taking this kid to Harvard is a bad idea, right?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DD, now 8, has wanted to go to the university where her father and I work since she was 5. She wants to be close so she can come home for dinner every day. I suspect things could change in the next ten years. I wouldn't give a lot of weight to a 9 yo's college plans.

Same! My 8YO wants to go to AU so she can be close to home and potentially live at home - she's never seen any of the AU campus, just signs as we drive by during weekend errands. Somehow I think she might change her mind when the time comes.

I don't mean to be rude, but this makes no sense. Your 8 year olds really think they'll still be living with Mommy as an adult? Are you of a culture where this is common? Where are they getting this from?

NP. Most 8 year olds say they want to live at home as young adults. If yours doesn’t, it doesn’t reflect well on your parenting skills or bond with your child, nor your knowledge of pedagogy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD, now 8, has wanted to go to the university where her father and I work since she was 5. She wants to be close so she can come home for dinner every day. I suspect things could change in the next ten years. I wouldn't give a lot of weight to a 9 yo's college plans.

Same! My 8YO wants to go to AU so she can be close to home and potentially live at home - she's never seen any of the AU campus, just signs as we drive by during weekend errands. Somehow I think she might change her mind when the time comes.

I don't mean to be rude, but this makes no sense. Your 8 year olds really think they'll still be living with Mommy as an adult? Are you of a culture where this is common? Where are they getting this from?

NP. Most 8 year olds say they want to live at home as young adults. If yours doesn’t, it doesn’t reflect well on your parenting skills or bond with your child, nor your knowledge of pedagogy.

My kid realizes I don't live with my parents. He is able to make the connection that he will not, either. This isn't complicated.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD, now 8, has wanted to go to the university where her father and I work since she was 5. She wants to be close so she can come home for dinner every day. I suspect things could change in the next ten years. I wouldn't give a lot of weight to a 9 yo's college plans.

Same! My 8YO wants to go to AU so she can be close to home and potentially live at home - she's never seen any of the AU campus, just signs as we drive by during weekend errands. Somehow I think she might change her mind when the time comes.

I don't mean to be rude, but this makes no sense. Your 8 year olds really think they'll still be living with Mommy as an adult? Are you of a culture where this is common? Where are they getting this from?

NP. Most 8 year olds say they want to live at home as young adults. If yours doesn’t, it doesn’t reflect well on your parenting skills or bond with your child, nor your knowledge of pedagogy.

Yeah, that's totally a thing and a really normal comment. You're not a psycho at all, FYI.

It's fine if your 8 year old talks about living with you as an adult. It's fine if your 8 year old says they are going to live in NYC or attend Stanford. It's all fine. None of this means anyone's parenting is concerning.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD, now 8, has wanted to go to the university where her father and I work since she was 5. She wants to be close so she can come home for dinner every day. I suspect things could change in the next ten years. I wouldn't give a lot of weight to a 9 yo's college plans.

Same! My 8YO wants to go to AU so she can be close to home and potentially live at home - she's never seen any of the AU campus, just signs as we drive by during weekend errands. Somehow I think she might change her mind when the time comes.

I don't mean to be rude, but this makes no sense. Your 8 year olds really think they'll still be living with Mommy as an adult? Are you of a culture where this is common? Where are they getting this from?

NP. Most 8 year olds say they want to live at home as young adults. If yours doesn’t, it doesn’t reflect well on your parenting skills or bond with your child, nor your knowledge of pedagogy.

My kid realizes I don't live with my parents. He is able to make the connection that he will not, either. This isn't complicated.

Huh, I find that people who say that have simple thinking.

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He’s 9. When I was 11 my family went on vacation to DC / Monticello / Williamsburg and I got my heart set on William and Mary. I thought it was the most beautiful campus I had ever seen.

I went to engineering school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD, now 8, has wanted to go to the university where her father and I work since she was 5. She wants to be close so she can come home for dinner every day. I suspect things could change in the next ten years. I wouldn't give a lot of weight to a 9 yo's college plans.

Same! My 8YO wants to go to AU so she can be close to home and potentially live at home - she's never seen any of the AU campus, just signs as we drive by during weekend errands. Somehow I think she might change her mind when the time comes.

I don't mean to be rude, but this makes no sense. Your 8 year olds really think they'll still be living with Mommy as an adult? Are you of a culture where this is common? Where are they getting this from?

NP. Most 8 year olds say they want to live at home as young adults. If yours doesn’t, it doesn’t reflect well on your parenting skills or bond with your child, nor your knowledge of pedagogy.

My kid realizes I don't live with my parents. He is able to make the connection that he will not, either. This isn't complicated.

Huh, I find that people who say that have simple thinking.

My son is 8 and he thinks he will go to American, Georgetown, or GW. Not because he thinks he will live at home, but because he thinks he will drop off his laundry or ask us to run errands for him.
I went to college 45 minutes from where I grew up. My husband was 90 min from home and could take Amtrak. Neither of us ever saw our parents during the semester or took home laundry outside of school breaks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD, now 8, has wanted to go to the university where her father and I work since she was 5. She wants to be close so she can come home for dinner every day. I suspect things could change in the next ten years. I wouldn't give a lot of weight to a 9 yo's college plans.

Same! My 8YO wants to go to AU so she can be close to home and potentially live at home - she's never seen any of the AU campus, just signs as we drive by during weekend errands. Somehow I think she might change her mind when the time comes.

I don't mean to be rude, but this makes no sense. Your 8 year olds really think they'll still be living with Mommy as an adult? Are you of a culture where this is common? Where are they getting this from?

NP. Most 8 year olds say they want to live at home as young adults. If yours doesn’t, it doesn’t reflect well on your parenting skills or bond with your child, nor your knowledge of pedagogy.

My kid realizes I don't live with my parents. He is able to make the connection that he will not, either. This isn't complicated.

Huh, I find that people who say that have simple thinking.

At least my kid knows adults don't live with their parents

[Anonymous]

Of all the things one could do with kids in the Boston area, walking around the Harvard campus is pretty low on the list.