Announcing the pregnancy is exciting...and terrifying!

[Anonymous]

I'm just about 12 weeks, and we've just started telling some of our close friends and less-close family members about the pregnancy. Why do I feel so torn about announcing this news? I am thrilled to be pregnant, and I've been dying to let the cat out of the bag. But now that we're actually in a "safe" time to tell people...I want to keep it a secret just a while longer. Anyone else feel this way?

[Anonymous]

YES! I felt this way. I had been through a miscarriage, so I think that was the biggest factor in my reluctence to share the news. But even at 13/14 weeks I was still uncomfortable discussing details of the pregnancy. Now, when family/friends ask about the pregnancy, I just give a quick "I'm doing great, thanks" reply and I think people have caught on and don't expect to sit and chat pregnancy with me. For some odd reason, I feel -- well, pressure -- from everyone. I don't know why, but I do. I also feel like I'm in a fishbowl. Are you one of the first in your family or of your friends to be pregnant? That could have something to do with it.

[Anonymous]

Yes--definitely! I am also 12 weeks and we're starting to tell people but it makes me so nervous. We did IVF so I sort of have this constant feeling like it's not going to work (even though it obviously already did!). But I'm so sick already of not telling people and holding it in! It is a very strange feeling of wanting to tell but being sort of scared to.