I’m surprised the college counselor/ guidance counselor at your school facilitated this. |
My kid just applied to a college SCEA and has an interview with an alum for that school soon.
I asked my kid what they would say if the interviewer said "Imagine you get accepted in mid December. Do you still apply to other places?" My kid said they would be honest and say that they probably would apply to other places to compare costs, etc. When I expressed shock, my kid said that kids that are accepted to that school are likely pretty rational and it would be typical to consider other options and not just take the first offer, even if it is a good offer. I don't see how I'm related to this person. |
No, best friend was not admitted, but is happy where they landed (also fantastic option). |
Another thing that doesn’t support the idea that colleges have quotas from certain schools and that a kid not getting in isn’t because some other kid stole their spot. |
It’s very possible for multiple strong applicants from the same small private high school class to get into the same selective college, especially if they can each contribute something unique or fill a need for that college’s incoming class. It’s not always a situation where one student completely dominates and shuts the rest out. |
Of course you CAN apply, this discussion is about whether it is kind and ethical. |
Our admissions officer said "only apply to others schools that would give you pause at your EA school." What schools would make you pause and reconsider your application to Princeton? If there are any, apply to them. If there are schools you really aren't going to pick over Princeton, then getting out of the way of others can be helpful to them. |
Princeton says go for it. Who are YOU to judge? Do you wring hands often? Obviousky, OP is judging another family and you are just piling on. How is THAT behavior "Kind and ethical"? and how is your judgemental post "kind and ethical"? |
There are maybe 10 schools in America where Princeton is throwing a half dozen or more acceptances. And none of them are in DC. |
at our LA private students who are admitted to HYPS (maybe MIT also?) via early, non-binding admissions process are required to withdraw any outstanding applications. this is precisely meant to prevent a scenario where one kid racks up 6 ivy admits and thereby affects the chances of other strong applicants in the class. |
At our nyc private, kids don’t withdraw apps from schools with merit options they want to pursue ie a stamps scholarship or the Robertson. They could also apply to, say, Harvard. Nobody expects kids to know without revisits. But shotgunning would mean the counselor would send out a very different, basic LOR that would take care of the issue |
People like this are the problem. Exhibit A |
And has everyone been kind to all the other students at their school? It is not enough that I win, you must lose. https://www.google.com/search?client=firefox-b-1-d&q=conan+what+is+the+meaning+of+life#fpstate=ive&vld=cid:ba07f161,vid:_XUu3_pLPUE,st:0 |
this is a great policy |
a kid from my kids' HS (public) got all ivies acceptance... all kids talked about that |