If your kid got into an Ivy as an athletic recruit would you suck up the cost and send them?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it really depends on the kid. Is your kid intellectual? If so, I’d spring for the Ivy because she will be happier with the social peer group and less bored with classes. But if not, she might be happier with the in state school. Just because she can get into the Ivy because of the sport doesn’t mean it will be a good fit for her. If she feels out of place with the peer group or in the classes, she might be miserable.

Yes, she’s intellectual and smart but likely wouldn’t be able able to get into Ivy without being recruited. She’s not Uber smart and other than excelling at her sport, doesn’t have any other ‘hooks or standouts’.

Damn what sport?

Field hockey

[Anonymous]

I might try the Ivy, IF she actually likes the school AND it's not too much of a financial hardship. Since there is no athletic scholarship, there would be no penalty if she decided later not to play, correct?

[Anonymous]

DD has a lot of interested from several Ivys for her sport. It’s highly likely that she’ll end up with a couple offers to play.

This is delusional. A braggart rich mom in our social circle was telling everyone her daughter — who was actually very talented at a particular sport — had "committed" to a specific top Ivy in 9th grade. She and the daughter continued this until summer after 11th. Then when seniors were making hard commitments to colleges the daughter announced was headed to a bottom tier (academically and athletically) D1 college. The daughter spent a year at the bottom tier D1, then transferred to some random middle of nowhere private college nobody had ever heard of.

Truth is your all A's and good at a sport kid is a dime a dozen. Rich colleges don't REALLY care about sports, they use the athletic rosters as a scheme to pipeline super wealthy kids and increase diversity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

DD has a lot of interested from several Ivys for her sport. It’s highly likely that she’ll end up with a couple offers to play.

This is delusional. A braggart rich mom in our social circle was telling everyone her daughter — who was actually very talented at a particular sport — had "committed" to a specific top Ivy in 9th grade. She and the daughter continued this until summer after 11th. Then when seniors were making hard commitments to colleges the daughter announced was headed to a bottom tier (academically and athletically) D1 college. The daughter spent a year at the bottom tier D1, then transferred to some random middle of nowhere private college nobody had ever heard of.

Truth is your all A's and good at a sport kid is a dime a dozen. Rich colleges don't REALLY care about sports, they use the athletic rosters as a scheme to pipeline super wealthy kids and increase diversity.

You seem angry baby boo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

DD has a lot of interested from several Ivys for her sport. It’s highly likely that she’ll end up with a couple offers to play.

This is delusional. A braggart rich mom in our social circle was telling everyone her daughter — who was actually very talented at a particular sport — had "committed" to a specific top Ivy in 9th grade. She and the daughter continued this until summer after 11th. Then when seniors were making hard commitments to colleges the daughter announced was headed to a bottom tier (academically and athletically) D1 college. The daughter spent a year at the bottom tier D1, then transferred to some random middle of nowhere private college nobody had ever heard of.

Truth is your all A's and good at a sport kid is a dime a dozen. Rich colleges don't REALLY care about sports, they use the athletic rosters as a scheme to pipeline super wealthy kids and increase diversity.

Ok..this is an anonymous forum, so we'll never know either way. Who cares?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

DD has a lot of interested from several Ivys for her sport. It’s highly likely that she’ll end up with a couple offers to play.

This is delusional. A braggart rich mom in our social circle was telling everyone her daughter — who was actually very talented at a particular sport — had "committed" to a specific top Ivy in 9th grade. She and the daughter continued this until summer after 11th. Then when seniors were making hard commitments to colleges the daughter announced was headed to a bottom tier (academically and athletically) D1 college. The daughter spent a year at the bottom tier D1, then transferred to some random middle of nowhere private college nobody had ever heard of.

Truth is your all A's and good at a sport kid is a dime a dozen. Rich colleges don't REALLY care about sports, they use the athletic rosters as a scheme to pipeline super wealthy kids and increase diversity.

Or, far more realistically, this child was a standout player in 9th grade and not so much by 11th. If you have kids in high level sports around here, you will see that scores of MC and UMC kids do in fact end up being recruited to Ivies and similar level schools with no hooks other than their sports talent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it really depends on the kid. Is your kid intellectual? If so, I’d spring for the Ivy because she will be happier with the social peer group and less bored with classes. But if not, she might be happier with the in state school. Just because she can get into the Ivy because of the sport doesn’t mean it will be a good fit for her. If she feels out of place with the peer group or in the classes, she might be miserable.

Yes, she’s intellectual and smart but likely wouldn’t be able able to get into Ivy without being recruited. She’s not Uber smart and other than excelling at her sport, doesn’t have any other ‘hooks or standouts’.

No one considers ivy athletes as "intellectuals." Their average SAT scores hover around 1250.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it really depends on the kid. Is your kid intellectual? If so, I’d spring for the Ivy because she will be happier with the social peer group and less bored with classes. But if not, she might be happier with the in state school. Just because she can get into the Ivy because of the sport doesn’t mean it will be a good fit for her. If she feels out of place with the peer group or in the classes, she might be miserable.

Yes, she’s intellectual and smart but likely wouldn’t be able able to get into Ivy without being recruited. She’s not Uber smart and other than excelling at her sport, doesn’t have any other ‘hooks or standouts’.

No one considers ivy athletes as "intellectuals." Their average SAT scores hover around 1250.

Lolz you seem sour and don’t lump all athletes together

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it really depends on the kid. Is your kid intellectual? If so, I’d spring for the Ivy because she will be happier with the social peer group and less bored with classes. But if not, she might be happier with the in state school. Just because she can get into the Ivy because of the sport doesn’t mean it will be a good fit for her. If she feels out of place with the peer group or in the classes, she might be miserable.

Yes, she’s intellectual and smart but likely wouldn’t be able able to get into Ivy without being recruited. She’s not Uber smart and other than excelling at her sport, doesn’t have any other ‘hooks or standouts’.

No one considers ivy athletes as "intellectuals." Their average SAT scores hover around 1250.

This is not close to true. There is an index system that ensures that the average scores for all but football are in line with those of the non-athletes attending the school. 1250 is the floor, and there will be a couple kids max in that range whose scores are blanched by teammates with perfect or near-perfect scores.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it really depends on the kid. Is your kid intellectual? If so, I’d spring for the Ivy because she will be happier with the social peer group and less bored with classes. But if not, she might be happier with the in state school. Just because she can get into the Ivy because of the sport doesn’t mean it will be a good fit for her. If she feels out of place with the peer group or in the classes, she might be miserable.

Yes, she’s intellectual and smart but likely wouldn’t be able able to get into Ivy without being recruited. She’s not Uber smart and other than excelling at her sport, doesn’t have any other ‘hooks or standouts’.

No one considers ivy athletes as "intellectuals." Their average SAT scores hover around 1250.

This is not close to true. There is an index system that ensures that the average scores for all but football are in line with those of the non-athletes attending the school. 1250 is the floor, and there will be a couple kids max in that range whose scores are blanched by teammates with perfect or near-perfect scores.

Haters the lot oh them. Thank you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it really depends on the kid. Is your kid intellectual? If so, I’d spring for the Ivy because she will be happier with the social peer group and less bored with classes. But if not, she might be happier with the in state school. Just because she can get into the Ivy because of the sport doesn’t mean it will be a good fit for her. If she feels out of place with the peer group or in the classes, she might be miserable.

Yes, she’s intellectual and smart but likely wouldn’t be able able to get into Ivy without being recruited. She’s not Uber smart and other than excelling at her sport, doesn’t have any other ‘hooks or standouts’.

Damn what sport?

Field hockey

I also know a field hockey kid who went to an Ivy for her sport. No idea how her grades were. I'd recommend going for it. Prestige factor and alumni networks count for a lot, especially if she wants to do business/finance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

DD has a lot of interested from several Ivys for her sport. It’s highly likely that she’ll end up with a couple offers to play.

This is delusional. A braggart rich mom in our social circle was telling everyone her daughter — who was actually very talented at a particular sport — had "committed" to a specific top Ivy in 9th grade. She and the daughter continued this until summer after 11th. Then when seniors were making hard commitments to colleges the daughter announced was headed to a bottom tier (academically and athletically) D1 college. The daughter spent a year at the bottom tier D1, then transferred to some random middle of nowhere private college nobody had ever heard of.

Truth is your all A's and good at a sport kid is a dime a dozen. Rich colleges don't REALLY care about sports, they use the athletic rosters as a scheme to pipeline super wealthy kids and increase diversity.

Or, far more realistically, this child was a standout player in 9th grade and not so much by 11th. If you have kids in high level sports around here, you will see that scores of MC and UMC kids do in fact end up being recruited to Ivies and similar level schools with no hooks other than their sports talent.

I didn't notice any regression in her talent. Far more likely is there is no such thing as an "offer" or "commitment" to play a sport at an Ivy in 9th grade. Same as the losers who make "visits" to top 10 colleges — and make sure to broadcast this on Facebook — as if your kid can just pick which <5% acceptance rate college they want to go to. It's so delusional and cringe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it really depends on the kid. Is your kid intellectual? If so, I’d spring for the Ivy because she will be happier with the social peer group and less bored with classes. But if not, she might be happier with the in state school. Just because she can get into the Ivy because of the sport doesn’t mean it will be a good fit for her. If she feels out of place with the peer group or in the classes, she might be miserable.

Yes, she’s intellectual and smart but likely wouldn’t be able able to get into Ivy without being recruited. She’s not Uber smart and other than excelling at her sport, doesn’t have any other ‘hooks or standouts’.

No one considers ivy athletes as "intellectuals." Their average SAT scores hover around 1250.

Without being rude, this is kind of the point, OP. Your daughter is not the only person at the college being recruited for athletics (or whatever other hook the college feels they need in a given year). Think about it -- if her academics are enough, she's not the only one - someone else at the same academic level is "enough" too. It is a myth that every kid at these schools is a super intellect; some are, some are like your daughter. She'll fit right in and be fine, otherwise they wouldn't accept her. Go for it!

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Not if you or she has to go into debt.

Yes, if you can save enough over the four years to cover the costs (but just prefer not to).

[Anonymous]

Your husband is a moron