Help me plan food logistics of this 3 day visit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here,

to clarify the bread comment. I bake about 20 loaves a week. Usually one for us, one goes in our freezer and the others are orders that friends and neighbors have requested and paid for. So while baking 4 loaves of bread may seem like a lot to ask, I bake about 10 loaves each day on Sat and Sun anyway.

So when DH said to put out 4-5 different types of bread, you would walk to the freezer and report back on the varieties available for defrosting.

When DH said you couldn't serve charcuterie two days in a row, you would say, "Really? Watch me."

When DH said he was incapable of making an egg salad sandwich, you would say, "Here's a YouTube video. I have confidence in you."

This is priceless. You win the internet today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I’m not interested in the “your husband is terrible” comments. I’ve explained the situation.

Thanks to those of you who gave advice!

LOL imagine asking the internet for advice and then trying to police the responses. Are you new here?

I wasn’t trying to police the responses. Just that the point has been made and didn’t need to keep being reiterated.

-op

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

I’m not interested in the “your husband is terrible” comments. I’ve explained the situation.

Thanks to those of you who gave advice!

LOL imagine asking the internet for advice and then trying to police the responses. Are you new here?

I wasn’t trying to police the responses. Just that the point has been made and didn’t need to keep being reiterated.

-op

Umm, since you keep defending his behavior, I think it does bear repeating.

[Anonymous]

Well, I already stated that he has anxiety and is in therapy for it. Do you really think that is going to change from a few comments on DCUM?


OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I already stated that he has anxiety and is in therapy for it. Do you really think that is going to change from a few comments on DCUM?


OP

No, we are hoping to snap YOU out of dancing to his tune and accommodating his unreasonable requests regardless of whether or not they come from an anxious place. You are acting like these are valid requests for him to make and that you have to work within these boundaries. You don’t. You shouldn’t unless you really really want to spend a ton of time being a caterer. When are you going to actually interact with your guests?

I am not being rude here. I have a child with severe anxiety and a lot of issues around food and I’ve done a lot of work with professionals around this and the more you treat it an anxiety based limit on your life as reasonable/acceptable the more you enforce that they were right to be anxious.

The fact that he’s expecting you to do all of it is the part that takes it from an anxiety issue to a control issue and really unacceptable. You have the choice to speak up and say that is more work than I’m willing to do. And he can work with his therapist to deal with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, I already stated that he has anxiety and is in therapy for it. Do you really think that is going to change from a few comments on DCUM?


OP

No, we are hoping to snap YOU out of dancing to his tune and accommodating his unreasonable requests regardless of whether or not they come from an anxious place. You are acting like these are valid requests for him to make and that you have to work within these boundaries. You don’t. You shouldn’t unless you really really want to spend a ton of time being a caterer. When are you going to actually interact with your guests?

I am not being rude here. I have a child with severe anxiety and a lot of issues around food and I’ve done a lot of work with professionals around this and the more you treat it an anxiety based limit on your life as reasonable/acceptable the more you enforce that they were right to be anxious.

The fact that he’s expecting you to do all of it is the part that takes it from an anxiety issue to a control issue and really unacceptable. You have the choice to speak up and say that is more work than I’m willing to do. And he can work with his therapist to deal with it.

+1 I hope you take this to heart op. You are acting like a doormat in trying to accommodate your husband’s unreasonable expectations and it’s sad to read about.