Too soon to shave legs?

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Anonymous wrote:My 12-year old daughter keeps insisting on shaving her legs and I strongly feel she’s too young. Although she started shaving her armpits earlier this year (she had a good reason too); I just don’t know if shaving her legs now is too young for her. The reason why I think it’s too soon for that is because just about every week she wants to do something new, wear makeup, etc., thus, pushing her limits with me. She’s not allowed to wear makeup, but on special occasions she can wear lip gloss. Am I overreacting with this new shaving of her legs request?

Am I not ready for her to grow up, of course not!!! So I know it has to do with my inner self accepting that she’s becoming a teenager, but at the same time I feel that this new generation is doing everything much earlier that we did back in the day.

Please no judgement here and looking for some honest feedback and opinions.

I asked my mom to shave when I was 12 back in the early 90's. My mom wouldn't let me "because my hair would grow back thicker and faster." I then asked my pediatrician directly in front of my mom who dispelled the old wives' tale. I was allowed to shave after that (she said to the knee only, but I ignored her - please don't do this, it looks so weird!).

All the other girls were already shaving at that point and I was getting made fun of for hairy legs.

This doesn't happen anymore. Many girls do not shave their legs at all or are very inconsistent about it. It is not as big of a deal as it was in the 80/90's.

What fantasy world do you live in?

DP, but the PP is right. Shaving or not isn’t a big deal anymore. Maybe teen girls are skipping it.

But they aren't. Unless they are wanting to be dateless-wonders, which would be very few girls.

False. Majority of kids in school are not dating or having sex. But then this is DCUM. Very diverse and academically competetitve among the UMC at least.

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12 is fine. They probably won’t be religious about it.

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We are South Asians and many of us are quite hairy. Thankfully, culturally, we are exposed to many methods of removing hair. My DD did not want to shave or go to a spa to get waxed. So, I make sugaring paste at home to remove her hair by sugaring. I am an expert now. You do not need to use cloth or paper strips to pull, and you do not have to grow out your hair as even tiny emerging hair gets easily removed. The whole body - legs, arms, underarms, bikini line - only take around 10 minutes.

The flip side of being hairy is that the hair on her scalp is lusciously thick, shiny and healthy. She also has very pretty naturally shaped thick eyebrows, and long, thick eyelashes. So each time she bemones that she has hair on her legs, I tell her that she also has lots of hair on her scalp, eyebrows and eyelashes.

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Anonymous wrote:We are South Asians and many of us are quite hairy. Thankfully, culturally, we are exposed to many methods of removing hair. My DD did not want to shave or go to a spa to get waxed. So, I make sugaring paste at home to remove her hair by sugaring. I am an expert now. You do not need to use cloth or paper strips to pull, and you do not have to grow out your hair as even tiny emerging hair gets easily removed. The whole body - legs, arms, underarms, bikini line - only take around 10 minutes.

The flip side of being hairy is that the hair on her scalp is lusciously thick, shiny and healthy. She also has very pretty naturally shaped thick eyebrows, and long, thick eyelashes. So each time she bemones that she has hair on her legs, I tell her that she also has lots of hair on her scalp, eyebrows and eyelashes.

Sugaring also removes any facial hair you want to remove. Also, it removes tan and dirt and the dead upper layer of skin. So, a very nice and effective exfoliant. You reveal clean, soft and spotless skin once you remove the hair by sugaring.

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Anonymous wrote:My 12-year old daughter keeps insisting on shaving her legs and I strongly feel she’s too young. Although she started shaving her armpits earlier this year (she had a good reason too); I just don’t know if shaving her legs now is too young for her. The reason why I think it’s too soon for that is because just about every week she wants to do something new, wear makeup, etc., thus, pushing her limits with me. She’s not allowed to wear makeup, but on special occasions she can wear lip gloss. Am I overreacting with this new shaving of her legs request?

Am I not ready for her to grow up, of course not!!! So I know it has to do with my inner self accepting that she’s becoming a teenager, but at the same time I feel that this new generation is doing everything much earlier that we did back in the day.

Please no judgement here and looking for some honest feedback and opinions.

I asked my mom to shave when I was 12 back in the early 90's. My mom wouldn't let me "because my hair would grow back thicker and faster." I then asked my pediatrician directly in front of my mom who dispelled the old wives' tale. I was allowed to shave after that (she said to the knee only, but I ignored her - please don't do this, it looks so weird!).

All the other girls were already shaving at that point and I was getting made fun of for hairy legs.

This doesn't happen anymore. Many girls do not shave their legs at all or are very inconsistent about it. It is not as big of a deal as it was in the 80/90's.

What fantasy world do you live in?

DP, but the PP is right. Shaving or not isn’t a big deal anymore. Maybe teen girls are skipping it.

But they aren't. Unless they are wanting to be dateless-wonders, which would be very few girls.

False. Majority of kids in school are not dating or having sex.

You are simply in denial and refusing to accept the world and reality.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2CBWDp71UPM

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Most kids are dating and sexting on their phones. Not in person. Boys are learning all their sex-ed thru porn. Most parents are clueless because they are "safe" at home

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Anonymous wrote:We are South Asians and many of us are quite hairy. Thankfully, culturally, we are exposed to many methods of removing hair. My DD did not want to shave or go to a spa to get waxed. So, I make sugaring paste at home to remove her hair by sugaring. I am an expert now. You do not need to use cloth or paper strips to pull, and you do not have to grow out your hair as even tiny emerging hair gets easily removed. The whole body - legs, arms, underarms, bikini line - only take around 10 minutes.

The flip side of being hairy is that the hair on her scalp is lusciously thick, shiny and healthy. She also has very pretty naturally shaped thick eyebrows, and long, thick eyelashes. So each time she bemones that she has hair on her legs, I tell her that she also has lots of hair on her scalp, eyebrows and eyelashes.

Can you share your sugaring recipe? I’m interested!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most kids are dating and sexting on their phones. Not in person. Boys are learning all their sex-ed thru porn. Most parents are clueless because they are "safe" at home

Bolded part certainly is true.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We are South Asians and many of us are quite hairy. Thankfully, culturally, we are exposed to many methods of removing hair. My DD did not want to shave or go to a spa to get waxed. So, I make sugaring paste at home to remove her hair by sugaring. I am an expert now. You do not need to use cloth or paper strips to pull, and you do not have to grow out your hair as even tiny emerging hair gets easily removed. The whole body - legs, arms, underarms, bikini line - only take around 10 minutes.

The flip side of being hairy is that the hair on her scalp is lusciously thick, shiny and healthy. She also has very pretty naturally shaped thick eyebrows, and long, thick eyelashes. So each time she bemones that she has hair on her legs, I tell her that she also has lots of hair on her scalp, eyebrows and eyelashes.

Can you share your sugaring recipe? I’m interested!

Yes same! Pale woman with dark hair here and waxing doesn’t work because of the grow-out requirement. Help us!

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I gave DD a razor and shaving cream when she started getting underarm hair and was swimming. Maybe 11? She can shave what she wants with it.

I had to bring up everything with my mom, and hated it, found it stressful and worried about what to say and how to say it. So I do the opposite. I try to offer things and initiate conversations before I think the thing is needed. I don’t make her use anything, just provide it to her.