Decided to be single, and I may not return

[Anonymous]

The strangest thing has happened to me since I decided - at the new year - to spend the year alone. I think I might prefer being single. I only have to worry about my job, needs, priorities, and responsibilities. I don't have to discuss finances or logistics. I have a lot of energy, feel happy, and am having fun. Is this weird? I did not expect my experiment to go this way.

[Anonymous]

You probably decided you need a break because you choose partners poorly. Now that you’re single, you’re free from your headaches. It’s good that your happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You probably decided you need a break because you choose partners poorly. Now that you’re single, you’re free from your headaches. It’s good that your happy.

I certainly did. I exclusively dated emotionally unavailable drunks who were good in bed. It's tough (for me) to imagine a relationship being a source of joy rather than exhaustion.

[Anonymous]

Being single is awesome. Enjoy it for now ... see how you feel next year. I've been married for 2 years and I love my husband (he's amazing) but I miss the single life sometimes, so easy and simple and carefree.

[Anonymous]

I have been single a long time after being w/true jerks.

You know the drill ->> Liars, cheaters, abusers, = the whole gamut.
The stress those bad relationships put on me was so unhealthy both physically + emotionally.
So relieved to be single!!

• I can lay in bed all day watching movies, reading, surfing the ‘net, etc. w/out hearing someone else complain that I am being a lazy sloth, etc.
So what if I want to spend my day off doing absolutely NOTHING?!
I should be able to w/out being critiqued over it.

• I get the T.V. to myself, only have myself to clean up after & I can leave dirty dishes in the sink.

• Best of all, I have the ability to do what I want, when I want, wherever I want + w/whomever I want.
I don’t need to feel guilty over not spending enough time w/my partner.

I have never been happier than now that I am single.
No wasting precious time and/or energy on what my partner is doing, or crying my eyes out over him hurting me for the millionth time.
Not having to deal w/humiliation, degradation or hurtful betrayals.

There is no missing puzzle piece in my life now and that sustains me well at this time.

[Anonymous]

Congratulations to you for finding your happiness! I'm happily married for 20+ years but have no doubt I could also have remained single and been happy! Enjoy it!

[Anonymous]

I have never been happier than now that I am single.
No wasting precious time and/or energy on what my partner is doing, or crying my eyes out over him hurting me for the millionth time.
Not having to deal w/humiliation, degradation or hurtful betrayals.

There is no missing puzzle piece in my life now and that sustains me well at this time.

If the last piece to complete you in your life is a relationship forum, I assume there is a missing piece still.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The strangest thing has happened to me since I decided - at the new year - to spend the year alone. I think I might prefer being single. I only have to worry about my job, needs, priorities, and responsibilities. I don't have to discuss finances or logistics. I have a lot of energy, feel happy, and am having fun. Is this weird? I did not expect my experiment to go this way.

Duh.

You cut out most of family life's responsibilities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You probably decided you need a break because you choose partners poorly. Now that you’re single, you’re free from your headaches. It’s good that your happy.

I certainly did. I exclusively dated emotionally unavailable drunks who were good in bed. It's tough (for me) to imagine a relationship being a source of joy rather than exhaustion.

I had a bad picker and made some bad choices in partners, so I stayed single long enough to figure out what REALLY mattered to me in a partner, what I was looking for, and how to figure out who fit the bill/who didn't. Now I'm with a wonderful person who makes my life better, not harder.

I suggest you stay single long enough to figure out what MATTERS to you in a partner, and how to determine whether a person fits the bill or not. It makes a huge difference when you have a good partner. I used to feel the same as the bold, but not all relationships are like that.

[Anonymous]

I stayed single, and enjoyed it, until I found someone who I enjoyed more than being single. That was my criteria--being single is awesome, he had to be more than awesome.

[Anonymous]

I've been married for a long time, but think you should do whatever makes you happy. At my age I don't see many happy marriages.

You do avoid a lot of obligations. It's a personal choice.

[Anonymous]

I've decided to be rich, someone start a gofundme for mr.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I have never been happier than now that I am single.
No wasting precious time and/or energy on what my partner is doing, or crying my eyes out over him hurting me for the millionth time.
Not having to deal w/humiliation, degradation or hurtful betrayals.

There is no missing puzzle piece in my life now and that sustains me well at this time.

If the last piece to complete you in your life is a relationship forum, I assume there is a missing piece still.

Where did pp say a relationship forum was the last piece to complete her life? It’s possible pp happened to come across this discussion in Recent Topics and decided to respond since it’s relevant to her, she doesn’t have to be hanging around the Relationships forum to see it.

[Anonymous]

If you are in a lousy relationship being single is great. If you are in a great relationship you have no desire to be single. It's that simple.

[Anonymous]

^ I wholeheartedly agree with 14:42.

Signed,
Anonymous / Divorcing / Late-30s / Single / WAHM