Why have 3+ kids if you can’t afford a babysitter?

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Anonymous wrote:We've been invited to 2 child free weddings. Guess what? We're not going. I'm not flying my kids someone to sit in a hotel room with a babysitter.

The. Bride and groom don't care.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is American culture so anti-children? It is so bizarre to me that people have issues with children being a part of life.

It is not. I think it’s a handful of (bizarrely) DC moms. I have never encountered opinions like this outside of DCUM. Normal people don’t feel threatened when they see families with 3+ kids at Costco (you are at Costco, please drop the judgement) or when a parent hangs out at a soccer practice for an older child with two younger children because it doesn’t make sense to drive home. The idea that seeing people with multiple children is so bothersome it warrants a bizarre post about babysitters and money underscores the OP’s pathological issues with children or large families.

OP- Get yourself some talk therapy and medication. This is about you. You’re the problem, it’s you.

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Adult only invites or weddings are a separate issue.

Otherwise, kids are welcome in public everywhere else. I don’t get what you are complaining about. I find it nice to see parent reading to their children, playing a game, or working on homework while they wait for a sibling to finish a lesson. Nothing wrong with this. In fact it is good parenting- better than hiring a babysitter so you can sit and scroll your phone for 45 min

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Anonymous wrote:Why is American culture so anti-children? It is so bizarre to me that people have issues with children being a part of life.

It is not. I think it’s a handful of (bizarrely) DC moms. I have never encountered opinions like this outside of DCUM. Normal people don’t feel threatened when they see families with 3+ kids at Costco (you are at Costco, please drop the judgement) or when a parent hangs out at a soccer practice for an older child with two younger children because it doesn’t make sense to drive home. The idea that seeing people with multiple children is so bothersome it warrants a bizarre post about babysitters and money underscores the OP’s pathological issues with children or large families.

OP- Get yourself some talk therapy and medication. This is about you. You’re the problem, it’s you.

I have one and don’t use babysitters. Very bizzare. I’d rather see parents with their kids.

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Like who? Most people in DC, like us, have no family here. I would not trust a complete stranger to watch my kids for several days.

It’s called a nanny.

Do you just go everywhere together? Like a gypsy tribe?

What a circus.

We don't have a Nanny, obviously. I'm not hiring a stranger to watch my kids for multiple days straight and overnight. I don't think you get this isn't a money thing. This is a safety thing.

Wait, do you also home school? And do no activities? In the normal course, kids are left with strangers all the time. If you are protecting your kids from all of this, when do you shift and start preparing them for life in the real world?

One has nothing to do with the other but yes, I stayed at activities till they were much older, maybe 12. The real world is not a good place. You’ve been lucky. Yes, I will protect mine as much as I can a I live in a very different world then you.

Yes you do. Paranoia and delusion

No, I worked for years in child welfare.

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Anonymous wrote:We've been invited to 2 child free weddings. Guess what? We're not going. I'm not flying my kids someone to sit in a hotel room with a babysitter.

I wish you could see how insane this is.

You either can’t afford a babysitter and so you are missing out on life events or you have a psychological problem and can’t separate yourself from your children.

Babysitters are a fortune. That money is better off in the college fund. Not missing out.

I’d rather have stuck to 2 rather than 3+ kids if it meant I couldn’t afford a babysitter to attend my friends’ and family weddings.

If your friend claimed she couldn’t come to your wedding because she couldn’t afford a babysitter, it’s probably because she would *actually* prefer to hang out with her kids and watch a movie or play a board game than go to your wedding. Sorry.

This is a different level of insane. It seems some people on this board don’t realize that they don’t have to do everything together with their kids 100% of the time. It’s a psychological issue if you can’t separate yourself from your children.

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Anonymous wrote:We've been invited to 2 child free weddings. Guess what? We're not going. I'm not flying my kids someone to sit in a hotel room with a babysitter.

I wish you could see how insane this is.

You either can’t afford a babysitter and so you are missing out on life events or you have a psychological problem and can’t separate yourself from your children.

Babysitters are a fortune. That money is better off in the college fund. Not missing out.

I’d rather have stuck to 2 rather than 3+ kids if it meant I couldn’t afford a babysitter to attend my friends’ and family weddings.

If your friend claimed she couldn’t come to your wedding because she couldn’t afford a babysitter, it’s probably because she would *actually* prefer to hang out with her kids and watch a movie or play a board game than go to your wedding. Sorry.

This is a different level of insane. It seems some people on this board don’t realize that they don’t have to do everything together with their kids 100% of the time. It’s a psychological issue if you can’t separate yourself from your children.

It’s also a cost issue. For a few hours it could be $100. That may be nothing to you but a lot to others.

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Anonymous wrote:We've been invited to 2 child free weddings. Guess what? We're not going. I'm not flying my kids someone to sit in a hotel room with a babysitter.

I wish you could see how insane this is.

You either can’t afford a babysitter and so you are missing out on life events or you have a psychological problem and can’t separate yourself from your children.

Babysitters are a fortune. That money is better off in the college fund. Not missing out.

I’d rather have stuck to 2 rather than 3+ kids if it meant I couldn’t afford a babysitter to attend my friends’ and family weddings.

If your friend claimed she couldn’t come to your wedding because she couldn’t afford a babysitter, it’s probably because she would *actually* prefer to hang out with her kids and watch a movie or play a board game than go to your wedding. Sorry.

This is a different level of insane. It seems some people on this board don’t realize that they don’t have to do everything together with their kids 100% of the time. It’s a psychological issue if you can’t separate yourself from your children.

No one said 100% of the time. People work and go to school and activities. Some families don't get tons of time together in the evenings so weekends are their time, and it's a normal consideration when invited to social events, such as weddings. Some people would rather spend that precious weekends doing stuff with their kids, rather than flying out to a wedding without their kids. Believe it or not, your wedding is not the highlight of other peoples' social calendar.

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It is not. I think it’s a handful of (bizarrely) DC moms. I have never encountered opinions like this outside of DCUM. Normal people don’t feel threatened when they see families with 3+ kids at Costco (you are at Costco, please drop the judgement) or when a parent hangs out at a soccer practice for an older child with two younger children because it doesn’t make sense to drive home. The idea that seeing people with multiple children is so bothersome it warrants a bizarre post about babysitters and money underscores the OP’s pathological issues with children or large familie

It is bothersome. Your family will clog up an entire isle or take up half of a waiting room.

I hope you have enough awareness to realize your children are adorable to you only and no one else cares.

No one else finds endearing your loud, screaming children, leaving crumbs and drops of food on the floor and furniture, smothering walls with their oily dirty handprints, using furniture as their jungle gym, interrupting adults with crying fits and whining.

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It is not. I think it’s a handful of (bizarrely) DC moms. I have never encountered opinions like this outside of DCUM. Normal people don’t feel threatened when they see families with 3+ kids at Costco (you are at Costco, please drop the judgement) or when a parent hangs out at a soccer practice for an older child with two younger children because it doesn’t make sense to drive home. The idea that seeing people with multiple children is so bothersome it warrants a bizarre post about babysitters and money underscores the OP’s pathological issues with children or large familie

It is bothersome. Your family will clog up an entire isle or take up half of a waiting room.

I hope you have enough awareness to realize your children are adorable to you only and no one else cares.

No one else finds endearing your loud, screaming children, leaving crumbs and drops of food on the floor and furniture, smothering walls with their oily dirty handprints, using furniture as their jungle gym, interrupting adults with crying fits and whining.

Those may be your kids but others of us teach our kids to behave.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is American culture so anti-children? It is so bizarre to me that people have issues with children being a part of life.

It is not. I think it’s a handful of (bizarrely) DC moms. I have never encountered opinions like this outside of DCUM. Normal people don’t feel threatened when they see families with 3+ kids at Costco (you are at Costco, please drop the judgement) or when a parent hangs out at a soccer practice for an older child with two younger children because it doesn’t make sense to drive home. The idea that seeing people with multiple children is so bothersome it warrants a bizarre post about babysitters and money underscores the OP’s pathological issues with children or large families.

OP- Get yourself some talk therapy and medication. This is about you. You’re the problem, it’s you.

Agreed. Why all the drama about siblings hanging out a soccer practice? There can be a very cold attitude towards parenting and raising children on dcum.

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I have 19 and we don't use babysitters. The older kids take care of the younger ones.

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Anonymous wrote:I have 19 and we don't use babysitters. The older kids take care of the younger ones.

Then you do use babysitting.

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It is not. I think it’s a handful of (bizarrely) DC moms. I have never encountered opinions like this outside of DCUM. Normal people don’t feel threatened when they see families with 3+ kids at Costco (you are at Costco, please drop the judgement) or when a parent hangs out at a soccer practice for an older child with two younger children because it doesn’t make sense to drive home. The idea that seeing people with multiple children is so bothersome it warrants a bizarre post about babysitters and money underscores the OP’s pathological issues with children or large familie

It is bothersome. Your family will clog up an entire isle or take up half of a waiting room.

I hope you have enough awareness to realize your children are adorable to you only and no one else cares.

No one else finds endearing your loud, screaming children, leaving crumbs and drops of food on the floor and furniture, smothering walls with their oily dirty handprints, using furniture as their jungle gym, interrupting adults with crying fits and whining.

Those may be your kids but others of us teach our kids to behave.

No way this troll has kids. What a weird child hater

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Anonymous wrote:Why is American culture so anti-children? It is so bizarre to me that people have issues with children being a part of life.

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I don’t think it’s American culture. It’s economics. Families don’t think about consequences of having so many kids.

They don’t think “Oh, I’ll never be alone with my husband again or any other adult, I’ll not be able to attend weddings, concerts and other events. I won’t afford college. I won’t be able to afford vacations that involve flying.”

A French woman would never think of herself as a package with all her kids. I can’t imagine who in Europe would. It’s a psychological problem if one doesn’t see the boundaries between persons.

Parents have their own lives and children have their own lives. Parents don’t have to sit through children parties and children don’t need to attend adult events. In America you just can’t afford it.

You are clearly obsessed with money and don’t have the wisdom that comes with age. Children don’t stay young forever. It’s a phase. And you are making extreme points that don’t allow for nuance. Just because a family doesn’t use a babysitter often doesn’t mean they never use one.

I have a small family now but grew up in a large one. I’m glad my parents instilled their values in us where family and love were more important than money and things. We weren’t poor but we didn’t have excess and we learned the art of sharing and also were accidental environmentalists because we reused everything or reduced in the first place. And if my parents spent some years not going out very often, they made up for it after we were older and had a grand time.