S/O men, if he cheated before will he cheat after?

[Anonymous]

I recently found out my fiance of a year cheated on me a few times before we were engaged with an ex-girlfriend. He doesn't know I know, but do you think he can be faithful now that we are engaged or when we are married?

[Anonymous]

No. It's so easy to have the wishful thinking, of course you want to move forward, but no. Even if let's say every other woman snubbed him for the rest of time - his issues and lack of care/respect/ability to handle life will come out in other ways. You want to be married to a mature adult, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently found out my fiance of a year cheated on me a few times before we were engaged with an ex-girlfriend. He doesn't know I know, but do you think he can be faithful now that we are engaged or when we are married?

If my friends track record holds; no. He pulled that shit years before they married. 8 years later after that ex was still the first one to pick him up.

NO.

[Anonymous]

I cheated on my now-husband while we were dating a couple of times with my ex-boyfriend. Twenty years of marriage and I have never cheated.
- woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently found out my fiance of a year cheated on me a few times before we were engaged with an ex-girlfriend. He doesn't know I know, but do you think he can be faithful now that we are engaged or when we are married?

If he does it with you, he'll do it to you. Yes. He is a cheater. Give him a swift kick to the curb. Do not waste your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cheated on my now-husband while we were dating a couple of times with my ex-boyfriend. Twenty years of marriage and I have never cheated.
- woman

Liar.

[Anonymous]

If you weren’t even engaged how was it cheating?

[Anonymous]

The only way you know he won’t do it again is if you confront him. I cheated. I was busted. I almost lost it all. Married 10 years and haven’t cheated and don’t think about it. I can’t say that had I not been busted I would still cheat, but
“Getting away with it” will give you ideas

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cheated on my now-husband while we were dating a couple of times with my ex-boyfriend. Twenty years of marriage and I have never cheated.
- woman

Liar.

I believe her. People grow up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you weren’t even engaged how was it cheating?

You don’t have to be engaged to be in a monogamous relationship.

[Anonymous]

Highly doubtful. Has he cheated in prior relationships? Is he morally ambiguous in other areas? Does he lie to other friends?

[Anonymous]

Nope! Especially, since he hasn't even come clean about his cheating to you. Do not marry him. End it.

[Anonymous]

When people show you who they are, believe them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cheated on my now-husband while we were dating a couple of times with my ex-boyfriend. Twenty years of marriage and I have never cheated.
- woman

Liar.

I believe her. People grow up

I believe her too and I am a woman. There are a lot of bitter hags on this board.

But I would be careful. I’m not saying he can’t change or be faithful, I would just be more cautious than if this was a situation where you know he’s cheated on others before. Or you started as the other woman. I don’t subscribe to the theory of “if he did it with you he’ll do it to you.” I’ve seen plenty of relationships where the person may have started as an other woman (whether anyone involved was married or just in a relationship) but their relationship turned out to be happy and fine. I do think people on this board like to convince myself that the person who wronged them will also be wronged but it’s simply not always the case.

Just be cautious. It could work.

[Anonymous]

A cheater cheats.