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[Post New]07/04/2018 03:15
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Anonymous
Did you tell the other person you were married right away? How did you meet?
[Post New]07/04/2018 05:57
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Anonymous
Yes. During the course of earlier conversations.
[Post New]07/04/2018 08:14
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Anonymous
He knew I was married because he met me & my husband at the same time. I knew he was married because he kept bringing his wife up in conversation. Which ... irritated me at the time. In hindsight, I know why it irritated me: The chemistry was already there, I already wanted his attention. And he felt it, too. He was reminding himself of his wife. I'M MARRIED! I'M MARRIED! I'M MARRIED! Too bad it didn't sink in. Within 3-4 months it was clear to both of us that something was going to happen.
[Post New]07/04/2018 08:21
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:He knew I was married because he met me & my husband at the same time. I knew he was married because he kept bringing his wife up in conversation. Which ... irritated me at the time. In hindsight, I know why it irritated me: The chemistry was already there, I already wanted his attention. And he felt it, too. He was reminding himself of his wife. I'M MARRIED! I'M MARRIED! I'M MARRIED! Too bad it didn't sink in. Within 3-4 months it was clear to both of us that something was going to happen.


How do you get over the hump of both of you being married, to something more happening? The first time there was physical activity was there any fear other person might want to be only platonic?
[Post New]07/04/2018 08:36
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Anonymous
Met at work...Both sides knew the marital status of the other side. But yes, like the other pp said, the attraction and chemistry was there and it was unstoppable. When the chance arised we slept together.
[Post New]07/04/2018 08:45
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Anonymous
Yes. Met here.
[Post New]07/04/2018 09:49
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He knew I was married because he met me & my husband at the same time. I knew he was married because he kept bringing his wife up in conversation. Which ... irritated me at the time. In hindsight, I know why it irritated me: The chemistry was already there, I already wanted his attention. And he felt it, too. He was reminding himself of his wife. I'M MARRIED! I'M MARRIED! I'M MARRIED! Too bad it didn't sink in. Within 3-4 months it was clear to both of us that something was going to happen.


How do you get over the hump of both of you being married, to something more happening? The first time there was physical activity was there any fear other person might want to be only platonic?


We talked about it. Once I knew he felt the same way I felt (I was 100% positive, I had no doubt in my mind at all) I told him how I felt. Even so, maybe even more so, knowing he liked me too scared the shit out of me. So the next time it was appropriate, I told him how I felt, in a jokey, casual way. Even though I knew he felt the same it isn't the same as knowing he wants to take the next step. I told him over the phone, actually. He didn't tell me how he felt right away, he left me hanging to tell me in person. But, it wasn't so bad, since I knew he felt the same way. Anyway, we talked about it. Blah blah blah. We were not sure if we were going to have an affair or not. But then he initiated physical contact (kissing) which was amazing, and that went on for a bit, and we were getting more intimate and then we talked about sex and safe sex and .... no I had no worries at all these he only wanted to be my friend.

[Post New]07/04/2018 09:56
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Met at work...Both sides knew the marital status of the other side. But yes, like the other pp said, the attraction and chemistry was there and it was unstoppable. When the chance arised we slept together.


Disgusting.
[Post New]07/04/2018 09:57
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Anonymous
First time no which was a big mistake. The next one yes and I was that annoying person who talked about my wife occasionally so my AP knew I had no desire to leave her.
[Post New]07/04/2018 10:42
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Anonymous
Lots of APs with their wives today.

Lots of pissed women.
[Post New]07/04/2018 11:16
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Anonymous
Yes they knew and I know they are. We just don’t bring it up. Kids sometimes, spouses not really.

We’re both in sexless marriages although she has sex sometimes with her husband and and hates it. I don’t receive any affection from my DW so there’s that.
[Post New]07/04/2018 11:19
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Anonymous
Yes - we met on Ashley Madison
[Post New]07/04/2018 11:25
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Met at work...Both sides knew the marital status of the other side. But yes, like the other pp said, the attraction and chemistry was there and it was unstoppable. When the chance arised we slept together.


Disgusting.


I know. It’s arose. I was saddened by that mistake too.
[Post New]07/04/2018 12:02
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Yes - we met on Ashley Madison



Who knew - I thought they were all fake profiles.
[Post New]07/04/2018 12:09
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Met at work...Both sides knew the marital status of the other side. But yes, like the other pp said, the attraction and chemistry was there and it was unstoppable. When the chance arised we slept together.


Disgusting.


I know. It’s arose. I was saddened by that mistake too.


Let me love you for that awesome response.
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