Teenager at the Kennedy Center behavior with parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously?
Perhaps she has ADHD, or on the spectrum
And she fidgets and moves a lot.
Did she sit in your lap or kick someone in the head?
‘Oh baby careful careful your knee is in my lap’
Big smile, whisper ‘sweetie can you please move your leg?’ Big smile, thank you.
Grace and adult ass manners go a long ways
Instead you drag your tail to DCUM to complain about petty behavior.
Glad your kids are perfect, see where they got from.

Stop being defensive about your kid with SN and start being a parent. As in put the kid with SN in between the two adults that she was sitting with. That way the one saying “oh sweetie” and getting knees put on them is YOU AND GRANDMA, not complete strangers who paid for tickets to a show, not ticket to having to parent YOUR child.

I don’t have a kid with special needs, so what now?
If a knee touching you is such a trigger I don’t know what to tell you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps the teen was special needs.

+1

But the parents should have taken action nonetheless.

FWIW, I’ve gently corrected bad behavior in such situations.

“Ooh, no, no, Sweetie. We don’t put our feet on the seats at the Kennedy Center. Feet on the floor, please.” Said sweetly with a smile.

+1. Autism or not, reign it in at pricey events

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps the teen was special needs.

+1

But the parents should have taken action nonetheless.

FWIW, I’ve gently corrected bad behavior in such situations.

“Ooh, no, no, Sweetie. We don’t put our feet on the seats at the Kennedy Center. Feet on the floor, please.” Said sweetly with a smile.

+1. Autism or not, reign it in at pricey events

Lol. She’s the queen of the Kennedy Center!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously?
Perhaps she has ADHD, or on the spectrum
And she fidgets and moves a lot.
Did she sit in your lap or kick someone in the head?
‘Oh baby careful careful your knee is in my lap’
Big smile, whisper ‘sweetie can you please move your leg?’ Big smile, thank you.
Grace and adult ass manners go a long ways
Instead you drag your tail to DCUM to complain about petty behavior.
Glad your kids are perfect, see where they got from.

Stop being defensive about your kid with SN and start being a parent. As in put the kid with SN in between the two adults that she was sitting with. That way the one saying “oh sweetie” and getting knees put on them is YOU AND GRANDMA, not complete strangers who paid for tickets to a show, not ticket to having to parent YOUR child.

I don’t have a kid with special needs, so what now?
If a knee touching you is such a trigger I don’t know what to tell you.

Sorry but sitting cross cross apple sauce like a hippy in your $200 seat while poking and prodding the guests on either side of you is very rude and obnoxious.

Get your legs and knees out of other peoples seat space and not past the arm rails. Come on.

Entitled parents and entitled kid, SN or not.

Got it the sensory shows if your kid needs three seats to do yoga in a fancy theater.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps the teen was special needs.

+1

But the parents should have taken action nonetheless.

FWIW, I’ve gently corrected bad behavior in such situations.

“Ooh, no, no, Sweetie. We don’t put our feet on the seats at the Kennedy Center. Feet on the floor, please.” Said sweetly with a smile.

+1. Autism or not, reign it in at pricey events

Lol. She’s the queen of the Kennedy Center!

TY!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps the teen was special needs.

What are you trying to say?

A person is not "needs". Speak properly about human beings.

Inbox me disability.

Like the ASD II that went down the slide two seconds after my four year and rammed her in the back, injuring her.

All the mom, wandering about, had to say was special needs, special needs. Then monitor and parent your kid MORE, not LESS. Or be more selective with where you go.

[Anonymous]

Invisible disability.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were so passive-aggressive. Why not just say to her "Please get off my body." Say it as a statement or a directive, not a plea.

This.

Say it next time.

Short, sweet and direct.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps the teen was special needs.

This would be my assumption. No matter what she looked like or how she spoke.

OK? Then a child with special needs needs to be seated in between the at least two adults accompanying them. No excuse for that not to happen.

+1. It’s not acceptable behavior. Unbelievable that people are excusing it here. Our society has lost all civility and manners.

+100. And you cannot tell me the adults accompanying the teen didn’t notice that the kid was sitting Lotus-style with knees touching other people. And you cannot tell me that the adults accompanying the teen didn’t notice her putting her feet on the back of occupied seats. And yeah, any parent or guardian who sees that behavior and does nothing about it is not suddenly going to be respectful and solicitous if a patron or an usher speaks to them about the kid. No way.

+100000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You could have asked herto stop disturbing you or spoken with her mother, but you were a passive aggressive a-hole. Sounds like you also behaved poorly.

Parents/grandparents who are going to totally ignore bad behavior like that are not going to be open to a productive discussion.

What about the women who had to knock someone’s feet off their head? Were they behaving “badly,” too? Nope, they were protecting their space, as they had EVERY right to do.

You can also protect your space by using your words.

I could see things going south badly with caretakers and a kid like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh my god she’s touching me
Ohhhhhhh Nooooo!

It's all well and good when another woman is being harassed and touched without consent. If OP was with a man she could have switched places and watched how swiftly mama Bear moved herself between the man and her daughter when she noticed they were touching.

So true.

My 8-10 yos get stuck with “annoying” neighbors at shows and school too. It wrecks the whole hour.

[Anonymous]

I agree the parent should have done something but….
Everytime I read one of these threads where someone says “my 9 year old is behaving better than that teen!” I wonder if they’ve ever met teens.
8-10 year old is the sweet spot. Old enough to understand the rules, young enough to still care what adults think. Teens are a whole different kettle of fish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for Op.When you pay $150/ticket, you expect nice mannered customers. That is annoying to sit near the loud, kicking family.

+1. And only use YOUR seat space, not other peoples’

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree the parent should have done something but….
Everytime I read one of these threads where someone says “my 9 year old is behaving better than that teen!” I wonder if they’ve ever met teens.
8-10 year old is the sweet spot. Old enough to understand the rules, young enough to still care what adults think. Teens are a whole different kettle of fish.

So what. You keep on parenting. Until you die.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree the parent should have done something but….
Everytime I read one of these threads where someone says “my 9 year old is behaving better than that teen!” I wonder if they’ve ever met teens.
8-10 year old is the sweet spot. Old enough to understand the rules, young enough to still care what adults think. Teens are a whole different kettle of fish.

Np
Dd looked years older than her age at 10 so that is another factor to consider. She knows how to behave at least but random people in public would come down harder than they needed to about some things she didn't have the chance to learn yet (like most 10 year olds). A couple years later and some kids are catching up but she still just looks older than some high school seniors.