouth MIL to SIL or BIL to MIL. I stay neutral.

I actually started out trying to please them until I finally relized you cannot please them. There is a reason all their kids needed therapy and still feel they were robbed of a normal childhood. I am a people pleaser, but as soon as I feel manipulated or taken advantage of all bets are off and I make less effort to please, not more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a snob and think I'm better than they are (this is the truth actually).

I am not Jewish and I raised their grandchildren as Christians.

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LOL. At least you admit it's the truth.

[Anonymous]

I don't take their bullshit and MIL and SIL know this very well. I also stand up for my DH when they tear him down. I'm the mama bear!

[Anonymous]

I posted before, but some of these are entertaining.

To the Indian MIL poster-great post-you seem to have a sense of humor which is so good...did MIL catch you having sex on the floor?

My in-laws also think I brainwashed DH. Apparently they had a perfect harmonious family until I and the other evil people who married into this family came along.