We finally decided we are moving to adoption

[Anonymous]

I will miss this board! 4 miscarriages and a 21 week stillborn later and we just can't do it anymore! Applied for our home study last night. I know this road has lots of bumps and turmoil too but Im hoping we may strike some more luck! Thanks to everyone for helping me along this journey and I wish us all the best and peace in our hearts!

[Anonymous]

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Good luck, OP.

[Anonymous]

Best wishes, op!!

[Anonymous]

Good luck, OP! I hope it goes much smoother, as it sounds like you've been through quite a lot.

We are considering this route also. Where does one even start? We would be totally at square 1 with zero knowledge of resources, the process, etc. I have not looked to see if there is another board more appropriate for this advice, but if you could throw out a few "getting started" tips or links, I would be grateful.

[Anonymous]

Good luck, OP! And best wishes as you head on this next phase.

To the PP who asked about adoption information, I found the Barker Foundation's site and informational sessions immensely helpful and inclusive of different options for bringing a child into your family. Link below:

http://www.barkeradoptionfoundation.org/

[Anonymous]

Good luck, OP! I am an adult adoptee who also adopted after treatments didn't work. Adoption has its roots in loss, but it's brought such joy and love to my life in more than one way.

[Anonymous]

Good Luck OP. We adopted our baby boy in March of 2017 after 1 miscarriage and 9 rounds of failed IVF. He is a joy and we couldn't be happier.

[Anonymous]

Good luck OP!
My two awesome kids were adopted after 3 rounds of failed IVF. My only regret is that we wasted so much time and money on infertility treatments.

[Anonymous]

Good luck OP! I hope a year or two from now you will have the family you dream of, and a child who was absolutely meant to be yours.

[Anonymous]

Good luck, OP! We have adopted two from the Barker international program and we too only regret that we wasted so much time, effort, and money on infertility treatments. Our daughters are 10 and 6 now and we love them to pieces!

[Anonymous]

I went to a seminar over ten years ago and one thing that resonated with me is the woman looking me straight in the eye and saying - the thing about adoption is that you WILL have a baby. I came home with healthy newborn less than 6 months later and his little brother 2 years after that. I know it’s not successful for everyone but I don’t know anyone personally who completed home study and never got matched. Best of luck.

[Anonymous]

11:57 adult adoptee here. Don’t dwell too much on the expense and time spent on treatments. Look at it this way- if you had stopped earlier, your children probably wouldn’t have been referred to you. Your timeframe had no bearing on their adoption timeline and they would have gone to another family. You would have a different child now. Would you love that child? Of course. But I bet you can’t imagine your child with another family!