Actually I considered that maybe you were actually asking what DEIA was, because your response was so obnoxious I couldn’t imagine you meant it that way. If you truly think DEIA doesn’t “discriminate” based on race, you don’t understand why it exists. That doesn’t mean I’m against it. In fact, I’ve participated for many years in activities to engage it in my work environment. But it DOES discriminate. That’s the whole point of it. |
| This sounds like someone who left my office six months ago. We were wondering how long it would take for their lack of effort, professionalism, etc. to be discovered. Said person was one of the worst co-workers ever. We were so happy when said person left. Total narcissist. |
Well if you want honesty - I think you and your colleagues are set in our ways, have worked with each other for a while, and are having a hard time dealing with adjusting to having someone new to your group. It's tough when someone completely new joins a group of people who have been working together for a while and have been set in their ways. Sometimes all it takes is a person formats something incorrectly, doesn't use the correct word in a email, or apparently doesn't pick up on the undercurrent of company culture right away and then everything the person does is just bad. Even when it isn't. So how about you go to work tomorrow and start the day accepting that you and your colleagues are struggling and you and your colleagues might need support during this transition. Maybe there is some kind of facilitator that can come in and help you. And if the thought of requesting that embarrasses you or sparks an immediate no way! then you better be willing to do something yourself. You think she is focusing on things that aren't her work? She just joined your employer 6 months ago. Did you ever think she is trying to learn all she can about all the various areas of the business so she can better understand the role of your team and her work into the larger organization? It's not unreasonable for a new employee to do that. Monthly check - ins aren't working? How about casual check - ins once a week? Taking too much personal time during work hours? Please. Don't even pretend that you and your colleagues haven't done the same in the past and do it on occasion now and will do it in the future. (coming in for team meetings/executive engagement) - what does that even mean? Are employees required to come in for team meetings? Or is it something that you just think employees should do? Maybe the executive engagement isn't all that engaging or maybe it is something your conditioned to do but it's really not making any difference. She is looking from the outside in and it's easier to see worthless practices from that perspective. |
Exactly this - it creates a certain narrative about the person in your head and everything else becomes confirmation bias. She doesn't sound like a slacker if she's getting involved in other people's work. Maybe it's more like roles and boundaries are unclear. |
I agree with you. About 2 years ago I joined a very small company where the most junior person was with them for 8 years. I tried everything I could to do my job correctly, but asking clarifying question about their existing process was perceived as "questioning their ways of doing things" and that "I don't believe in the process". I departed heart broken, but I know it wasn't fully on me. |
Oh ffs. |
| That you Matt? |
Excellent point. You do not want to create a hostile work environment. |
DP That may be true, but it's irrelevant here since OP said she was the best candidate they interviewed. |
OP believed that. She also said the rest of the team wanted to hold off on the hire, which could be another way of saying “this candidate ain’t it.” |
| Monthly check-ins are useless. Less than useless. I can’t think of a time when I wanted to tell my manager something and was like “ok, I’m fine waiting a month” |
| I also love how you slipped in the “she’s a POC” so that the Karens around here could latch onto that. |
The people latching on are you and your like. |
Agree. Perhaps OP is being vague to keep out identifying facts, but the "complaint" about the new hire, as written, barely seems like a legitimate complaint at all. It sounds like you are basically trying to get rid of her because you don't like her ("bad fit") and realize that is a bad look given she's a POC. |
Agree. When a person is failing at the job, it's just called managing. Employee is the problem, manager is the solution. Micromanaging is a negative term that implies unnecessary guidance/interference with someone who is already doing an excellent job and doesn't need interference and make-work. Micromanaging usually comes from two types of managers: 1) type A/OCD control freaks; 2) someone in over their head who doesn't know the job well enough to report up, so is trying to learn by micromanaging strong performers. Both are toxic managers. Manager is the problem, strong employee is going to quit. |