It's OK for college grads to move back home for a while.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of AC nowadays have not been taught domestic skills in entirety. .

Yes, they can sometimes cook. But, they cannot budget for food, cannot clean up after cooking or eating, don't know how to create a healthy menu with seasonal and local ingredients and certainly don't know how to host.

Similarly, they know how to throw their clothes in the washing machine and dryer. But, they do not know how to sort their clothes before laundering, how to iron/fold them, how to put it away in the dresser or closet, how to create a regular laundry regimen, how often to wash their bed linen, pillows, comforters, parkas, etc etc.

My parents didn't teach me any of this and I figured it out somehow. My kids find recipes, life hacks, and laundry tricks on TikTok and YouTube so I think they'll be more than fine.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of AC nowadays have not been taught domestic skills in entirety. .

Yes, they can sometimes cook. But, they cannot budget for food, cannot clean up after cooking or eating, don't know how to create a healthy menu with seasonal and local ingredients and certainly don't know how to host.

Similarly, they know how to throw their clothes in the washing machine and dryer. But, they do not know how to sort their clothes before laundering, how to iron/fold them, how to put it away in the dresser or closet, how to create a regular laundry regimen, how often to wash their bed linen, pillows, comforters, parkas, etc etc.

LOL the above isn’t knowledge that some elder needs to teach the youngins, it’s basic stuff that can be googled if you even want to do it. It’s fine for young adults to choose what works best for them,

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Anonymous wrote:My 2024 VA Tech grad is living at home in order to save as much money as he can before moving out three years from now. He makes 120K and saves about 95% of his income, after 401K & taxes. He is on my family healthcare plan, so he is also saving money there. His gf is also doing the same thing, so then they will have about 350K in cash when they move out and get married.

Does he do his own cooking, cleaning, tidying or does he expect a meal on the table like when he was little? Honestly as a VERY burnt out mom of teenagers that is the one thing that makes me dread this. The minute they are in college I will stop cooking meals. I'm not going back to servitude for years to come.

I have no sympathy for people who wear their crown of thorns so openly. My teen is capable of cooking a few types of food (at least) for themselves. If she can, so can yours. So can adult children living at home.

Cooking a meal here and there is nothing at all like being the default adult for meals.

A college grad living at home should be contributing towards the family cooking responsibilities.
I'd have them cooking at least 2x/week. THey'd be cooking if they were living on their own. So why not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of AC nowadays have not been taught domestic skills in entirety. .

Yes, they can sometimes cook. But, they cannot budget for food, cannot clean up after cooking or eating, don't know how to create a healthy menu with seasonal and local ingredients and certainly don't know how to host.

Similarly, they know how to throw their clothes in the washing machine and dryer. But, they do not know how to sort their clothes before laundering, how to iron/fold them, how to put it away in the dresser or closet, how to create a regular laundry regimen, how often to wash their bed linen, pillows, comforters, parkas, etc etc.

IT's shocking but true. My oldest found that out when attending college---the number of kids who had no clue about laundry. Whereas mine had been doing their own laundry since age 10---when they complained they "had no clean clothing to wear" because their favorite sweatpants had been worn just 1 day before. So I took it upon myself to teach them how to do laundry and they did it 95% of the time after that. They also learned you wash sheets weekly (or at least every 2 weeks) and change towels every 4-5 days. Don't understand why people don't teach their kids this

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Anonymous wrote:My 2024 VA Tech grad is living at home in order to save as much money as he can before moving out three years from now. He makes 120K and saves about 95% of his income, after 401K & taxes. He is on my family healthcare plan, so he is also saving money there. His gf is also doing the same thing, so then they will have about 350K in cash when they move out and get married.

Does he do his own cooking, cleaning, tidying or does he expect a meal on the table like when he was little? Honestly as a VERY burnt out mom of teenagers that is the one thing that makes me dread this. The minute they are in college I will stop cooking meals. I'm not going back to servitude for years to come.

I have no sympathy for people who wear their crown of thorns so openly. My teen is capable of cooking a few types of food (at least) for themselves. If she can, so can yours. So can adult children living at home.

Cooking a meal here and there is nothing at all like being the default adult for meals.

A college grad living at home should be contributing towards the family cooking responsibilities.
I'd have them cooking at least 2x/week. THey'd be cooking if they were living on their own. So why not?

Here is the thing: I don't want dinner. The only reason I make dinner is for my family and especially kids. I don't want to ever cook routinely once kids are in college and beyond. I am looking forward to doing it with great joy occasionally for one week, for two weeks, when my kids are here on vacations and then grandkids. I am not okay with even 3, 4 times a week of cooking dinners as a massive chore after a long day of work for my entire adult life all year round. Btdt for 18 years.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of AC nowadays have not been taught domestic skills in entirety. .

Yes, they can sometimes cook. But, they cannot budget for food, cannot clean up after cooking or eating, don't know how to create a healthy menu with seasonal and local ingredients and certainly don't know how to host.

Similarly, they know how to throw their clothes in the washing machine and dryer. But, they do not know how to sort their clothes before laundering, how to iron/fold them, how to put it away in the dresser or closet, how to create a regular laundry regimen, how often to wash their bed linen, pillows, comforters, parkas, etc etc.

IT's shocking but true. My oldest found that out when attending college---the number of kids who had no clue about laundry. Whereas mine had been doing their own laundry since age 10---when they complained they "had no clean clothing to wear" because their favorite sweatpants had been worn just 1 day before. So I took it upon myself to teach them how to do laundry and they did it 95% of the time after that. They also learned you wash sheets weekly (or at least every 2 weeks) and change towels every 4-5 days. Don't understand why people don't teach their kids this

Good grief. Stop being a sanctimonious piggy. My kids started doing their own laundry around middle or high school and I certainly do not find that this made them or me superior in anyway. The kids who don’t know how to do laundry in college quickly figure it out. It requires maybe 3 brain cells to figure out how to do it.

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THIS!! Who cares what other peoples kids do? I had a friend who wouldn’t let her kids move home after college-neither one of them talk to her

Anonymous wrote:This isn't "failure to launch" -- this is giving them a leg up to be able to save money so they have a little nest egg when they do move out on their own.

I've got 2024 college grads at home - both working and earning/saving money. They pay most of their own bills but are for the most part saving and paying down small college loans. This isn't failure to launch. Failure to launch is not having any job 6-12 months after college and living at home way past your mid to late 20s.

I'm sure there are quite a few 2024 college grads living at home doing the same thing.