Women’s equivalent of the Roman Empire
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Anonymous
Winner, winner, chicken dinner! Omg! The amount of time I literally think of this… so much. |
Anonymous
| Modern day descendants of Robber Barons. |
Anonymous
As a suburban mother of 2, I can tell you that the amount of time I think about this is virtually zero. At this stage of life, I'm no longer living in sketchy areas or hanging around with sketchy friends or doing sketchy things. If you think about your personal safety so much, maybe you need to reevaluate where you are and what you are doing. |
Anonymous
I think about her life but also what she would be like now. I feel like she would take a lot of abuse from the younger generation of people for being, essentially, an out of touch rich person who, in all likelihood, would put her foot in her mouth a lot and say stuff that wasn’t necessarily PC, while older generations would defend her for her work with AIDS patients back when most people were afraid of them. Or would she have gone off the deep end and into conspiracy theories on Twitter? Or would she just be trying to live a quiet, private life with a new husband somewhere and staying completely off social media and out of the spotlight? Other things: What if the grunge rock stars (Kurt Cobain, Layne Staley etc.) had lived. Or at least had lived longer. What would their reputations have been. Would they have got to old, bitter, aging rock star status. Would they be trying to make a career comeback, playing with other bands, etc.? Likewise, what would have happened to Heath Ledger’s career if he had lived. Would he have been a big action star in Marvel movies or would he have taken a step back to smaller movies after TDK? |
Anonymous
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Mine is the topic of cross-cultural differences in behavior and immigrant experiences. I find the topic fascinating.
That said, the grown men in my family never think about the Roman Empire. Two think about the new equipment and locations related to their hobbies, and one thinks about cooking. |
Anonymous
You must be a judgy, myopic person. It has nothing to do with sketchy friends or sketchy things. Maybe you just live a very circumscribed, home-bound suburban mom existence. You don't ever think about whether it's too dark to go for a run, whether to wear your earbuds or not, whether you should stay late at work because the building or the metro train will be empty, whether running errands after working out in your gym clothes is going to subject you to random stares or comments, how early you should return from your moms' night out gathering, etc., etc. Not every woman has your limited life. Some women live by themselves, have to work odd hours or night shifts, take public transportation, work at a place where the parking garage is dark and empties after a certain hour, work in male-centric industries prone to harassment... |
Anonymous
Every time you lick your door you are thinking about it. I walk on paths and 2 women have been killed in our area walking in rich, crime free areas. Your lying about never thinking about it. |
Anonymous
| Women don’t have time to think about the Roman empire because they’re too busy carrying a 1000 pound mental load of everyone in their family. Show me a man with free time to think about the Roman empire every day and I’ll show you a woman totally burnt out. |
Anonymous
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https://www.nytimes.com/2023/09/20/arts/roman-empire-women-tiktok.html
^^^Link to NYT article that asked this same exact question. I know there is a paywall, so here is the start of the article... How Often Do Women Think About … ? Unlike men, they definitely aren’t thinking about the Roman Empire. Their ex-best friends, space aliens and Princess Diana are more likely to be on the list. Natasha Vaynblat, a stand-up comedian, has had aliens on her mind for the last week. Consuming her, in fact, she said. “What if aliens, like the stereotypical green guy with big black eyes, are actually just super evolved humans in the future?” Vaynblat, who also writes for NBC’s “The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon,” mused in an interview this week. This, she said, was her Roman Empire. If the term “Roman Empire” sounds odd in this context, that means you are either A. blessedly not as online as others or B. thinking about your own Roman Empire. (We would also accept C. “All Of The Above.”) For the UnRomanized, there has been Discourse online this month about the Roman Empire. It is based on a social media trend across multiple platforms revealing that a lot of men are privately obsessed with the Roman Empire. It has spurred others to ask their male counterparts: “Et tu?” And because the internet is an endless expanse of Content, this has spurred a reverse trend, where women and nonbinary people have wanted to weigh in with their own Roman Empires, loosely defined as the topics one privately contemplates more than anyone realizes. Where is your mind meandering when no one else is around? (In one widely shared post on X, the platform formerly known as Twitter, a user wrote, “Someone said the female version of the Roman Empire is ‘when is the last time you thought about your ex best friend’ and uhhhhhhhhhh.”) Being kidnapped. That video of Tom Holland lip syncing. Princess Diana. All have emerged as possibilities. There isn’t just one topic, according to Aliyah Boston, the W.N.B.A. forward: “I think about just so many different things all at once. I feel like my brain just keeps going.” Though if she had to pick one, Boston said it would be soca, a music genre related to calypso and popular in the Caribbean. ... |
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Anonymous
I'm a dude and have no reference for how much time women "ought" to spend worrying about personal safety. On the one hand, I know that lots of men cause lots of harm to lots of women. On the other hand, I also know that humans are notoriously bad at risk assessment. (They worry more about plane safety than car safety. They worry more about nuclear waste than coal emissions. They worry more about terrorist attacks than heart health.) Ultimately, I guess it's none of my concern. |
Anonymous
When I worked in DC, I occasionally thought about those things, although not to the extent that you seem to. I no longer work in DC, in part because of the significant increase in crime. I plan so that I don't worry about personal safety all the time. If you are in fear of your personal safety daily, then it's time to move. There are lots of places to live, lots of jobs. Make choices. Fix problems, don't just live in fear. We've got one life, this is it. How do you want it to be? |
Anonymous
I have kids, am well past my prime, live in a wealthy neighborhood and dress very conservatively. Most men are not like this but too many are. Some have zero self control for what comes out of their mouths! We all know someone or of someone who has been attacked while going about their day. |
Anonymous
I live in a extremely safe neighborhood if you think your daughter is safe your head is in the sand. |
Anonymous
| Re: That video of Tom Holland, lip-synching, it doesn’t occupy my mind at random times, but I do rewatch it on social media more often than you would think! |