Never coming out

[Anonymous]

I've been in a hetero marriage for decades and have no plans of ever coming out. Over the course of my long marriage I've probably fallen in same sex love maybe 5 times and each time just suffered through it and gotten over it. This is my life. And I'm ok with it.

[Anonymous]

Well if you’re writing about it on DCUM maybe you aren’t at peace with it.

[Anonymous]

I feel sad for you. But this was apparently my great grandmas life as well.

I have a good friend who is only out to his friends. He says he’ll come out fully when his very religious parents pass away. I find that incredibly sad as well. But to each their own.

[Anonymous]

Why do you choose to live like this (closeted)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you choose to live like this (closeted)?

It’s too late for me. Plus I’m a coward.

[Anonymous]

I think at a minimum you need to tell your spouse and let them decide if that's the marriage they want to be in

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think at a minimum you need to tell your spouse and let them decide if that's the marriage they want to be in

My spouse knows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think at a minimum you need to tell your spouse and let them decide if that's the marriage they want to be in

My spouse knows.

ok great, live your life!

[Anonymous]

Different people want different things out of relationships. Relationships can be sexual, romantic, economic, social, and familial or just some of these. Or even just one.

I really need sexual fulfillment/gratification to feel healthy. If I was only attracted to women, I couldn’t be healthy married to a man. However, if I was asexual, it wouldn’t be an issue. Maybe OP is happy. The important thing is to have choices. The choice to come out or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been in a hetero marriage for decades and have no plans of ever coming out. Over the course of my long marriage I've probably fallen in same sex love maybe 5 times and each time just suffered through it and gotten over it. This is my life. And I'm ok with it.

Just like married heterosexuals fall for other people they meet without acting on it. Sounds like you value your spouse and your family life, OP. Good for you!

[Anonymous]

So did you have a question?
Are you happy with your spouse?

I am Gay and married and have been attracted to other people. That is not the same as being in love though.

[Anonymous]

Did you ever have a same sex relationship before you got married? Have you ever had sex with with the gender you are attracted to? How old are you? How long have you been married? Do you have kids?