When people ask your age?

[Anonymous]

Just say "Why do you want to know?" and leave it at that. They only ask that question of people they perceive look younger than they really are. When somebody looks older they assume they are older and never ask directly.

[Anonymous]

I tell them my age. I don’t get what the big deal is. It’s like people who speak with an accent (I am one of them) who get huffy when asked where are you from. Not everyone is out to get you.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who keeps asking me. I've started to think she is having memory problems, which makes me sad.

But, yeah, people ask me. My older friends mostly.

I prefer not to think about my age. It's not a focus for me, and I don't see why I should focus on it just because others want to think and talk about their age...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I tell them my age. I don’t get what the big deal is. It’s like people who speak with an accent (I am one of them) who get huffy when asked where are you from. Not everyone is out to get you.

I think it's rude to ask where people are from.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why so secret about age?
Why ashamed to be “old”?

It’s not a secret. It’s not about shame. It’s that it’s rude to ask personal questions — unless there’s an actual need to know the information. There’s a whole list of nosy questions that I probably would not respond to, and part of that is because some seemingly innocuous questions aren’t, and I don’t want the burden of having to gently handle other people’s responses to my circumstances.

So, I’m old enough to say : “Why do you ask?” And my response depends upon their answer. “Good” answers, by my standards, are things like: “I wonder if you remember Ida’s and the Kalorama Rink”. and “My brother went to Wilson too. You might know him.” “Bad”answers are more about curiosity and comparisons. You don’t need to know my age if what you really want to know is what cosmetics I use.

Of course it’s about shame. People only say it’s personal and hide their age when they get older. Every newly minted 18 year and 21 year old will be delighted to tell you their age. 30 year olds may start to feel shame but the vast majority aren’t going to hide their age and say it’s personal information. No, that response is the province of old ashamed people.

Gosh! My you’re arrogant! Your personal “of course” doesn’t cover everyone. I’m overgeneralizing here — but I’ve noticed a lot of over generalizing about personal issues on this site — from people whose demographics differ sharply from my own.
Whyte back at you sweetie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[img]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why so secret about age?
Why ashamed to be “old”?

It’s not a secret. It’s not about shame. It’s that it’s rude to ask personal questions — unless there’s an actual need to know the information. There’s a whole list of nosy questions that I probably would not respond to, and part of that is because some seemingly innocuous questions aren’t, and I don’t want the burden of having to gently handle other people’s responses to my circumstances.

So, I’m old enough to say : “Why do you ask?” And my response depends upon their answer. “Good” answers, by my standards, are things like: “I wonder if you remember Ida’s and the Kalorama Rink”. and “My brother went to Wilson too. You might know him.” “Bad”answers are more about curiosity and comparisons. You don’t need to know my age if what you really want to know is what cosmetics I use.

Of course it’s about shame. People only say it’s personal and hide their age when they get older. Every newly minted 18 year and 21 year old will be delighted to tell you their age. 30 year olds may start to feel shame but the vast majority aren’t going to hide their age and say it’s personal information. No, that response is the province of old ashamed people.

Gosh! My you’re arrogant! Your personal “of course” doesn’t cover everyone. I’m overgeneralizing here — but I’ve noticed a lot of over generalizing about personal issues on this site — from people whose demographics differ sharply from my own.
Whyte back at you sweetie.

You admit to overgeneralizing, but think I’m arrogant for overgeneralizing? Some weird hypocritical stuff here.

What’s this “whyte” stuff? Some weird racist sh*te? I’m not white by the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[img]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why so secret about age?
Why ashamed to be “old”?

It’s not a secret. It’s not about shame. It’s that it’s rude to ask personal questions — unless there’s an actual need to know the information. There’s a whole list of nosy questions that I probably would not respond to, and part of that is because some seemingly innocuous questions aren’t, and I don’t want the burden of having to gently handle other people’s responses to my circumstances.

So, I’m old enough to say : “Why do you ask?” And my response depends upon their answer. “Good” answers, by my standards, are things like: “I wonder if you remember Ida’s and the Kalorama Rink”. and “My brother went to Wilson too. You might know him.” “Bad”answers are more about curiosity and comparisons. You don’t need to know my age if what you really want to know is what cosmetics I use.

Of course it’s about shame. People only say it’s personal and hide their age when they get older. Every newly minted 18 year and 21 year old will be delighted to tell you their age. 30 year olds may start to feel shame but the vast majority aren’t going to hide their age and say it’s personal information. No, that response is the province of old ashamed people.

Gosh! My you’re arrogant! Your personal “of course” doesn’t cover everyone. I’m overgeneralizing here — but I’ve noticed a lot of over generalizing about personal issues on this site — from people whose demographics differ sharply from my own.
Whyte back at you sweetie.

You admit to overgeneralizing, but think I’m arrogant for overgeneralizing? Some weird hypocritical stuff here.

What’s this “whyte” stuff? Some weird racist sh*te? I’m not white by the way.

Yep. I pointed out that you were overgeneralizing — and I returned the favor. Wheee.

[Anonymous]

I tell them. Simple.

[Anonymous]

My mom was always so weird about disclosing her age… It makes no sense why to hide it unless you have something to hide about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I tell them. Simple.

I do as well. If they asked my weight or bra size, I'd share that too because it's just factual information. I simply do not care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I tell them my age. I don’t get what the big deal is. It’s like people who speak with an accent (I am one of them) who get huffy when asked where are you from. Not everyone is out to get you.

I think it's rude to ask where people are from.

Only to people who are hyper sensitive and find flaw with every kind comment someone makes to them.

[Anonymous]

People always think I'm 10-15 years younger and then I feel bad when we turn out be the same age.