Come here if your in laws do weird crap at thanksgiving.

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Anonymous wrote:My mother can not handle people being late or early. So, since traffic on Thanksgiving isn't predictable, we drive to her, and then hang out in the park so that we knock on the door at exactly the right time.

Which isn't a big deal, unless it's raining or something, but I wonder if other families do the same thing.

I would think that most grandparents would want to see their grandchildren as long as possible, and would be happy if we rang the doorbell a half hour early or something.

It is very weird for me when a child can’t show up at their parents’ house early (or vice versa: a parent at a child’s house).
But there was a whole thread where the parents were shredded to pieces for doing that…
I mean, they were like 9 hours early, but would it make a difference if they were an hour or two early?!

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Anonymous wrote:Appetizer of ham slices rolled around dill pickle and cream cheese.

Sounds yummy.

+1 thanks for the new idea!

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Anonymous wrote:I’m team MIL rottisorie chicken - and I’m so very rarely team MIL anything. What an odd thing to get worked up about.

Same. I’ve posted 20+ years of MIL complaints and I’m team MIL on this one. Neither of us would have an issue with hands on the chicken and we both have lots of kitchen control issues.

Agreed. I actually feel sorry for your MIL. She was trying to help and you made her feel disgusting by going and getting another chicken. You are the rude one.

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Anonymous wrote:MIL tries to sit in my seat when we're about to start dinner. She wants to sit in hostess seat. This year I will tell her to stand up and move!

Have your kids make place cards, then help them arrange them at the table. Gee I wonder why my MIL is always seated FAR from me. She tried to take the hostess seat for years, but I always made her move.

Which seat is the hostess seat?

On a rectangle or oblong table, the host’s seat is on the short end of the far side of the room; the hostess seat is on the short end on the side closest to the kitchen. The form and function: the host has his elbows free to carve and pass and pour wine, the hostess is able to quickly get to and from the kitchen to get wine or anything else that is needed.

Guests are seated on the long ends of the table.

My mother in law makes a big deal about how **I** Get to sit at the hostess seat in my own house. I think she thinks she is being very gracious. I think it's all very weird and 1950s to have a hostess seat in the first place (really, I like sitting on the longer end of our table and always do-and really, the woman is supposed to feel honored she gets to go get things from the kitchen) and uncessary and tell her she's fine to sit there.

Little does she know our dirty family secret that unless other people are joining us, we don't use the ends of the table anywa.y

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Anonymous wrote:ILs buy whatever I say I'm bringing. So if I say I'm bringing pumpkin pie, they get a store bought pie and put it next to mine.

For the record, I have sold my baked goods, and they always get rave reviews and my kitchen is clean. Nothing wrong with my pie.

Well, this one is easy! I would tell them I would bring X and then bring Y.

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This is petty but we have a large kitchen with a lot of counter space and for some reason, my in-laws keep putting food (ingredients or finished dishes) right next to the sink. I would never do that - I'd be too worried it would get dirty while someone was washing their hands or dishes. In fact, earlier today, I was putting dirty dishes into the dishwasher and dumped out a mug that looked like it had a tiny bit of tea in it and put it in the dishwasher. FIL got so angry that he could not find his 1/4 cup of broth!

Also - my in-laws brought their own place mats because they don't like mine (which are just plain gray). WTF?

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Anonymous wrote:Currently taking a kid to Starbucks to use bathroom as the rest of family are in heated argument over who clogged the toilet and should clean it up.
No one admitting responsibility and it is gross.
Praying it is calm when we return home
Haven’t even had meal yet

This is horrible but is there only one toilet where you are?!? I could not imagine a family gathering at place with only one toilet - seems like a nightmare even if it does function the whole time!!

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Anonymous wrote:Last Thanksgiving my SIL came out of her basement and handed DH a white-and-gold wrapped gift. It was a wedding gift -- from when he married his first wife. Thirty freaking years ago. We have been together 20 and married for seven. Apparently it was a gift from some family member that gave it to her to give them and she never did? And after all these years she felt Thanksgiving with me sitting next to him was the perfect time to come hand it to him?

What was the gift? Did it survive the 30 year wait to be opened?

I have no idea. I pitched a fit and told SIL to put it back wherever it came from, and to keep it or throw it out.

If DCUM had been around 30 years ago I bet the gift giver would have been posting on here about how they weren't ever going to speak to DH and his ex again because they didn't get a thank you note for a wedding gift. And then someone on here would chime in about with "Are you sure they got it?" and a bunch of people would post and say "Of course they got it, people are just rude, go no contact." Lol.

I hope she saved it to present to him with his next wife the same way, and she if she (over)reacts like you. LOL.

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Anonymous wrote:Last Thanksgiving my SIL came out of her basement and handed DH a white-and-gold wrapped gift. It was a wedding gift -- from when he married his first wife. Thirty freaking years ago. We have been together 20 and married for seven. Apparently it was a gift from some family member that gave it to her to give them and she never did? And after all these years she felt Thanksgiving with me sitting next to him was the perfect time to come hand it to him?

What was the gift? Did it survive the 30 year wait to be opened?

I have no idea. I pitched a fit and told SIL to put it back wherever it came from, and to keep it or throw it out.

If DCUM had been around 30 years ago I bet the gift giver would have been posting on here about how they weren't ever going to speak to DH and his ex again because they didn't get a thank you note for a wedding gift. And then someone on here would chime in about with "Are you sure they got it?" and a bunch of people would post and say "Of course they got it, people are just rude, go no contact." Lol.

I hope she saved it to present to him with his next wife the same way, and she if she (over)reacts like you. LOL.

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Anonymous wrote:This is petty but we have a large kitchen with a lot of counter space and for some reason, my in-laws keep putting food (ingredients or finished dishes) right next to the sink. I would never do that - I'd be too worried it would get dirty while someone was washing their hands or dishes. In fact, earlier today, I was putting dirty dishes into the dishwasher and dumped out a mug that looked like it had a tiny bit of tea in it and put it in the dishwasher. FIL got so angry that he could not find his 1/4 cup of broth!

Also - my in-laws brought their own place mats because they don't like mine (which are just plain gray). WTF?

LOL. This is the kind of entertaining stupidity I come to DCUM around holidays for.

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Anonymous wrote:Last Thanksgiving my SIL came out of her basement and handed DH a white-and-gold wrapped gift. It was a wedding gift -- from when he married his first wife. Thirty freaking years ago. We have been together 20 and married for seven. Apparently it was a gift from some family member that gave it to her to give them and she never did? And after all these years she felt Thanksgiving with me sitting next to him was the perfect time to come hand it to him?

What was the gift? Did it survive the 30 year wait to be opened?

I have no idea. I pitched a fit and told SIL to put it back wherever it came from, and to keep it or throw it out.

If DCUM had been around 30 years ago I bet the gift giver would have been posting on here about how they weren't ever going to speak to DH and his ex again because they didn't get a thank you note for a wedding gift. And then someone on here would chime in about with "Are you sure they got it?" and a bunch of people would post and say "Of course they got it, people are just rude, go no contact." Lol.

I hope she saved it to present to him with his next wife the same way, and see if she (over)reacts like you. LOL.

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OMG, can't get my shes and sees straight.

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Anonymous wrote:DH just told MIL for the third time that no, we won’t be putting food on the table and passing. We’ll be serving it buffet-style from the island. She’s fighting her on this and he finally said, “No one wants to pass and pass and monitor what each other is or is not eating. We all just want to make a plate and eat.” Which has always been MY argument for hating family-style service.

(Nelson voice Ha ha!

Nice! My MIL also refuses to understand that passing family style is no longer a popular way of serving. And I agree that one of the main motivations for old people liking it is that they like to see who is taking what and how much.

really? what do you do on a daily basis? and do people really care about seeing what other people eat (that seems odd and slightly disordered)

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Anonymous wrote:DH just told MIL for the third time that no, we won’t be putting food on the table and passing. We’ll be serving it buffet-style from the island. She’s fighting her on this and he finally said, “No one wants to pass and pass and monitor what each other is or is not eating. We all just want to make a plate and eat.” Which has always been MY argument for hating family-style service.

(Nelson voice Ha ha!

Nice! My MIL also refuses to understand that passing family style is no longer a popular way of serving. And I agree that one of the main motivations for old people liking it is that they like to see who is taking what and how much.

really? what do you do on a daily basis? and do people really care about seeing what other people eat (that seems odd and slightly disordered)

This boggled my mind too.

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Anonymous wrote:MIL tries to sit in my seat when we're about to start dinner. She wants to sit in hostess seat. This year I will tell her to stand up and move!

Have your kids make place cards, then help them arrange them at the table. Gee I wonder why my MIL is always seated FAR from me. She tried to take the hostess seat for years, but I always made her move.

This is what we did!

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Anonymous wrote:MIL has been here since Tuesday. Tuesday night, we got a Costco rotisserie chicken for dinner. I put it out on a serving platter on the counter, as I was going to divide it out, but just as I was doing that, my daughter started crying in the other room so I went to see what was wrong (she stubbed her toe).

I come back to the kitchen to finish up what I was doing and I caught MIL ripping apart the rotisserie chicken with her bare hands, like a gd caveman.

I couldn't believe what I saw. This was dinner for four of us (DD, MIL, Me and DH) and she's in there tearing it up with her dirty hands.

I was so disgusted - I told her that chicken is hers now. Luckily we live in a condo next to a full service grocery store and I went to get another chicken.

How do you know she didn’t wash her hands first? Even with a knife, it’s hard to get all the meat off without touching it at all. You seem kinda psycho. Also rotisserie chicken is way too similar to turkey, two days apart.

Using her hands to separate meat for a communal meal is disgusting.

You called her hands dirty. You clearly don’t like her. Have you ever watched someone carve a turkey? It’s impossible to not touch it unless your family only eats sliced breast meat.

We get rotisserie chicken- stick a fork in it held in my left hand - knife n the right. After moving pieces to a plate carcas gets picked over with forks. After dinner today I used hands on turkey breast carcas after meat off in same fashion. That was for the dog.

I use tools. Not a caveman.